Hi shazia and minnie-mouse. Welcome from me too 
hi,thanks for your welcome,its taking me a while to work out this site and find and post comments
hi thank you for your welcome,yes we are both ok today,it is nice to be able to write a few things down and know other people are there to listen and maybe offer words of advice
Hello from me too....
Welcome spreaderone, I have only been on the boards very sporadically recently due to other website activities, however look forward to chatting on other threads.
Hi all ash From north lincs been divorced since 2009 i have two lads 12 and 18 and have shared care i have the youngest every other weekend. i have moved to a new house every time me and my Ex speak she makes threats and is abusive on the phone we only communicate by text now. last week end i moved to a new address she sent me a text demanding my new address she dose not drop of the child or pick him up i have to do every thing. she has never told me when she takes him out of the country on holiday or have had any emergency contact details for him when out of the uk she is now insisting she must know the address all of the relevant people school and clubs etc. have new address why should she she has my mobile number same number for 12 years. she has a new partner and has made threat in the past to get him to come and see me i don't want her to have the details we are divorced and have been since 2009. she goes to her new partners every other weekend and will not give me a contact address there.
hope you can help as im worried she will stop me from seeing my lad at the weekends
thanks ash
Hi ash224w, I have just responded to you in your other thread in the Dad forum - Just for Dads. Look forward to chatting more.
Welcome to you ash...
Hello ash224w
Welcome to One Space, will have a look out for you on the other threads!
Hi again spreaderone
I think it would be a good idea to see if your boy would talk to someone now rather than leaving it, please see my post on the previous page of this thread
Hello fellow sufferers!
I have one gorgeous daughter who will be 3 soon. My husband
left us while she was not even born yet. We are more or less alone since she
was born with her father appearing now and then. I am trying to sort out
divorce for past few years but haven’t yet been able to because I am currently
living with my family in Europe.
Hello Katka and welcome to One Space! Hope you enjoy the website. Sorry to hear that you feel you are a sufferer....have a look at this thread, about the fun side of single parenthood
hello again,well,after consideration i have now booked us into a session with relate,we go on monday evening,hopefully it will do some good for us both,thank you for the advice,will let you know how things went later,cheers
Good luck, spreaderone
Good luck.
The best of luck from me too.
Good luck.
Hallo. My name is Solnbroom. I am 54 and am very lucky to have a lovely 12 year old, who is beautiful and funny with a wonderful voice. We live together and have been through a lot together. I HATE being a single mother and all my hopes and dreams are dashed. My efforts at moving out of my single mother syndrome have not yet been realised! with best wishes to you all out there!
Hello Solbroom, and welcome to One Space. I am sorry to hear that you hate being a sinle mum, yer there are hard things about it but lots of positives too, see our thread The best thing about being a single parent
Of course, our lives can turn out quite differently from how we expect, or hope and that is something big to come to terms with....it is a bit like a bereavement I always think.
I see you haver already contributed to some of the the other threads (hooray!) so I will look forward to chatting with you on there
Hello Solnbroom and all of you out there!
I am Sally i have four kids and i am a parenting facilititator, i have run 30 something parenting classes. I love seeing parents making changes that benefit them and their family.
I look forward to getting to know you all
Hi Sally W. Welcome along to One Space. Nice to have you with us. Look forward to getting to know you too.
I have a son aged 9, and have been on my own since pregnancy. Love him to pieces, but sometimes of course it's hard work! Worth it in the end though.
Hi Thanks for the welcome hazeleyes
Yeah all the blood, sweat and tears are worth it in the end (the tears are usually mine)
I have one boy 14, three girls 12, 11 and 7, so we are having alot of the above going on at our house.
Tears are normally mine too hehe. You've certainly got your hands full 
Hi i'm a single mother of two kids, one who's aged 4years and another one who's just 8months.
I had a difficult time with their father and so we broke up. I lost all my friends because of the way my ex was and my confidence went down the pan.
Now i feel so alone and don't know what to do with myself. Is anyone else in the same situation? I'd love a chat
Hello single.kazzy
Welcome to One Space
There are lots of other single parents who feel isolated as you do. Time to start again and rebuild your life! Do you attend any groups with your children?
You could have a look at the Meet a Mum feature on the netmums website and also read our article about Making New Friends. Look foirward to getting to know you.
Hi single.kazzy. Welcome along to this fab site. It really is full of support, as we all know how single parenthood can be lonely. Have you looked at Netmums site? They sometimes have get togethers, so maybe worth a look. How about your son's nursery/school? You could always invite a friend to play, so getting to know the other parent. Look forward to 'chatting'.
Hello from me too
Hi Louise thanks for that link, it is helpful to see other peoples positive experiences. I do find that hardship marrs the pleasure I have had bringing up my child, and unfortunately I have been so isolated that sometimes i do not give myself the congratulations we deserve.
We ceratinly do deserve a massive communal pat on the back!
Hi single.kazzy
Welcome to One Space
Being a single parent is lonely, look forward to getting to know you.
Do you have any friends, family to support you? do you go to toddler groups?
Hi thanks single.kazzy, i have hardly any family for support. I do have good friends, however it is hard to find dependable family figures to substitute. My child is older than toddler age, so things will get better, but getting out in the evening has been impossible for 11 years! However it has been worth it, my child is very stable. But I am rather depressed!
Hello again Solmbroom
I am sorry to hear that you feel depressed. Have you got some support for this? If not then I would encourage you to see your doctor so that this can be provided.
Hi all and welcome from me too!
solnbroom, I am sorry to read that you are finding it tough. as our children get older though we are able to get out more, or so I found. Hopefully they go to more sleepovers and perhaps you can leave them for a couple of hours late afternoon. Things will change, you could look at single parenthood in a different light. That you are being given a chance to do lots of things that you never imagined would be there!
single.kazzy, it sounds as though you would benefit immensely from doing our online course Freedom Programme. It is for survivors of abuse. You say in your post that your confidence has been knocked and you have lost friends. Now is the time to start learning about your experience and moving on. We are here to help you.
Look forward to talking to you both on other Discussions on the boards 
Hiya all,
im new to this, and want to say hi to all of you out there. Oh silly me iv not introduced myself my name is betty boo 22, iv been separated for three years. its not been easy but iv kept plodding on for the sake of my child who's 12.
my kid has had a really awful time since his father left, after telling me i was nothing to him and that he never really loved me anyway. that was the last day we lived as man and wife. Sorry i couldnt stay in a relationship knowing i meant nothing to the man i was married to. i never ever stoped him from visiting his son or having a part in his son's life, he simply wasnt botherd. The separation was quite sudden and unexpected for both of us. He has since leaving had very little contact with his child, eventhough he lives half hour drive away. he refuses to commit to a time when he can visit his child,and when he does decide to visit he is forever looking at his watch for the whole of his 15 minuite visit, which happens around once a month knowing that what he is doing is hurting our child. My son sometimes asks his dad when will he see him again? My ex leaves saying he'll see him when he sees him he is verbally nasty to my son. Saying things that he knows will hurt his feelings. its gone on for long enough so im seriously thinking off stopping acsses, because hes causing my son more harm than good by constantly bringing him down with his nasty comments, and making him feel as though he doesnt matter.
Does anyone have any advice for me about how i could go about it, or how i can help my child to heal.
Plezzzz help.
betty boo 22
.Hi betty boo 22. Welcome along to One Space. Your poor son, it's always the children isn't it, that seem to go through more of an ordeal. By this I mean the parent without care can sometimes simply walk away, or have very little contact. Have you spoken to your son about how he feels. I'm guessing at his age, he has his own voice and he should get a say. Would the father be that bothered if you stopped contact, should your son want this? Please keep posting as others will be along, if not tonight, then tomorrow.
Hi betty boo 22
It is a difficult age, and an age when really your son can make the choice as to whether he wants to see his Dad or not.
All you can do is be there 100% for your son and pack as much fun into life as you can (my theory, anyway...).
I've been lucky in that my lot have regular contact and support from their grandparents (his Father and step-Mum), and they've been incredibly supportive to me too, and we go there regularly.
Does your son have contact with his Dad's side of the family?
HI bettyboo25
Your son is at a particularly sensitive age re his relationship with his dad. It sounds as if his dad just does not know how to relate to him. The contact sounds haphazard and very unsettling for your son. I think you need to take control of the situation.
How do you feel about writing a polite letter to your ex. You could explain that your son is very upset at having so little contact with him and not knowing when these visits will happen. Say that you suggest that the visits need to be arranged in advance and also that it would be nice if he would take his son out to have some quality time rather than visits to your home. Say that the current pattern of contact is uspetting your son and if he cannot commit more time to him then you will be stopping contact. Say also that you are very willing to go to mediation to sort this out, for the good of your son. This will really put the cat amongst the pigeons but at least will move the situation one way or another.
Hiya everyone,
Thankyou all so much for all your support, it's good to know that im not on my own. Hazeleyes-yes i have we have spoken about the situation on many occassions, often through tears, but yeh he does tell me or his older sis who is in her 20's.
Unfortunatly he doesnt have contact with his dad's family even though they all live around the area. My ex's mum lives across the road and never bothers with him. Quite honestly I think it's their loss cos hes a wonderfull and bright young man, and he knows that he's very much loved by my side of family. but still it would be nice for my son if they treated him better than they do.
Louise- i have had conversations on that line with his dad but he hasnt and wont make any effort to commit to giving our son some proper time. He (the ex) simply doesnt care, but my boy still wants his dad to pay him some attention. Sometimes my boy says he doesnt want to see his dad and latley when his dad visits he goes upstairs to his room, hardley wanting to be around him, on the last visit his dad asked him if he was enjoying school my lad ansewed dont pretend to care".
That said my lad has good days, today we went to the movies and ate a kebab when we got back in. gonna put the kettle on and make a cup of tea, wish i ad something a bit stronger in, but hey ho!!!!
be back sooooon
betty boo 22
My suggestion would then be for YOU to spend some quality time with your boy, I am sure you do this already but let him choose the activity (fishing, bowling, golf etc) and drag yourself along and join in. Give your son lots of praise to boost his self esteem too. If you want to have further discussions about this then please post in Parenting Support (click the blue link and start a new topic) and we can then keep this as a welcome thread for new members to say hello
Look forward to chatting with you on the other thread
Hi there everyone
I'm newly 40 and a widowed mum to a newly 13 yr old girl.I was widowed 13yrs ago and have remained single
I have been working part time but 2 yrs ago was diagnosed with lupus and am currently on sick leave (again ).
Hi there!
I am a single parent of a lovely 16 year old boy.
Thanks for this website, looks great!
Ella
Hi crabby tomato. Welcome along (love the name) sure you're not crabby really Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Don't know too much really about lupus, but hope you're ok. You were widowed really young, again, sorry to hear that. It must have been extremely difficult for you dealing with the grief as well as coping with a young baby. Do you have family and friends around for support? Look forward to 'chatting'.
Hello, and welcome,
I think so too, its brill isnt it.
im off to my bed. G=Nite
Hello crabby tomato and Ella68
Welcome to you both!
Ella68 you may like to have a look at, and contribute to our Parenting Teenagers section
Crabby tomato (fab name!) my sister has lupus but it has now settled down after a bad spell, how is this affecting you at the moment? You have had some tough things to deal with after losing your husband with a new baby to care for 
Hipe you both enjoy the site and look forward to getting to know you!
Hi Ella68. Welcome along. My son is just 9, and have been single since the pregnancy. It can be hard work can't it, but well worth it in the end. How long have you been single for?
Look forward to chatting on some of the other threads.
hiya and welcome crabby tomatoes. So sorry to hear about your illness and about your loss.
Im quite new to this site, and think its great.
Hows your daughter doing hope shes doing well. 13 is a lovley age, but can sometimes be a little difficult.
Take Care.
Hi and welcome from me too crabby tomato and Ella68, look forward to getting to know you. Have a look around the boards and join in wherever you wish, or start your own topic!
I am currently reading a great book about teenagers, that Louise has recommended time and time again and now have a great insight into their warped and crazy minds, hopefully will get a chance to discuss it further with you
I love hearing that others love the site as much as we do, thanks for the compliment
hi i'm katie. I have a 3 year old son and have been a single mum for a year and a half new to this forum
Hi katie. Welcome along to One Space. How are you finding single parenthood? Does your son still have contact with his Dad? I look forward to 'chatting'.
thank you i find single parenthood hard at times but with the support of family and friends managing to cope better.my son does see his dad but not on a regular basis an its when he can be bovvered to see him if anything he's more like a piece of furniture to his dad.
hiya,thank you for your welcome,i think i may have given the wrong impression about my boy not talking,we do have a great relationship together,i take him footy,movies etc,i think he finds it hard to talk about his mum,i try to ask him how he feels about losing her,but he seems to just shrug his shoulders and say hes ok,is this ok or do you think i should wait to see if he wants to talk about it later? i think if hes the same in a yrs time i might consider relate,personally i could do with talking to someone about my pain,but im a bit wary of going to speak to strangers about something that hurts as much,i tend to think that hard work can get rid of some of the pain,also i know i just have to be strong for my boy