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sorry you are feeling so awful sparkling - you can join my club - i am feeling awful too!
tomorrow is another day though!
Oh I've missed so much chat...
sparkling, hugs for you...I think it's the time of year...getting over Xmas and New year...so know how you feel, as felt like that too...the weather doesn't help...
Just to add, if you have catch up TV...or on the internet..I was on 'Lorraine' this morning( 4th) for the preview part if you want to watch it..
Hugs xx
Hi all!
Wishing you all a really good day. It's an order!
Hugs to all xxx
Hi everyone , know just how you feel sparkling it is getting over the hype of christmas and new year as this week ive been feeling very down too!
Have to pick my self up though as im starting a course next tuesday sage level1 anyone done it? I am nervous as havent been to college for 20 years but have to keep pushing myself as life is just passing me by now and im starting to feel useless.
Hi mich did see you on lorraine yesterday look forward to seeing more next week you are very brave welldone you xxxx
Elle hope you get your toothache sorted nothing worse than that pain xx
Hi trying hard, good luck for your course, I have not done SAGE but I remember going back to college just after I was separated from the boys' dad and that was to teach me how to use a computer and how scared was I? bet you will really enjoy it 
Everyone is very January-ish at the moment; hope today is a bit better, it is very windy here still although a brighter sky. Last night I picked up son from college and the car was rocking as if in an earthquake. My poor friend has had no heating since Saturday and the gasman is still waiting for a part to arrive to mend the boiler.
Well done on the cottage pie success, Hazeleyes, it is mince here tonight (bolognese heh heh)
More rain and more wind. I need to go shopping for some bits, and daughter said she'll come along as she can have a long lunch time (I can't carry shopping down anymore, so I have said yes). Should have gone and left it in the boot! It was sunny earlier.
Your poor frind. That is such a nuisance when parts are slow coming in. Hope she's not waiting too long as it is chilly now.
I'm sure you'll enjoy college trying hard. I did try Sage many moons ago, and it and I didn't get on.
It will be lovely having some company too.
Tryinghard, if I can do a 3 year university course after 25 years of not doing anything education wise then you can do a sage college course!
Found out today that I really missed one of my assignments - luckily I have already asked for concessions for that one, so hopefully I have that second chance....
Oh Hopeful, glad you get another go at that one. You do have a heavy workload.
Hazeleyes, forgot to tell you that Family Lives is the new name for Parentline
Now, where's that mince? ......
Omlettes all round here with jacket potatoe and beans.... Except for fussy youngest who has had statutory chicken dippers.
Cubs and Scouts tonight. Three week break has been rather nice...
Hi all. Ooooh One Space has changed again!
Mich, I was trying to download Adobe Flash something or other in order to watch Lorraine's show yesterday, but I can't. 
will try over the weekend as I'll have more time. Well done you anyway.
Sparkling, sorry you're feeling down, I do hope you're okay. I know the money situation is a real worry for you, and I honestly don't know what to suggest. Has CAB made an appointment with you yet?
Louise, mince, mince??? Is your son impressed hehe. Hope you've had a good day.
Hopeful, glad you managed to get a second chance. Good luck.
lrh, how are you today? Is it a good one or not? Really hoping a good one, if not tomorrow is another day
elle, how are you feeling with the tooth? Take care.
Trying hard, not done sage, but good on you for having a go. I'm sure you'll do just fine, and you never know until you try it.
Well, my day has been ok. Am not whooping it up yet with the teacher, but maybe slowly but surely I'm getting there with him. Just taking him as he is. Finished at 12, and did absolutely zilch when I came home. Tut. Tomorrow is a full day, so fingers crossed it is a good one. Don't think Friday friend is coming on a Friday anymore. Her son is starting dance classes. I did ask C if he would like to join, but he's not interested. Still...... Hope you all have a good evening. xx
Thanks trying hard...I'm nervous about next week though being 'live' What are the sage courses?
hazeleyes, never mind...at least you might be able to see next week...
Your poor friend Louise,must be really horrible with no heating...
sparkling and hopeful,hope you've had good days too....
evening everyone!
thanks hazeleyes - i have been sad again today and lots of tears but going to a friends on sat with kids for an overnight which will be therapeutic and just what i need before work/school on Monday - was reading the link on grief and the end of a marriage is like that i know but i feel like i keep going backward and forwards with the different stages!
mich don't be nervous about next week - you looked great yesterday - i use rescue remedy!
good luck and have a good evening everyone - hope tomorrow will be a more positive day for me and anyone else who is feeling down
Hi,
Sorry for silence-good reasons though**
no Hazel, im not at work yet. had to take time off for personal reasons.**( have to be careful on this site as my laptop has been behaving badly since "someone" fixed it for me months ago....it appears to be saving some info and transfering it somewhere else.... not im not sure either. need expert to look at it but cant afford it )
Anyway may have to reduce hours at work. love the job-driving and caring but petrol is over 100 pound month and last month i got 15 (according to bank manager today) back in "benefits". then there is the child care issue.
Poor car- im getting a red warning light (like when your handbrake is left on) when im cornering. cant afford to have it looked at though.scarryyyyyy.
doc asked me how i am but cant tell truth as need life insurance and the bank said if i ive had depression medication then it may go against me. i denied any sad feelings.
well i had better go. hope we all feel better soon. summer wont be too long in coming.
Aww Bella. Days should be getting longer now (although I'm certain the mornings are worse!)
Hehe, Bella, my warning light in the car has been on for ages - I have had it checked and it's only expensive, not vital. The car won't be ruined by it. So if it ain't broke....
Had a rubbish day, but am cheering up now. Actually, some of the day was rubbish and some was fun - like the lecture was fun, but the assignment news were rubbish. Have decided to find the good things instead of concentrating on the bad.
Good night alround! x
Morning ladies( popping in before work)..
Bella, lrh,hopeful, and sparkling...I think it's just a time for it...I've been feeling a bit down too...maybe because I know all the things I will have to be dealing with this year..I don't know..I also think it's because we've got past Xmas and New Year, at least we have each other for support..I think it's all part of the healing process though...we just have to go through it...
Good morning!
Have decided today is going to be ALL good, have alreday had a lay-in (very good as I am just not a morning person) and am about to do some really fantastic essay writing. When I get home from uni, I shall shine my sink (fly lady) and do fifteen minutes of homework.
Bella, I hope you get your laptop issues sorted. I seem to remember that Which? magazine (or whatever they're called) offered one or two free issues about computers / keeping them safe etc. Maybe it's worth looking into that?
Mich, lhr, Sparkling, Hazeleyes, elle, louise, et al I am sending some of the sunshine we have down here again. Have a brilliant day! :-)
Good morning!
Have decided today is going to be ALL good, have alreday had a lay-in (very good as I am just not a morning person) and am about to do some really fantastic essay writing. When I get home from uni, I shall shine my sink (fly lady) and do fifteen minutes of homework.
Bella, I hope you get your laptop issues sorted. I seem to remember that Which? magazine (or whatever they're called) offered one or two free issues about computers / keeping them safe etc. Maybe it's worth looking into that?
Mich, lhr, Sparkling, Hazeleyes, elle, louise, et al I am sending some of the sunshine we have down here again. Have a brilliant day! :-)
Hi Hopeful, finding the good things is a PLAN! No matter how rubblish things are, there will be at least one positive amongst the dross.
Hi Bella, that sounds worrying that you don't think your computer is secure. As for cutting your hours I think you mentioned you do 20 per week, just to remind you that you need to do a minimum of 16 to get Working Tax Credit, so do bear that in mind.
Hazeleyes, what sort of dance classes is Friday friend's son doing? You will have to find another time to spend together if C doesn't want to go as well. Hope your day goes ok and the teacher continues to be bearable.
Mich I can't wait for the programme!
LRH don't worry about the backward and forward stuff, everyone does that I promise. But as we move backwards, the amount of time taken to get forwards again is less each time.....like my analogy of losing a stone and putting on two pounds again....it is easier to lose those two pounds again than it was to lose the original stone. Take care of yourself.
Sparkling hope the omelettes went down well. My son split some bolognese on his tshirt., I pointed out that we are switching to non-bio washing powder because of my eczema so I would get him a personal supply of Vanish to pre-treat his stuff with. His face was a picture. Mind you, he got his own back later. I was dozing on the settee just before 9, in PJs of course and he asked (begged) for a lift to his friend's house. I looked very glam in PJs and a coat, I can tell you!
Hope everyone will have a good day 
Hi, Mich, lrh,hazeleyes, sparkling, everyone else (memory not good!),
Going to see boss re reducing hours. less pay but less costs for me to pay out too. hoping to resolve problem without having to leave. love the driving etc just working every single weekend killing me.
Saw Mich on tv. how brave. hoping to catch it again when im not working.
HAVE STARTED LEGAL THINGS AGAIN. Took letter in requesting solicitor to get involved again as we unable to sort. (IF ANYONE IS READING THIS WHO KNOWS ME,TELL THE EX, I DONT CARE NOW).
(Sorry friends but had to be said).
Well better go. must get case ready to face bosses. let you know how goes...
not having a good morning so just a quick hello to everyone and thanks for the good wishes
Louise did you know that if you hang clothes on line that have had tomato/strawberry etc out in the sunshine that the sun will make it disappear - i realise that at this time of the year the sun may not be strong enough but certainly in the summer i have saved many items from spag bolg! and fresh strawberries
have a good day everyone
I seem to have missed a whole lot about Mich being on some show? Please can someone fill me in????
Well the talk with bosses done.
They couldnt believe im working every single weekend. I showed them the rota.
I have said i will keep the number of hours (20) and i can do every single friday as son safely away. They said they cant give me every friday as not fair to others.
I asked if i could please have a weekend off at some point please? They to look into it.
I said- i love my job, even though im better off on the dole (maybe not best thing to say!) and have no intention of leaving as it does my son good to see his mum working, gives me confidence and self esteem etc.
see how it is when i return...not looking forward to it. have had frosty reception from certain folk already and that was when i was obeying orders and didnt complain.
The sun is lovely but car was still iced up in and out this morn!! bbrrr
Ok well that sounds positive Bella, let's hope you can get some more free weekends. With the 20 hours, they have plenty more options of when you can work them! I think you are right to get things moving with solicitors.
Thanks LRH, I didn't know that about the natural sunshine bleach, that will come in handy 
Hopeful, Mich was selected by the Lorraine show (on morning ITV) with two others to go to Barbados for a break and to do some work with Paul McKenna (healing her broken heartedness). The initial piece about it was broadcast on Wednesday 4th January, you can see it on ITV Player, it is on the last segment of the show that day, and the main piece is going to be on the Lorraine show on Tuesday 10th Jan and Mich will also be on LIVE!!!! She and her daughter were fab on the show I have seen.
Hope everyone is Ok this afternoon. My boy is on a date! he has recently bought a beanie hat, it really suits him but he is wearing it 24/7, I am convinced he sleeps in it!
i know what you mean about the hats - my 10 year old wears her designer woolly hat all the time too!
(that's what my son thinks he looks like!)
My daughter wears a fluffy hat that covers her ears. It also HAS ears!! If I could upload photos, I'd put the one of the dog wearing the hat on. Terrifying.
Been to the in-laws for tea. FiL really, really not good. MiL looks so tired, and the cut on the leg has now been declared an ulcer, and she's in a lot of pain. Hugged and kissed them both when we left. She was telling me that she thought FiL had passed away on Wednesday afternoon as it was so long before he started breathing again... She knows we're here. Git not mentioned...
I've had an awful headache. Called into the office to collect my wages (half already spent ), and stayed a while ripping papers (having a good clear out). Nice to have a chat and a catch up. Hope they've not gone too far with getting this unit. On one hand its brilliant, but so quiet...
Sorry I'm not at my best. Not that the best is impressive or anything...!
hi all - had an up and down day but before i sign off just want to say to sparkling sorry you are not feeling up to par - i bet you though that your best is amazing - its just you can't see it but i am sure others can and certainly your friends on here can so try not to be so down on yourself - remember we have all been through so much but we are worth more and better (is that good english?!!)
Hope tomorrow brings you a better and happier day - night all x
Thanks lrh. xx
Sigh,
my only chance to get out on a weekend is NOW. only friend not wanting to go out. im working from mon till mid feb.
never mind, im watching derren brown. i have choc n wine.
child back tom.mummy head back on. no wine or trashy tv!
have a great weekend.xx
Haha Bella, trashy TV. At least if you are working every weekend for the next six weeks you will have used up most of your 20 hours and will have time free in the week to be with your son
Hi sparkling hope a sleep sorted your headache. Sorry about your inlaws, they are getting more frail and that's hard for you to see.
LRH how are you today? One thing I meant to mention was that the grief process article I posted for you, well that process is one which will take place over the course of about a year so don't panic about a bit of backwards and forwards.
Hazeleyes, how are you doing? Hello to Hopeful, elle81 (how's your tooth?), trying hard and Mich. What are the plans for today?
Morning all - woke up feeling positive today - went for a coffee with a friend last night (newish friendship) and she knew of split but not reasons - how invigorating to tell all!! including the bit about the possibility of someone else being one of the reasons we split even though ex denies it - she knows the third person so it felt good to tell her - she was on my side although she realises there are two sides to every story but she made me feel good by telling me i am worth so much more
so off to stay with a friend tonight with my girls - all good today - baby steps -living in the moment - worry about tomorrow when it comes
sparkling sending some positive vibes and hope they rub off!
everyone else have a good day and will check in tomorrow!!
Sparkling, I don't know what you're on about, I think you are amazing all the time!
Had to get that out first. Good morning all!
Am still in bed - got distracted playing stupid games on the laptop last night and am so cross at myself. Only just woke up! To make up for it I shall immediately finish my essay (reflection on the last year).
Wishing all a brilliant day!
hurrah, go me!
im so honest. i rang tax credits to tell them my income is half of what i had originally thought however i do get a very small petrol allowance so they have taken that into account and REDUCED my tax credits by £40 month. just tops off my week.
Afternoon all, hope everyone is ok?
My ex picked the kids up this morning at 10 and still hasnt brought them back is this a new years resolution for him!!!!! Cant believe what i am like though cant wait for a bit of time on my own but now i feel lost without them! Im sitting by the window typing this post anxiously looking out for them, when they get back it will be back to normal in two minutes mess, arguing, help me do this fix that but i love it!!!
My lot are back in school next week so back to normal then cant wait fo routine .
Migraine today, so have done the bare minimum - and have been snoozing (yet again) in the armchair...
Hope everyone is ok.
Not blowing a gale today. Not used to that
Hi everyone
How are you all and what does Sunday hold for you? (Oooh I can hear the groans of "ironing and homework" all the way from here!)
LRH that was good to get things off your chest with your friend, she will understand now what you have been through
Bella that does not sound right about Tax Credits. Wait till they send you a new award notice and then get in touch with our Money Expert.
Hazeleyes i do hope you are feeling better now and your weekend is going Ok.
Hi trying hard, yes that was a turn up for the books to get a few hours to yourself. Were the children Ok when they came back?
Sparkling how is your head? Elle how is your tooth? Hopeful how is your essay? Mich what time do you have to set off to London?
Hazel-well done for getting child to eat all veggies. my son only likes a few. quorn roast for lunch and chicken for tea! trying to use up bits in freeezer then bring freezer into house so can house car in garage as weather will only get worse till summertime. (i love summer).
Had awful dreams. son said it was as we watched a (kids) dvd last night but i dont really think it was that. Dream was about rats! i think i was making the connection between ex and rats. he gives THEM a bad name though. haha.
Dreading work tom. all will know ive been in and spoken about my problems with childcare and working every weekend since moses was a kid! wish me luck.
has everyone still got cupboards full of xmas nibbles? i may be eating special cheesey crackers till august! along with cranberries AND stollen with brandy sauce!!!! Well its got my fruit, protein and alcohol quota in there.haha.
Son playing car driving game on tv. at least its not killing or looting game.dont see why these violent games are popular.maybe im getting old..
Good morning all. Louise, your hearing is absolutely perfect, today is the ironing day hehe.
Belle, that is awful about the tax credits, they must have it wrong somewhere along the line. Good luck with the hours. I'm like you, still got Christmas nibbles around.
Sparkling, hope your head is okay today. Happy Birthday to C. xx I hope he has a lovely day.
lrh, hope you enjoyed your time off from the kids yesterday. Did they enjoy themselves?
mich, finally today I shall watch the Lorraine show. Are you getting nervous about next week? You'll be great.
Hopeful, how's your household doing? Elle, did you go to the dentist?
What are your plans for today Louise? Definately not cleaning out your ears, and they are in perfect working order lol.
morning all - i went to my friends with my kids for an overnight last night - great evening all girls together - very relaxed - us drinking margheritas - kids watching telly and chilling!
taking my kids out for lunch today before school/work starts tomorrow
have a good day everyone - hope your migraine is gone sparkling
That's a nice treat lrh, for the children and for you. Hope you all settle back into the routine of work/school okay. We only had three days back last week, so I think this week I'll notice it more. I'm having sausage casserole for dinner, so it's all in oven now. Just going to chill out this afternoon.
Cake cooking in the oven here.
I couldn't stand to make it, so directed daughter... I'd weighed the stuff, she just needed to chuck it in the bowl and mix it.
Son thrilled as he's rich enough to buy an ipod touch!
Aw, Sparkling, hope that migraine goes - I hate them (don't get them much now, luckily)
My essay is almost finished. Going to work on a presentation today (about MS).
My household is chaotic as always. 
This Sunday - didn't want to get up, but was on teas at church - found tons of my friends are in crisis (one very close friend's husband has told her he's going to Egypt for three months, leaving her to run their business and the household with 4 children by herself. What on earth do I say to help her????), one has cancer (op on Friday), another one is finding out about similar problem this week, yet another one is totally stressed with work and a horrid mother - I am really fine compared to all that! I mean what's a bit of assignment stress, huh?
Haven't had sausage casserole in ages, hazeleyes - will have that next week. Eggs and chips tonight!
Lrh - nice to be with friends - am doing that next weekend!
Bella, you'll be just fine. After all you like your job, don't you!
Trying Hard, have you got your children back?
All the rest, hope you're having a fantastic Sunday!!!
Wow Hopeful, lots going on with your friends. So sad. It's great that you're there for them, but don't forget you in all of it. It is so easy to get involved with others, but it can bring you down too. Take care.
Sparkling, I'm delighted that C will be able to get himself an ipod touch. Is he having a good birthday so far? Are you putting on a buffet, followed by the cake?
Ooh your boy will be happy, sparkling, hope he is enjoying his day. Dare I ask if there was anything from his dad? The cake will be a nice treat.
We have a chicken and bacon thing for tea.That cooked chicken thigh meat from the freezer with some cooked bacon and put it in a tin of condensed mushroom soup (without diluting it) and we have some carrots and broccoli to be very holy 
Son is at work then to football. I have been busily working today (I do other work as well as One Space) so that I can have some time off tomorrow to go to the cinema, do you remember I got those free tickets when I did a Victor about the concert? Well hoping to use them to see The Iron Lady tomorrow.
I am still doing my counselling on Tuesdays but have asked to stop doing the evening slot, it was too late to be getting home at 8pm for tea, and disruptive for son too (AND it is voluntary work) so I will start earlier in the afternoon and be home for 6.30, much better, especially these dark nights.
Hope you are OK Hazeleyes. Yes there is a big week ahead so do what you can to make life easier.
Hopeful, all my friends seem to get problems at the same time as well and it can be exhausting. Don't overdo it on the help and support, you need some strrength for you too.
LRH you seem to have had a better weekend. The Margaritas sound nice!
Hi all,hope everyone is well today,and thank you everyone for your comments on my bloody tooth! lol its much better thanx,i have anti biotics from the doctor and it has calmed right down,just got to take my id in sometime this week as i went to take it up friday and forgot it! then went up yesterday and was shut!!
Got jc tomorow i still dont like going but the woman i sign on with is quite nice and i dont have to wait long now,will be enquiring about having a new advisor again soon,have got to see her thursday and she will know i have requested someone else,to be honest i dont really care she should of been nicer to me!
Then after jc i have a 2 hour gap then i have a course to go to about getting back in to work so i will go to the museum for hot choc and the library then the course finishes tuesday,thank god!!
Hi to hazel eyes sparking louise lrh bella trying hard hopeful mich hope havent left any one out x
happy birthday to c sparkling -
hopeful you do have a lot to concern yourself with - its great if you can be a listening ear sometimes that's all people want but yes as hazeleyes says dont forget yourself
we had a lovely lunch out with vouchers (i am always very money saving!) so it cost me next to nothing
margheritas were great - it came ready mixed in a bottle! lucky i have self control and had to be up early this morning to drive or i could have still been there!!
hope you enjoy your film Louise - i am hoping to see War Horse with my eldest at some point - youngest read the book and said it was too sad to go and see!
yep have had a good weekend - i keep pushing ex from my mind everytime he pops into it - he sent me a text this afternoon with some information - normally i would text back but you know when it is the other way round he very rarely replies so i just switched my phone off!! the two people i love most are here with me and other two are contactable on a landline so i don't need my mobile on anymore today
hope everyone has a good week next week
hi ella - our posts crossed!
hope everything goes well for you tomorrow
That time slot sounds much better Louise.
The sausage casserole was going to be put in the freezer for during the week, but decided on it today. I have made a shepherds pie too, which will be dinner for tomorrow, after a day at work, so am thinking ahead Louise of making things easier for me at home. I hope you enjoy the cinema tomorrow. Are you going on own or with the friend from before? I imagine she also got free tickets?
Weather awful here again. Its pouring. Raining in my heart too and am off to bed as I can't face things this evening.
I'll be ok tomorrow, I'm sure. Wish I could find The Git's wedding ring and chain.
If I disappear, I've cut the internet
but then guessing that will need 30 days notice.