Hi deedeedawnie
Glad you've found us.
Hello deedeedawnie,You'll have great support here.
Hi deedeedawnie, welcome along. It's a great site, so do keep posting. Look forward to 'chatting'.
Welcome to mempsey and deedeedawnie, look forward to chatting to you both.
mempsey Louise says you have already found the Parenting Teenagers
deedeedawnie, I am wondering if you might be interested in discussions going on in Relationships and You?
Hi. I am 40 years old with a daughter aged 11, called A.
I am currently in the process of finding out where I stand with regards to A attending High School. At age 7, A's mum decided she wanted to live in L with her new beau(we live in SH 65 miles away).
So having gone to court, she upped sticks and moved A to a new school/life in L. I see her alternate weekends and holidays only now and have to travel halfway on each visit to collect A on Friday and return Sunday.
A always stated she wanted to go to high school in SH, which meant living with me. This was from the day she moved to L!!
Having tried to speak to her mum about the subject, she is now saying she is keeping A in L, against both her and my wishes.
Does anyone know what rights A and myself have?
I want the best for A and what she wants, which is to return home.
Any thoughts would be appreicated!!
Cheers
hi deedeedawnie im the same as you when i was with my ex he never lifted a finger to help around the house or the children anyone would think they werent his and i was burdening him, he left because of my nagging which i say if i had more support i wouldnt nag!! Hope you are ok you sound like a very hard working lady sorry to hear about your ill health how are you feeling?
Hi holty5, welcome to One Space.
I have removed your name and your daughters name and replace with an initial, I also did the same for the towns/cities that you mentioned. We want these boards to stay completely anonymous for your confidentiality and that of your child.
When you went to Court did A have to talk to a CAFCAS officer regarding where she wanted to live, or was it never a question until now?
There is a legal age at which the child gets a say in where and whom they want to be with. I suggest you contact our Family Law Expert as they will be able to give you the advice you need.
Your daughter was stepping into the unknown moving to a new city, senior school and away from you. She is bound to be nervous and want to stay with what she knows. Of course I completely understand you wanting her to be with you, but so you think once she has settled she will feel differently?
Hi Anna
Thanks for the reply - didnt realise about the anonymity, so apologies for that!
We had a CAFCAS officer, who really was pretty useless. A's mum painted a pretty picture of her quitting her job to spend more time with A in the new town. She had also already removed A from her school in St H and enrolled her in L....so I pretty much could do nothing about it.
A has never really settled in L...and it has now been over 3 years, my daughter has always maintained her desire NOT to stay in L, but to move back here with me.
It isnt really a case of her settling......her heart and head is set on coming back home to St H......so I am trying to be a good parent and doing what is right and best for A..........and her mum bullying her into staying in L with her, against A's wishes, isnt in her best interests I believe.....
I have contacted the law expert and she has been in touch.
I.
Glad they've been in contact so soon holty5. As it's been 3 years since your daughter moved away, I think it is pretty obvious that she wants to return to her original home town. Good luck with everything.
welcome to One Space by the way
Hi holty 5 thanks for your reply, I will carry on chatting with you on your thread Daughter & High School
Hello holty5....
Hi I'm Merry Berry. I am a single mum with a 15 year old boy at home and two girls 25 and 27 from my first marriage, who have families of their own now. I have been a single parent for nearly 8 months now after a 17 year marriage (22 years together). I am on the road to recovery, but I am still finding the pain of betrayal and rejection unbearable at times.
Hi Merry Berry, great name, welcome to One Space, I know I have seen you on other threads but nice to see you in here.
Eight months is not a long time to recover from a long marriage. I hope that you have felt able to do lots of nice things for you and make plans to move your life forward during this time?
And you are a grandma too! How old are your grandchildren?
I am a recent grandma twice over. My 27 year old had a daughter who is nearly 9 months old and my 25 year old had a son who is 8 weeks old. They are both in great health and fabulous!
I am moving forward slowly, but it is often a 'three steps forward and two steps backward' kind of move.
Hi Merry Berry. Welcome along to One Space Congratulations on becoming a Nanny. Do you get to see the babies much? Hope you are ok this evening.
A boy and a girl, that's lovely!
Yes, I know what you mean about the forwards and backwards thing. Sometimes outside events sabotage our recovery and sometimes we can sabotage ourselves. However, the loss of a relationship is akin to a bereavement and it's important to give yourself time to grieve.
Don't know if you are a "book" person, but you could think about reading this
Hi merry berry. Great to see you here.
How lovely having grandchildren. A friend of mine, both her daughters have recently had babies (one has has a fifth daughter, not that the gender mattered). I know she loves being a grandma.
Hi Merry Berry...I have just split from a long marriage and relationship too, so still having those mood swings and feelings now, as it's still very early days. I thoroughly recommend the book and CD that Louise has suggested as I got that, and also the change your life in seven days book and CD by him too, ( I listen to it every night- but might go back to the other soon again too).I always fall asleep by the end of it, but I do think that anything positive that might go into the sunconscious subliminally must be a good thing( plus it helps me to relax and get a bit of sleep at night too).
Hi Im Paul - im nearly in my 40's single dad with a girl whos 4 1/2 -
I have been single since 2008 where i split from my daughters mother, whom fell ill, and resulted in me not seeing my daughter for over a year. She was found and now my daughter lives with me mon to fri
She has had a few behaviour problems and said a few things that are concerning - but since 09 she has become very confident in herself
Its quite hard being single dad as i find people always ask where is the mum, and most doing the school runs are mums.
be good to meet and chat to people and get to know you all - also talk about what children say and what to do about it (other parents experiences)
She has justy started school and become very clingy, (again) but i think i have solved this, she said the monster wants to kill daddy and nanny - thats why she dont want to leave us - we have told her there are no such things as monsters
Hi Paul980
You are welcome to One Space!
I have sent you a (brief) private reply in view of some of the concerns you have raised via Ask the Expert so will not go into further details here.
All the best for now.
Hi i'm hazelangel, I have 1 son who is 11 and autistic. I have been a single parent all his life and I live in London
Hello, I'm Boo. I have 4 boys, ages 19, 17 (18 next week!), 16 and 13. I've been on my own with my boys for 3 years, after a 20 year marriage to their 'dad'. I thought I'd have been well on my way to recovery by now but the dragon's head keeps raising itself and keeping me on my toes as far as the odd threat about finances is concerned. Onward and upward though - we WILL survive!
Hello Paul, hazelangel and Boo. Welcome along to One Space. It's a great site, so I do hope you all stay with us. Look forward to 'chatting'.
Hello Paul, hazelangel and Boo...You will get lots of good advice and support here...
Cheers for that Louise 
Oh and hi to everyone look forward to chatting :)
Oh and hi to everyone look forward to chatting :)
Hello and welcome to all, thanks for introducing yourself! Have a look around the boards and jump in wherever you want
There is lots to talk about - Parenting, fun stuff, managing money or you might be interested in doing our Evaluation and having the chance to win £60 High Street Vouchers!- please note time is running out, so do it right now!
Welcome to hazelangel and Boo
Nice to see you both. Being a single parent is never easy but we all help each other along
Hello!!!
I am Katie, single mum to an 11 month old, finding it tough, been separated from her dad for nearly six months. Hoping to meet some single parents/like minded people as I'm sure you'll agree your life turns upside down when u have kids and I've noticed my friendships with people who don't have kids (or even those who do but are still married!!!!) is very different, guess they just don't understand!
Also not coping very well as a single mum, no reflection on my goreous girl, just not very "gooey" mum and I get bored easily etc. Does that make me a terrible person? Anyone else sick of peppa pig and never getting out!!!
Anyway, hope to make friends with some of you xx
Hello Izzy, I can definately relate to how you feel, I did two relationships back to back (second relationship resulted in my daughter) and feel like i ought to find some time to get to know myself again and find out what it is i like etc but then that is hard to do when I am so exhausted all the time and have very little support as a single parent. Glad I've joined this site though, think it will be really good for a lot of people on here xxx
Hello from me as well.
Hello KatieontheRoof
Welcome to One Space (why are you on the roof? I know it is sunny....but 
)
I do agree that parenting can be dull. In my case it was Thomas the flipping Tank Engine. Children love to do/sing/see things over and over again and that's hard for us.
It's really important to do things for yourself, what would you like to do? A course? A hobby? An exercise class? I remember when my first son was young I used to joke that I would go to ANYTHING as long as it had a creche. Actually it wasn't a joke. I did all sorts of things including an aerobics class and a church group. You can do things with your daughter too. Your Health Visitor will have details of toddler groups near you and have a look at NetMums who organise meet ups around the country. And don't forget you have found us now
Hello katieontheRoof....NetMums sounds good...
Hiya,
Katie on the roof was my nickname as a child because I was always climbing on to it :-)
I know of a few meet ups in my village but I'd like to venuture out into the centre of york a bit and meet new mums. Not really sure what course I'd like to do in the evenings, I think finding babysitters would be a bit of an issue, espeically on a regular basis. Anyway I've joined net mums like you suggested and i'm glad I found you lot on here. I do think though that being a parent is a challenge all in itself, but being a single parent and going through a separation aswell is an entirely different matter and so a lot of the mums I meet can't really relate to what I'm going through.
Not that I feel sorry for myself, my girl is just gorgeous and I know I'm blessed to even be able to have her.
Are there meet ups arranged on here?xxx
Hello KatieOnTheRoof. Welcome along
Hi Katie on the Roof
No we have not got any meetups arronged here as yet, we are a wide reaching website, with some international members, and what we tend to do is to publish information about existing groups and when members organise things themselves then we are happy to let them tell us about it, in the Your Local Support section.
I will send you a private email as I know of something in your area for single parents, don't know if still running but I can give you the person's number (i have their permission)
Hello from me as well.
Hi Katie on the Roof
I have not said hallo yet! Welcome from me!
Louise mentioned the Your Local part of our site, I just wanted to add that we have a Discussion forum too called Local Information sometimes people find out if others are in their area and could let each other know they are going to an event.
Look forward to getting to know you!
PS. I wasn't in the peppa pig era, but your post made me laugh! Teletubbies were the big thing when my daughter was small!
hi all,im new to this so here goes,im a single parent aged 50,i live with my 15yr old boy whose mother died last yr of cancer,i also am going through a very painful breakup with my partner,my problem is my boy is unable to talk about whats happened,has anyone got any advice or tips? thank you
Hi spreaderone. I have welcomed you on your post, but just wanted to do the same on this one.
Hi.
Hello from me in this thread too.
Hope you're both doing ok today.
Hi Spreaderone
Welcome to One Space, you are among friends here.
You are in pain yourself with the breakup and your boy has already suffered one loss and now he sees you unhappy too......and he will begin to think that everyone we love will go away and leave us. Well that is true of death of course but it is sad if he feels wary of life already.
He might hesitate to talk to you if he thinks you have enough on your plate already. Would he consider seeing someone at Relate? (click link) or even using one of the online counselling and support services such as RD4U if he likes this form of communication.
However I do think anything that will open up communication with him is a good idea, such as an activity together (I have two lads myself and have found that they often are better talking to me when we are not face to face, but side by side, such as driving somewhere, playing a game or -heaven forbid-doing the washing up!)
And what about you? You are dealing with a break up which is hard when you have to be a parent too. Have you anyone to talk to? Are you a book sort of person?
POSTED BY NEW MEMBER shazia
Hi everyone
I m new on this site single mum with 3
kids ages 19.18,13 yrs . Got a busy life but it would be nice to talk
& laugh with somebody so plzzzzzzz just pop in to say hello.
shazia
Hello shazia
I have transferred your message over to the intoriductions section
You will indeed have a busy lfe with three teenagers! We have a special section for parenting teenagers that you may find useful and you can probably give people some help too.
We tend to have a chat and a laugh in the Chit Chat section, so do visit there too
Hi shazia
My lot are 19, 17, 15 and 12, so similar ages.
Really great to 'see' you here. You will find laughter and brilliant support.
hi everyone, i have a 17 month old daughter and am a single mom after leaving an abusive relationship. im having trouble now with court issues as my ex is making life very difficult for me, so it would be great to chat with other people who have maybe gone through similar problems and understand a bit more x
Hello minnie-mouse
I am sorry you are having such a rough time. You are among friends here.
Have you got some support through Women's Aid?
We are about to lauch The Freedom Programme online which I think will help you a lot so just sit tight
Hi minnie-mouse
I am sorry that you're having such a hard time.
hello deedeedawnie
Welcome to One Space. That's interesting that you feel parenting is now easier with no partner! There are indeed lots of positive things, see The best thing about being a single parent is...
How is life for you with a baby as well as teenagers?