Hi Everyone
My name is Shaz. I have 2 children, one of each. Son is 9 and a my daughter is 16. I have been a single parent for 8 months.
Hello Shaz,
very nice to meet you.
Please join in on any of the discussion threads.
sy
Hello Shaz,
very nice to meet you.
Please join in on any of the discussion threads.
sy
Thank you, that is very nice of you.
Shaz :) :)
You're very welcome Shaz,
I'm not saying too much, as when I say hello to a new person they disappear and are never heard from again!
Someone more sensible than me will be on later. hehe
Hope you are OK tonight.
sy
Im not one of them people who disappears. Once I get talking to someone, I can't stop..... :lol:
So I hope you don't mind! x
Hey that's cool :)
Talking is cool.
Unfortunately, ex has cut my phone off.
So I visit my mum for wireless connection.
I got to go now, it's 45 mins drive to get home, you sure you are OK tonight?
huuug
sy
Hi my name is Chris and I left my husband 1 month ago after 9 years of verbal abuse and having no control of my own life. We moved to Spain last Sept as a last attempt to see if he could change away from the stress of running our own business. Unfortunately there was no change in fact it just got worse only now my oldest daughter who is about to turn 9 this month started to say to me "can you and daddy stop arguing and why is daddy so horrible to you?" At this point I knew that it was starting to affect my two beautiful girls and it had to stop.
The last argument we had he told me to "F*** off back to England, so I got the girls to pack a bag, I packed mine got the passports, got into the car and drove 1600 miles back to UK.
It was my youngest daughters birthday (7) the day after we arrived back and we celebrated with my mother, who has taken my return amazingly well and has supported me with my decision to stay and not return to my husband.
I am luckly I have the support of my mother and a lot of good friends, but none of them truly understand what I have gone through and how I feel now. I feel guilty at taking the girls away from my husband because I know that he loves them but I cannot live with him and cannot live in Spain as a single mother. I also think I feel guilty because I actually am happy at being back in control of my own life and that there is no longer conflict on a daily basis.
The girls have settled really well and at the moment do not seem to be too upset about the split and we have been having a lot of girlie time which they love.
At the moment I am just happy because I am away from the situation reality will kicking soon I'm sure.
Chris
Hi nikki
Welcome to One Space, you will have lots of experience of parenting teenagers that can help the rest of us! Do please join in any of the threads, your contributions will be valued.
Take care
Hello Shaz
Good to see you here, I do hope that you WILL chat away as you said, your views are very welcome, none of the threads are private coversations, they are for everyone. Look forward to getting to know you better :)
Hi chrisa
Thanks for sharing your story and you are very welcome to join us here. I have heard from a friend of mine about the divorce laws in Spain and I understand why you needed to come back to the Uk, I am glad you have your Mum's support, and that of friends. I guess the next step is to look at the practicailties such as money/work/housing so let us know if you want any support through those minefields! In the mentime, please do join in the discussions!
Hiya i'm lilruthie, i have 3 lads 19,16 an 14, i have been divorced now just over 6 yrs.
hello lilruthie
Great that you have joined us, welcome! I have two teenage boys too. I know you have posted in the teenagers section and I hope you will get information and support and make some new online friends :)
Hi all from me too!
Chrisa please join in the Relationships and You thread, if you haven't already done so, as I have lots of info and support to give you re: living with abuse for so long. Great news that you came back to the UK, I hope that we will be able to support you find your feet. :)
hi im rachel i have a son whos just turned 1
Hi Rachel & also Lilruthie,
I am pansy, husband left me 6 wks ago for another woman. I have 3 children 15,13 & 9.
I'm sure you will find good friends & help & support here, all here are wonderful.
Hi, i'm Babs. I have a 3 year old daughter, and have been divorced for about a year now. I juggle a full time career with being a single mother, so clothes are often not ironed, and sometimes I forget to put my make-up on, but I am lucky in having some good support from family and friends nearby. None of my friends who live nearby have children, and those that do, have husbands, so it would be great to chat to people in similar situations as me and hopefully get some good advice! Thanks! :)
Hi pieface - great name!! Welcome to One Space! Have you seen the new NHS Baby LifeCheck site that has a questionnaire that can help you recognise and support you and your baby, have a look at our Useful Links page, the last listing under the Parenting section. http://www.onespace.org.uk/links. I thought it looked quite interesting, let me know what you think.
Hi babsek, nice to meet you! so what if you and your child are crumpled and unpainted there is more to life than that!!! :lol: I actually stopped ironing a few years ago, after a friend asked if I ever thought that she looked crumpled (!) I said no and she said she never irons, just flattens the clothes a little before hanging them up. Once you have been wearing them for an hour or so, all the creases drop out anyway!! Although it doesn't work so well with work shirts! What is your job??
Please feel free to join in other groups on the online groups, look forward to getting to know you. :)
Pieface, hello you are welcome to have joined us :D That's a great link Anna has suggested so I hope you find it useful. Look forward to getting to know you.
Hello babsek, great to see you here! Re the ironing, I am a very careful shopper and on the whole only buy things which are non-iron heh heh. Please join in the threads!
What is your username? we're_a_team
How many children do you have? 2
How old are they? 4 mths and 4 years
Are they boys or girls? one of each
How long have you been a single parent? about 3.5 months
Hello to all!
Hey there and welcome, look forward to hearing about your lovely family!
I do try to hang clothes, but feel when my daughter starts school that I will have to pay someone to do it... I really am completely rubbish, spend an hour ironing something for it to look like I just got it out of the machine!!
In answer to the question, I work as a buyer, so it provides a good challenge!
i am a single parent with three young boys . i am looking to making new friends who i can chat to . i got divorced in dec and finding things hard at the monent . any advice and support would be appreciated thank you
Hi there, welcome to our site, please introduce yourself!
What is your username? clara
How many children do you have? 3
How old are they? 9 , 7 and 21 months
Are they boys or girls? all boys
How long have you been a single parent? july last year chucked him out got divorced in dec
(No conversations here please, just a useful tool for us to make friends and share a little about us and our families!)
i have three lively boys who are on the go all the time . i work part-time in a day nursery . i am looking for friendship , advise and support .
Hello we're_a_team, great to have to here. Good user name, I always say to my kids we are a team....mind you that is usually when I want them to do some chores :lol: Look forward to getting to know you more
Hi clara you certainly will be on the go with three boys, especially in the school holidays. Welcome to One space and I hope you soon feel at home here
Hey there Clara, my gosh, three boys! I am sure they keep you on your toes! Look forward to hearing all about them and hopefully we can support you and help you feel a bit better.
Hi I am Jackie, 42, work full time, mum to two gorgeous children, son just 9 and daughter 5 and half. We have been our own little family unit since my daughter was 6 months old- so 5 years alone now.
It is not easy, but the worst of the baby years are now behind me and am basking in the 'wonder years' of not reaching the fallout of the teen years yet!
I am looking to make some like minded friends that aren't just to do with work/family and hopefully develop some friendships with people that understand my life and somehow buoy myself up as I already feel 'lonely' but guess I will feel even more so as my children become less dependent on me in the years to come. I found I lost a lot of mutual friends around the split as it was painful for them plus I moved away and have had to restart my life in many ways since.
I actually found this site after reading a link via the Times online and a very accurate article about your children holidaying away from you to be with dad with another "mum" in tow. I found it all very pertinent! Mine are staying with their Dad and stepmum and their half sister (3 and a bit) for 2 days next week. I am very positive about it as my children haven't seen him for 3 months - of course he lives the other side of the world :roll: (3 hrs away and I drive half way to meet)
I am also 'weird' as I haven't dated etc :oops: since the split!! I put that down to reeling and recovering from an abusive 10 yr relationship. I now feel too 'scared' to step out there again :ugeek: Which I know I must ...
Thanks for reading,
J x
Hello jajoly
Thanks for sharing your story and i am glad you found us, welcome!!!!!
Well done for being so positive about your children's forthcoming visit to their dad, it isn't easy at the best of times, I know, and particularly when there is another woman on the scene. I guess you have to keep telling yourself that no-one will ever replace you in their eyes or hearts and trust that their dad will look after them Ok. Also it is good if they can get to know any half siblings.
Re the dating thing, I think everyone has different feelings about this. Some people seem to plunge into a new relationship very quickly (I wouldn't recommend this!) or maybe they want to catch up on the wild time they never had before their relationship.Other people think "never again!". The main thing, as you say, is to make new friends.
So do join in the chat, jajoly and your views and contributions are very welcome :D
I'd like to add my hello's to those who have joined. :)
Anna or Louise,
my mum would like to join an online forum like this for bereavement. Do you know of any support forums?
She is still my mum, and so is technically a single parent, hehe, I'm her big baby. :lol:
Better not this forum, after all my mischievous antics. hehe.
thanks
sy
Hi everyone, my name is Raychelle, I have 2 children ages 19 and 12, a girl and a boy and I have been a single parent for 7 years.
Hi, I'm Dolittle. I have a 20 month old daughter and have been a single parent for 7 months.
Hi raychell & dolittle!
welcome! :D everyone is so nice hear, would love to hear more about you if you want.
join in any of the threads that you want. hope to hear more from you when you feel ready.
Pansy
A big hello to raychell and Dolittle
Welcome to One Space! :D You are among friends here.
Have a look at the threads and join in where you fancy. Included in the threads are a recipe section (food, glorious food), a rant room to let off steam, a wishing chair to say what you would like in the future and discussions on everything from the positives about being a lone parent to very personal emotional support to different people through difficult situaitons. So I hope you will give us the chance to get to know you both better.
Hello sadsy
Your mum might like to have a look at this website below. it, too, has forums although it looks as if members get individual support from counsellors rather than it being a general support site like this one. Anyway see what she thinks:
http://www.bereavement.co.uk/about/about-bereavement-uk.html
Hi i'm mumoftwo I have 2 girls aged 15 and 5
We live in Cumbria
Hello munoftwo,
I have a 15, 13 & 9 yr old. Have been seperated for 6 wks.
please join in any of the threads if you want to, everyone is really friendly on one space :D
Pansy
Hello mumoftwo, it's nice to "see" you! You will see there are lots of different threads on her, offering everything from emotional support to recipe and DIY suggestions! Join in wherever takes your fancy and you will be made very welcome.
Hi there jajoly, great that you have found us, as Louise says there is a lot of discussion in different groups about when and how to date, look forward to hearing your views.
Raychelle, great to have you onboard, I wonder how you are finding life with a 19 year old? There is a discussion in the Parenting Teenagers group about whether you are still a single parent after your child turns 18. It would be great to have your take on it.
Dolittle - love the name! I am presuming that you are a lover of animals and look after and talk to them, rather than the kind of single parent that the media portrays that we are - doing very little!! :lol:
Welcome mumoftwo - 6 weeks is a short time to be on your own, how are you finding it.
Its great to see new faces, looking forward to getting to know you. :D
Hi sadsy
Here is another link to a forum for your mum, it is from the National Association of Widows:
http://www.nawidows.org.uk/forum.html
You have to be a member to view it, so I am unable to tell if it is useful, please let us know.
Just like to say thanks for the welcome Pansy and louise :)
I missed your post Anna, sorry. Will definetly have a read of the threads and have my say :)
Hi my name is Joanna I am 28 and have a daughter who is 18months old.
I have been on my own since she was born and work fulltime.
Be lovely to meet other single parents.
evening joanna28,
very nice to meet you.
sy
Hi Joanna
Look forward to getting to know you.
Hi Joanna, welcome to One Space a place to meet other single parents and learn how to live life to the full as a single parent!!
You must be a very busy mum, working full time with an 18month old! How are you enjoying life?? What job do you do?
Hi there.... Im Missy84, im a single parent to Lilly-rose who is 4 months. I have been a single mummy for a month now.
Hi joanna,
you will like it here I'm sure, everyone lovely.
Hi to anyone else I have missed too :D
Pansy
Hi
Im Wendy, I have 12 Year old Son who has just moved from his Dads. He needs some Friends down here in Surrey! He hates Football and any Sports.
Hi Wendy
Just want to say hi. I'm in the north west, I'm afraid.
hello nikki,
very nice to meet you.
Feel free to join in on any of the discussion threads.
Except mine, which on the whole are very silly.
Though if you like silly from time to time you are very welcome to join me too.
What brings you to One Space? Are you OK?
I'm sy and my partner left me 2 months ago for another guy, she take the children.
I've just lost my job too. And my stepdad, and soon my home. Annnd, my mind.
Other than that all is well.
I have 2 baby orphan Quorns that I'm looking after.
Hug for you
sy