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I did sleep well, thank you.
I treated myself to some new pillows the other day, as my neck has been making the most awful cracking noises (had terrible whiplash years ago).
While it still takes me ages to nod off, I've had two nights sleep now! :D
Just had a run in with the Beaver leader via emai. Another confession... I feel she's stamping on my toes, not just treading on them. Not often I give a short sharp reply back. But she had one. She almost apologised... :lol:
Well done, you ;)
Hi everyone
Mouise well done you for going to that wedding on your own, especially as weddings are such emotional occasions! Sounds like your arms could be about reaching the floor with all that stuff to carry, though.
Bourne, is your gnat bite still bad? Sorry to hear that. I know exactly what you mean about the world being in "couples". I made several attempts to go to things on my own as a single person, I could manage the cinema but the theatre was harder as there is an interval and I felt self-conscious being on my own, so I came home in the interval. One thing I would say is that I do know a large number of UNhappy couples though, and even with those we see in the park/shopping, we don't know what is really going on in their relationship so don't always think they they have it sussed.
Sadsy, it's not just you...when you feel alone it does seem that things are in sharper relief, including the sight of other people's relationships. It helps to identify what are the most difficult times for you...this sounds silly but I always used to sit at the front window on Friday teatimes and watch the cars coming down the road and feel very sad that everyone had someone coming home to them and I didn't....the "solution" was merely NOT to sit at the window on Friday teatimes and be busy doing something else instead. The point is, once i had identified where I was most vulnberable, I could avoid that.
Oh mousie, I'm so sorry.
have a great time at the festival, bourne, and we look forward to some pictures.....
Hi Mousie
Awww i am sorry you were so sad. I do hope you managed a decent sleep and that things look a bit brighter this morning. Crying is actually very healing, as bourne says, so it is a good sign that you are doing it, although it certainly won't feel like it at the time! Grief's a strange thing; we do not seem to recover in a straight line, it is very up and down (a roller-coaster as you say) BUT the down bits gradually get less.
I don't know if you like to read books about your situation or find them helpful? There are a couple I can recommend: "Putting Children First" by Karen and Nick Woodall (available from amazon or play.com), which has a large, excellent section on whether you are the "leaver" or the "left" and how to cope in the early days. Also "I can mend your Broken Heart" by Paul McKenna.
I suppose it is difficult for you to judge whether it is more curative to avoid your little girl's dad or to force yourself to see him and try to become de-sensitised: only you can comment on that one!
Take care
I wont be online for a few days.
I will be at the greenbelt festival, i will post a link so you can see the pics ( not that you may be interested).
take care all, hope your still here when i get back, and dont think because im away you can start gossiping about interesting subjects like sparkling water.
off to my big double bed alone, four fluffy pillows and no teddy bears cos im a ruddy bloke.
Have a lovely time Bourne.
Yeah... but fluffy pillows can be cuddled - I know I cuddle mine! Take care, and I look forward to seeing the pics.
Hi mousie, no wonder you felt sick! I am going to be generous enough to think that he sent it by mistake, not to rub salt into the wound. How infuriating though! :x
You sound as if you are wondering how you are going to get through all this and I know it seems like a long and impossible road at the moment. Do take some comfort from the experiences of others (such as sparkling lime) who have been through this time and those others on this board who are going through it with you. There will be good days and bad days, just a total rollercoaster as we said. There's no "easy" way through and some days the best that you can tell yourself is that you got through that day and you are now a day nearer to being happy.
it might be worth a letter to him saying that you have packed up all his things and they need to be colected by date "x" as after that you cannot store them for him. It is up to him to find alternative storage!
re the photos, I don't know if you read what some of the others were saying about photos on another thread but anyway I would urge you not to destroy them or cut his face out of the picture etc...for your daughter's sake. Just put them away, but do let her keep a picture or two of her dad in her room if she wants to, however it makes you feel when you go in there :shock:
Re the house, does he just turn up unannounced? Who is paying the rent/mortgage? I think you need a bit of legal advice about whether to change the locks
Take care, mousie, if you want a legal advisor you can go to http://www.communitylegaladvice.org.uk/en/directory/directorysearch.jsp
Hi Mousie
I totally agree with you. Do not let him see your daughter until you get the passport from him. Although I haven't been in your situation, I really feel for you. All the emotions you are feeling about him are completely normal and understandable. Try and take your mind off things by getting things organized for your little girls school. It might help a little!
Sorry I've not been much help.
Take care
Alison
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http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/passports-and-immigration/
That's the link to the passport office website, incase there is some information there that's helpful.
While I didn't have (and have never been able to afford to get) passports for the children, I did state in mediation that he was not to take them abroad. He also knew had he tried I'd have taken prohibitive steps to prevent him doing so (long story involving a Texan).
If you have a key-cutting shop in your town, they could well sell the barrel lock that fits your door. It's something that you can change yourself. I had to change mine due to faulty keys - or at least the keys that came with it couldn't have copies cut. If you open your door, there will be a screw that's located by the latch part.
I'm glad he's taken his things. Something else to cross off the list.
Keep typing Mousie. It can be therapy in itself writing things down.
Loads of hugs, and pack as much fun as you can into the week with your daughter. I hate it when they go back to school!
Hi mousie
What a horrible thing to happen!
Witholding contact with your daughter pending the return of the passport will just escalate the conflict, but this MIGHT be worth doing if you thought that he would misuse the passport? However, I would suggest you write him a letter asking for the passport back. Say that you give him your word that you will not just "disappear" with your daughter. You know, thinking of it from his point of view, he must truly be frightened he will lose touch with his daughter.
If he does not hand it back, then do as sadsy suggests and apply for a new one, stating that the old one has been mislaid and asking that it is cancelled.
Have you checked other things in the house, such as her birth certificate? it might be worth keeping an envelope of precious documents at someone else's house so that this can't happen again.
Take care, mousie :)
Bourne, I hope you're having a great time.
Been thinking of Pansy too...
Every time I read the title of this thread I think... Yes! probably :D
No offence intended, that's just the first thing that goes through my head....
Every time.. and it's been alive for a while now, so I have like this sort of mental torrets thing going round and round in my head when ever this thread comes up to the top on the active posts thing : )
sorry..
I can't disagree!! :D
Yep, pure madness....
Hello everyone
Sorry to hear that you had that experience with the coat and hot chocolate, bourne, you felt embarrassed but your brother was there and I have to say that I imagine you made that lady's day appearing in your boxer shorts! :oops: Welcome back, I am gald the festivla was in general a positive experience for you.
Mousie you are in a difficult place right now with more and more things adding to your emotional rollercoaster. I think bourne is right, the new woman will have to go through the same thing, eventually. Keep thinking of your lovely little girl! And we will all be here to metaphorically hold your hand.
In answer to the title of this thread, that a few of you have mentioned, the answer is NO! it is everyone else who is mad, not US!!!! :D
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I always loose at Scrabble...
I like Boggle too - smaller words, easier for me to cope with :D
Hi bourne,
we haven't heard from you for a while, how are you doing? Hope everything's Ok
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Oh I do hope you had a good night's sleep after your busy evening, Sparkling.
Sadsy, give us a clue! ;)