And what's wrong with Des O'Connor anyway? :lol:
Ah, the stairs.......when my youngest was a baby I earned extra money by being a cleaner, I remember the lady (whom I knew) came round to my house to arrange what day I would go and what she would pay me etc......and as we were chatting I saw her looking round my lounge and so I blurted out "I would clean yours properly, you know, not like mine"! She then said it would be worth my wages just to get the stairs hoovered every week :lol:
On a serious note, bourne, yes it does sound as if you're showing some symptoms of stress. You can channel some of that nervous energy into your martial arts.
Stress... Stress left me disabled, hardly able to walk from the house to the car. My whole body locked up a few years back, and even moving my fingers was incredibly painful.
Even my wonky leg is more than likely to be down to stress. In a way though, its comforting to know it is stress and the otherwise I'm ok.
I had to laugh when you said the hoover was still working! However, I do notice how nice my stairs look when hoovered. My daughter has a gerbil, and sawdust is forever finding its way on the stairs. And pumpkin seeds :roll:
Relationships. That 72 year old. I bet she'd be such a laugh to go for walks with and play bingo! I've come to the conclusion that friendships are so precious, more so since I lost my best friend. Far more loyal than relationships - possibly because they go home, yet you know they're there for you unconditionally.
That loyalty is something I miss so much.
Hope the sun is shining and that you're doing ok.
To be honest i feel comfortable here talking to you all, but i may move to another topic, but i hope you all stick with me youve all been so nice and funny.
I appologise if i dont ask too much about you all but would like to know more. Whos idea was this site ?
Hi bourne
Please have a look around at the other topics, we are all over the place, we join in every topic, especially if it is interesting!!
I moderate this site with Louise, I have a 14 yr old daughter and work for Single Parent Action Network (SPAN). Started here 6 years ago as a volunteer, since, I am trained to run courses in Coping with Stress and Anxiety, Parenting Programmes and the Freedom Programme, for survivors of domestic abuse.
One Space came about when SPAN wanted to reach out to single parents all over the UK by social networking, we know that everybody is different and that the media stereotypes single parents and we wanted to support anyone and everyone who is raising children on their own. We have a huge amount of resources and 20 years of experience of working with policy makers down to individuals themselves.
SPAN endeavours to empower single parent families across the UK, by giving them a voice and working with decision making bodies.
I still have completely bitter moments, and I'm five years down the line. My most recent one is calming down at the moment. :D
Ex never did anything with my lot until he got involved with the Texan on the net. I know how much it hurt me that he would do these things to have an online chat with someone to show how wonderful a father he was, when he could never find it in him to do family things.
Over time though what started off as almost regular contact as faded (with loads of upset on the way for the children - not for him) into a couple of hours every now and then.
My lot still love their father. I have always told them that he loves them, just he has chosen a new life and we have to deal with it. I'm always positive about him with them (I'd so love to be able to be a bitch about him with them. He's been so vile over things). They see him happily when he chooses to give them a time slot.
I think it took me about four years to get to the point of accepting that this is how things are. And I feel calmer about things most of the time. Clock watching though waiting for the children to come back and fill the house with noise again. So it does fade.
I'll never forgive though. I'll never forget either. Accepting my situation does not mean that I have to do either.
That's right, sparkling lime, they are separate things
Hello mousie, I am sorry you feel so bitter (but am not surprised after what you describe!) I suppose the one thing you can say that has worked out more positively for her is that she actually DOES get to go swimming etc with him sometimes now. I have met a lot of separated parents who "suddenly" start doing things with their kids once they are separated and in theri favour I can say that whilst they live with the kids then it seems to them that they are getting quality time doing some day-to-day stuff and it is only when this is taken away that they have to do different things. Also, human nature being what it is, there is nothing like telling someone they "can't" do something, for them suddenly to feel they are being deprived and want to do it! :lol:
sleep well Bourne
Hi bourne
Your daughter will see it as "her" special room, that's great.
Talking of going to work with paint in your ear, one day (when I was married and lived in Hertfordshire) I got the train all the way into work in London and then the tube and was just walking into my office when I met a friend who asked me what on earth I had on my face. It turned out to be Marmite, where my then husband had planted a kiss (mid breakfast) before I went out the door :oops: :oops: :oops:
Hi everyone
Yesterday I was away on training so I was unable to read the messages posted.
So firstly - bourne, you mentioned in a previous message that you may move to another topic, but you hope that everyone sticks with you. That is why I said we are all over the place - meaning all over the message boards.
and Pansy, I wasn't referring to any topic in particular!!
Craft room sounds lovely, I flattened and laid out a huge cardboard box and put it in my daughters bedroom when she was small and that was her art corner!
Life moves in mysterious ways and we never know what is round the corner.
bourne are you still roaming as much? Is there an issue that you are trying to get your head around, or are you just at a loss of what to do?
louise i forgot to mention my christmas tree story ( i was starkers), neighbour never spoke to me again but i left a year later.
hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lucky the needles had already dropped off 8-) :roll: :oops:
Bourne wrote
My brother who lives in penzance is a guitarist singer songwriter is taking me to the greenbelt festival at cheltenham soon to try and chill me out, he keeps reasuring me ill be okay, i know some of you guys have much more to deal with than me and i will help as much as i can so i appologise if i go off tangent into some new conversation, i try and humour the situation its my way of coping but i dont mean to come across like i dont care because i do. does that make sense to anyone or am i waffling rubbish.
It makes perfect sense.
You don't come across as not caring at all.
I understand about using humour to cope - I do (in real life, anyway).
I'm so glad you have the support of your brother. While he's right in saying you'll be ok, it's hard to see that at this point. It's something that only time can show, when you can finally look back and see how far you've come.
Hi bourne
Share your worries with us, we won't tell anyone! Or maybe just start with one. Did you say you were working at the moment? :?:
Bourne you have been very friendly and caring in your posts to others. Except Christmas trees!!!!!! :lol: it is absolutely typical that your neighbour was there at the wrong time.
hey does this work ? Me n my girl.
That's a beautiful picture.
I hope things stay as amicable as they are for you.
I did post part of my story, when you asked to know a bit about us. I put it in the top bit, but about when I was homeless... Please don't feel you're being ignored, honestly, you're not.
Both you and your daughter have infectious smiles.
hey sy i doubt it,
although ppl keep telling me i look like colin firth all the time, even a young girl at the gymn today !, i think they mean eddie the eagle personally.
Im done for my freind, had it, ive been bitten on my neck by a gnat and it looks like a love bite !, how embarrasing.
While I'm sorry you've been bitten by a gnat, the love bite bit made me laugh...
Germoline's good for things like that.
:lol: sorry but the mention on Germolene made me remember what it smells like! You won't get any real love bites while you have that cream on! Seriously, insect bites are horrid. My friend sees to be having allergic reactions to every bite this year and they are going very red and swelling up painfully.
Thanks for sharing your picture, bourne, and I look forward to seeing other peoples' pictures in due course.
Sadsy, I didn't realise you had a week with the children to come. Even though there is the court case, try to enjoy the time with them :) Who is this charity solicitor? Is it through Families Need Fathers? What bourne said to you was very true: every day you are a step nearer to happiness and all this stress easing. We are all thinking of you.
Hi Bec, it must be the DIY mathematical equation: think of a time and triple it, think of a price and double it.
Well, I'm relieved to say I've never had a love bite - my mother would have 'crowned' me, as she used to say...
Arwen will have a wonderful week, and Luke and she will be more than fine.
Don't worry about what Louise says. You're doing your bit, which is the main thing. Remember to look into what you are able to deduct for travel with the CSA.
Bourne - hope you're doing ok and that your neck is feeling better. My friend would have bad reactions to insect bites, and she'd end up on anti-biotics quite often.
Hi bourne
Fantastic photo! Would you be interested in putting it on our Family Quilt with an interesting title. We would love to have it on there!
That goes for anyone else with photos, poems, Youtube videos, check it out, it is a place for us to show off our talents!
bourne, we are here to listen, so please do let off steam or just share something of what is going on, we love giving support! Often said, it is easier to give advice than to listen to our own, maybe someone will give you a different take on what you are thinking.
Do you have plans this weekend to show off your gnat bite!!?
Sadsy - best of luck with the children, I too believe they will be fine.
Try and make the space to enjoy them, this is going to be an incredibly difficult week and it is sooo hard to be up and happy with the kids when we have a million things going round in our minds. Good Luck.
It seems mousie is now utilising bad energy to do positive things.
I think i have some tension built up inside , i have dizzy spells which i think are down to anxiety , i feel fit and healthy but i know im hurting inside.
Anyway on a lighter note, (hope you havent all run off and left me !) i have hoovered the stairs, yes hoovered the stairs, i got halfway up and had to go down to unplug as the cable wouldnt reach, the hoover fell down the stairs.
The bad news was that it still worked so i had to finish the top.
hope your all okay, louise is from up north like me so we are now special freinds.
why do people make so little effort in a relationship ? i think if i told you a story youd understand more, and im now worried about my sanity.
I bought the ad mag the other day and hoped to find a second hand wooden dummy ( no , its not what your thinking, shame on you all, its a training device for some forms of kung fu , jeet kune do), but then i turned to the back page and noticed adverts by people who are single.
get this one,
72 year old lady likes animals, music, theatre, reading, gardening, seeks caring companion for outings.
Im going to end up with some old lady that wants to use me to drive her to bingo because she is too old to drive, put up with her six cats and seven dogs, be forced to listen to des oconners greatest hits whilst weeding her garden whilst she reads a mills and boon novel.
im really worried , i chucked the paper !, i need some advice what to do ?