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Just want to say hello to all the members
My name is stuart i am 37 an a working single father of 3 children.
Daughter 14 son 10 and son 7.
Just looking to make friends and take note of peoples views and experiences. For support throught this ride of raising my 3 children and the worries and joys of parenting.
Look forward to chatting to many different people.
Hi Stuart, welcome to One Space. Do you find being a single dad tough, do you get lots of support from family and friends?
I'm a single mum to a wonderful 7 year old son. I've been on my own since pregnancy, and I love it! Obviously some days (weeks) are harder than others, but all in all, I think I've done a fantastic job without the 'sperm doner' involved.
I look forward to chatting some more, take care
Alison
x
Hi from me too.
It's good to see you here.
Hi Stuart,
You have come to a good place.
Mx
Hi there bubblegum thanks for your reply.
Mine see there mum the boys go to hers one weekend a month and half the holidays. at first when she left she didet want them then when here new relationship was settled and she and her new partner got a house she wanted them but they all want to live with me.
To me its is hard work juggling work and time with the kids and house work but i love it to.
I dont see how anyone would not want to see there children.
Hello Alison
How are you and your son.
Yer its tough with the financial part of the split an the mess that was left.
Not much time for a social life either as u may well know.
Yer i have my brother living with me and the full support of my ex mother and father in law.
What about you you get out much and have family and friends to help you.
Hi Stuart
glad you've come to join us it will be nice to get a dads point of view on things. My husband decided the single life was more appealing than his 18 year marriage. He works away most of the year so had the single life pretty much anyway...doesnt make it any easier on the heart when he tells you he doesnt want to be married anymore. I have 2 boys 16 and 10 going through the motions and taking it slowly,very slowly!! all still new to me as im only on week 10 head still all over the place. would love to hear your story and how your coping
take care K :o)
Hi suplus
Hope ur doing well an things will get better it takes lots of time.
My ex wife of 14 years wanted more loved me like a brother but dident tell me until she had met anew single guy on a internet chat room.she met the guy thought the grass is greener i found out and trough her out ( she was going to leave anyway) afte she left i found out how much debt she had got us into.but hey were are divorced an i have the 3 children as she dident at first want to take them.
stuart
Hello and thanks
The support and views will help.
I get on well with my ex-in-laws too - although she is The Git's step-mother which I know has helped.
I take the children there most weeks for tea. In the six years since we've split up, he's not taken them once.
He chooses to see very little of the children, which can be hard. The last time he had them for any length of time was a "week" in August 2007 (his week was Tuesday 6pm - Friday 6pm :-D )
While I know the children are absolutely so much settled with not going, as contact was forever being cancelled, raising four children on your own is tiring. I've lost my parents and my brother and sister live away (and are a lot older!)
Today I feel very old!
I still wouldn't change a thing. I'm happily divorced and very happily single!
My oldest son is now 18, my daughter 16, my son with special needs is 14 and my youngest son is 11.
They're quite wonderful, and are very forgiving with all my failings. I just try and fit in laughter at various points.
Hi Stuart,
My EX told me the same thing after 17 years together, said he loved me as a friend. Only after I had confronted him over what was happening. Still hasnt had the common courtsey of saying he was Sorry. I told him to leave and go back to his mums. At the end of the day this is what he wants a mum.
Take care
Mx
Hello stuart
Good that you have joined us, please do dive in and contribute to any of the topics, there is lots of chat and support here. I am one of the moderators here (Anna, my co-moderator, is away this week)
I see that you work as well as look after the children; that's a tall order and I am glad you have good family support. Do you find it harder with your daughter than your sons? now that she is a teenager I mean
Morning Louise
Hello and how are you today.
Yes i have to work to keep the family home as its a morgaged home and where the children have grown up. Think id go crazy if i couldent work and the childminder i have is gem she does the home work with them before i pick them up.
My daughter is great shes a good teenager she has respect for me and what i do for them all.She helps out but like all teenagers has her moments.
My children were all very daddys children so they all wanted to stay with me when the mum wanted out and she dident want to take them with her at first anyway she wanted to enjoy her new fredom an fella.
I bet the kids think the sun shines out of you! I love it that we have fab mums AND dads on this site.
Your childminder sounds great...and she even nags them about homework heh heh.
Hope your day will go well, mine is quieter today; I teach a parenting course on Wednesdays so that's always a busy day but Thursdays are my bit of calm. I think we all need a bit of clam before the Easter holidays. Do you have the children for half of it, or all of it, and do you have some time off work?
Hi there Stuart
Welcome to the site, I am fairly new myself so just finding my way round the site but I have found it very friendly so far, its nice to just chat with people who are in similar situations to give their point of view of things you may be going through. Its nice to see there are some single dads on here too, many people think of single parents always as mums so nice to have a few dads to throw their perspective on things. Look forward to chatting some more.
xx
Hello again
Yer i have a week off with the kids at easter then they are going to there mums for a week.We live in preston there mum lives in birmingham.There mum has had another baby they have a half brother and she is getting remarried in august and they get on well with her new partner to.
They are all still a little clinggy to me which i understand after what they have been through.
I had a tough call to make out of the blue it was i have met someone else i am going what do you want to do about the kids as i dont want them full time.
Time to yaself whats that lol
Hello there yummymummy25
Thanks an nice to meet you, yer i dont get to meet many single fathers.Going through a million an one thoughs everyday on how we manage but you surprise yourself by how well you do.
But it is a thankless task and you dont realise how hard it is till theres only one of you lol.
Hi stuart
Sounds as if your Easter will be a reasonable balance of time with the children and a bit of time off! What will you do when the kids are away? I hope you have a bit of "chilling" time planned
Hi louise
Yes easter is covered one week off for me to spend with the children the second week back to work and only the daughter to look after as she doesnt stay long at mums.
I have started a english and maths course with learn direct which you do online. And i have just passed a PC Maintenance course at preston college which i do on a monday night.
Chill time i find it hard to relax as if i sit down i fall asleep i love to keep busy.Walk the dog on the beach and play the ps3 with me daughter.
You got plans for easter louise and do you have children to.
Hi Stuart
Well done on the courses, not easy to do this online, is it?
I have got two boys of 20 and 15. The eldest is at Uni and is arriving for a few days' visit. Then both boys are going to their dad's parents for a few days. I separated from their dad when they were eight and three but they still see their grandparents. I am having a short break with a friend while they are away and also doing my college work; I am on a counselling course.
What sort of work do you do?
Hello Louise
I work in a office for a dental handpiece repair company its quiet boring and easy but it pays my bills lol
My 3 still see there grandparents to they live round the corner.I am just getting use to being on my own as i havent done it for 14years and you do feel the presure of working keeping your housework up and trying to relax and entertain the children. Also make ends meet and recover from the fallout of my failed marrige where it seams like quiet a few of members on here have been left with other ex partners debt.
Hi Stuart
Im doing better now thanks hope your having a good weekend.
Your a great dad for taking on 3 kids not sure how any mother can leave her children behind. I told my "him" that its not fair why im left doing this on my own while he gets to live the life he wants,he would rather die than leave his well paid dangerous job and single life style than become someone with a 9-5 daily job back in scotland. I know he thrives on the danger he cant live unless he's in the thick of danger...one day it might all come back and bite him on the bottom, i just hope im there to see it happen so i can smile and say oh dear thats a shame and then walk away and get back to my new life lol
Do you have much of a social life? ive only just started to have one and it still scares me but im getting there and enjoying most of the nights out lol..not so keen on being in the house on my own though,its full of too many memories, even had to buy and build a new bed on my own cause i could no longer bear to sleep in our marital bed..i got a really girly wrought iron frame with a head and foot board its MY bed and i love it lol
anyway hope your having a good weekend
take care Kx
Hi suplus
Hope ur having a good weekend mine has been good had my mum sis an sisters baby here 4 the weeked.
W ith my ex its all about the money an doing nothing 4 it she wouldent be with this guy if he dident have money an the amount of debt she left us in but i am working my way through it an know i have the best bits of are relationship.the kids an home. i loved being a husband an a great dad it would of finished me off if my kids were taken from me.
Well done with the building of ya new bed who needs a man anyway lol.
With the running of the house an payin 4 the debt at the moment theres not much cash left so social life on hold 4 now. l have at the moment just lost my faith in the truth an woman. just enjoyin raisin the children the best i can.
I a nice nice home 3 great great kids a job so done preaty well out of a messy situation.
Hope ur havin a good weekend an one day ur ex looks back on what might of been someone to be there through thick an thin.
Hi Stuart,
It is so nice to hear from a guy who really wants to take care and support his children. My EX has not shown much interested in the kids since he went, has them every Sunday at the mo, but there is no real parenting going on.
Know how you are feeling, working, running a house and chasing the kids, so not much money left over. Since EX left, I have only been out the once, but myself and the neighbours have decided to do our own Come Dine with Me, which is great as you really dont have to go anywhere and just be yourself, which is just what you need at the moment.
Hope everyone has had an enjoyable weekend. Been a good weekend in Devon, but now the rain is starting to fall, great just in time for the Easter hols.
Mx
Hi Stuart
This has been my best full weekend yet,im 10 weeks and 2 days down the road to singledom. Usually either saturday or sunday is spent in floods of tears but none since Thursday and it feels great..Had a real wake up call on Thursday to how despicable he has become and that was the shock i needed i think to get me over the huge heartache ive been suffering...its true what they say you never really know someone no matter how long your with them. My "him" was a lovely dependable decent family man on the surface (despite his numerous affairs) and then wham he changed over night and became a right bas***d and wanted a single life and none of the things that went with being married...Well tough is all i can say, 18 years dont just disappear when you no longer want them. Especially when the nice little wifey becomes the bitch from hell and comes back fighting. a woman scorned right enough! Money isnt everything its security thats important and once thats been damaged its hard to get it back.
You'll start to socialise again when the time is right for you..or you throw yourself into it like i did just to prove a point to yourself.
At least you're getting through the debt that your ex has left you with..what a lovely woman she was to leave you a little something to remember her by! chancer more like.. its only now i'd like to hurt my husband financially would never have considered it before now,what was the point it would have been my debt to!
anyway off to put my little man to bed.
Take care Kx
Hi Surplus
Glad your feeling better and on the mead and ur ready to come out fighting. Just enjoy ur fredom an look after number one and have plenty of you time.
Yer you spend all those years with someone an they throw it all away you never truely know them. I believe that if there has been affairs it ruins your relationship an your never quiet the same again my ex did but i dident.
Even though i am the strong one it seams that being weak an needy an a liar gets you what u want.
But i have the respect of the children and family and they keep you going.
Hope you have a good day and its onwards and upwards whoooooooo.
Take care stuart
Morning Eeyore
My children wanted me to look after them and keep them in the home it was a struggle but i managed it.Been through hell divorce custody debt worry and stress but i am still here lol.
Just got to grit ya teeth and take one day at a time is the best advice.
You go through a million an one emotions and its a roller coaster of a ride.
The come dine with me sounds like a great idea and your in the company of friends.
I dident want to be a weekend day and think the stability of the children was most important.
Take Care
Stuart
Hi Stuart,
Your children must think the world of you, there are not many dads who willing want to be a full time single parent - so good on you and I bet you are enjoying every moment of it. I really dont know what I would do if I didnt have the kids with - when they are away its so quiet and lonely.
I am gritting teeth , taking lots of small steps every day and some huge ones when I feel I can. The rollercoaster hit the bottom for me, so now the only way is up. Fingers crossed.
Take care
Mx
Hello Eeyore
Yer the kids love the fact that they are still in there home and not having to move and relocate. They are happy to live with dad and spend the odd weekend and holiday at mums.
The biggest worry i have is with the fact that i struggle financially to make ends meet and there mothers partner has more finances she uses that to spoil the kids with gifts which i have spoken to her about it but she dont listen an uses it all part of her silly games. Because she dont work and has the children more than so many days of the year there is the £10 a fortnight csa payment that i receive only.Only recently has she been going halfs on clothes for the children so theres a little break through there.
There is a shineing light to all this since the split all three children have been doing academically better at school and it makes me cry at parents evening. My daughter has even had a poem published in a book.
I know that feeling to of quiet an lonely when the children are not there.
I have every credit for the single mothers out there who dont get the credit they deserve cause a single parent is the hardest job in the world and when a family split everyone expects the woman to take on the children.
Yer the only way is up and up fingers crossed for every one.
Hope your week is going well
Take Care
Stuart x
Hi Stuart,
Staying in the home was my main concern, kids have friends are settled and not too far from both their schools. EX wants to sell, but I have convinced him that I need 2 years of staying but, we dont need the upheavel of moving at this point.
Fianances I think is a worry to everyone, I am claiming what ever I can, the worst thing that can happen is you are refused that help. It is hard, I cant believe how much money we spent/wasted before. It is amazing that when you have a budget how well you can stick to it. I have even taken to get the shopping delivered as no one is tempted to put extras in the trolley. The EX earns hell of a lot more than me, but he is being tight at the moment, just managed him to get shoes and some clothes. I really think when you are a couple money takes a back seat. The CSA system is wrong, I am hoping to avoid it if I can.
Strange how the kids change their attitudes with schoolwork, it was a struggle to get mine to do anything at home, now when I ask it is done after a little whinge. L (11) is doing so well at High School, really good reports hope this does effect her too much. Congrats on your daughters poem being published, all of you must be so proud.
Single parents dont get the credit they deserve, male or female, most people think that you wanted to be a single parent, I never thought I would be. - I have a neighbour whos husband works away during the week, she is constantly comparing herself to single mum, but she works term time only, one child which goes to after school club till 5.30, so she only sees her for 2 hours before bed. Tea is provided at the club. I feel like shouting at her how easy she has it, even when EX was about, I would crave for half an hour me time. She gets nearly the whole weekend. Not all single parents are layabouts who just want to scrounge of the government, we have pride in ourselves and our kids, at least we are showing them how to do things right, work and get the rewards.
I do believe in what goes around comes around, and our goodness will be rewarded somewhere along the line, fingers crossed for lottery win!!LOL.
Hope you are having a good day. Roll on Thursday for a week off, and I'm hoping the snow does arrive before I hit the NorthWest.
Mx
Hi there stuart
I am Anna, I am one of the moderators on the boards, along with Louise, I have just been reading through this thread and wanted to say Welcome from me.
It sounds as though you seem to have everything under control now, after a very difficult time.
Has your heart healed? Was the relationship broken beforehand?
At the beginning of this thread I was thinking this would turn into parents of 7 year old boys, what with you, bubblegum and alisoncam! It would be good to swap tips and ideas for dealing with difficult behaviour.
I know that you sympathised with someone about feeling lonely when the children arent't there, but aren't you looking forward to it just a teensy bit?
How is your daughter? You say that she doesn't stay the whole holiday with her mum, is she resentful of what she did?
Hello Anna How was your holiday you have plenty of rest. Things are alot calmer than b4 and things were a real mess it was like oh i have a new life now its not my problem i have ran away but good old stuart will sort it. I realise that i am better off without my ex it was a real shock that it happen an my ex sat here 4 god knows how long unhappy till she found someone else.Then it was see u later i am off having a jolly with my new fella u sort the heart ache out then a year later oh i want my kids now. So it has changed me alot an i trust no one an that kind caring guy has gone. I just feel very hurt an angry towards her. The childern have all been daddys childern an i was very hands on with them i liked us to share in rasing of them. My daughter is fine she is 14 into here m8s and after school activites an when boys arent hear she gets dad all to herself.And just b4 her mum left she told her that she wasent going to leave then she did an my daughter has never forgotten that. Hope to speak soon. Stuart
Hi Stuart
It's not surprising that you feel you don't trust people now but it would be very sad if you carried that with you long term. I hope this will change for you after the first rawness has healed.
As for your daughter, that was tough for her, what happened. I guess all you can do is to be there for her and be her rock and show her that what happened with her mum isn't going to happen with other people in her life.
Hope you all enjoy the Easter hols! Do your children get Easter eggs? Mine think they have grown out of them....but only because they would rather have a gift token, lol
Hi stuart, thanks for sharing that. I agree with Louise, don't let one person lock you away for the rest of your life. I think we have all been where you are, you sound like a decent person and you deserve to be loved by the right person.
But of course there is no rush, your children need you right now.
Your poor daughter losing that trust for her mum. I hope that their relationship can heal and your daughter doesn't hold that grudge for ever and can learn that people do the most dreadful things when they are lost and confused.
I hope you have some fab daddy-daughter time, the lucky thing!
My daughter is 15, is your daughter into boys? Is she allowed to be?? :)
Hello Louise
It is hard to trust anyone and its been over 2years i to hope it changes i am sick of people taking advantage of me cause i am a nice person and i was a good man an husband no violence or you carnt do this or jealousy just dident earn enough money for miss champange ideas with beer pockets lol.
But its the mindset you get into and to give my love to someone and believe someone loves me is way off self-esteam problem. I have had a couple of offers for dates and turned them down and brief relationships but they wernt right, i aint ready for a relationship so its fair to say i am better on my own for now as i have the pressure of full time parenting.
My children just love there home an relise that when anything major happens dads there to sort it for them.
Yer the children are having Easter eggs i am going to hide them around the house and they will have to find them.
Hope you have a great easter and dont eat to many eggs lol.
Hi anna
Well they way i see it your children are for life an as much as they say it a lot of partners are not its to easy to walk away from your responsibilitys and when i became a dad they are my responsibility till they are old enough to make there own choises.
All the children realise that mum lets them down and doesent always turn up when she says they are use to it now i just hope she keeps coming in the future seeing as she has another child to look after now.
We lost a child about 10 years ago we had twins an one died after a hour and the mother took it bad an was on anti-depressants for many years she was ill alot with depression an ibs and polysystic overies.So manybe the excitment and attention of a new man turned here head. But thats water under the bridge now.
Not yet she is like a tom boy she only wears tracksuit and man utd shirts she is very sporty and is a very good footballers better than all the boys so as yet she has lots of male friends but not a boyfriend.She did have a boyfriend once but he was a man city fan so i scared him off lol.What about your daughter does she do as she is told and no hanging around the streets with the gang,make up and boys.
Hi Eeyore
Hope you are well.
You and your children off for a weeks holiday you coming up to the northwest for a break.
Yer please a lotto win would be great i would swim in the money.
Glad to hear your daughter is doing well at high school my 10yo is due to go in september and he is only little as he was only 4lb when he was born as he was a twin his brother only lived for one hour.
And us working parents have pride to your right is hard work and harder work when you get home.
Have a great break
Stuart
Hi stuart, thanks for your reply.
Your children are lucky to have you, regardless of mum or dad, I guess all of us online here have one or another who have let our children down.
Our children are for life and therefore they come first!
My daughter, thank god, is nothing like me! She is not into boys, well she probably is, but they are not hanging round the front door and she is not sneaking out after dark. She loves her girlfriends, the computer (!) and she is pretty creative. She is not into football at all, but does enjoy dancing and drama.
I am so proud of her, she had a tough first 7 years of her life, but she seems to have overcome that and yes she does do as she is told!!
Hello Anna
How are you today.
This being a single parent is harder than i thought i still get down an depressed an i have been lucky compared to some parrents on hear.
Think i am the one most affected by this having counciling to try to hellp the way i feel. The childern seam fine an happy.
I get the feelin of being lost an dont know where my life is going when i used to be such a positive person,it seam when ur down everything goes wrong lol.
How did u cope with the first few years.
Stuart
Now, you see I used to be a confident person - and that went out the window with the marriage. It's just when you're living it, you don't really see the changes.
I'd love to have some confidence in me again. I'm better than I have been, but then I have been on my own (with a relationship in there) for 6 years. The relationship - while he is now a good friend - has made me realise that I am actually better off on my own. Strangely enough, its my ex-step-mother-in-law who has found that the most difficult to accept, although I think she's now coming around to it not being so bad me being on my own!
I have nothing to offer anyway - not that I think I would feel different if I felt I did! lol
I love watching my children grow. My Mum said that every age is lovely - and how right she's been. My oldest is 18 and will still come for hugs, will talk to me and will have a laugh too. I do spoil them mind, which I know I shouldn't. I think that comes from trying to be both parents to them.
My daughter is off on a hike and overnight camp with the Explorer Scouts Monday/Tuesday. The weather forecast is horrendous! She's not into boys, particularly either... The Explorer Scout group is made up of 5 girls too - no boys anyway!!
Hope you have a peaceful Easter.
Hi sparklinglime
How do u know u have nothing to offer the way i see it the most inportant things is being yourself have gsoh truthful and honest there aint enough of that anymore.
You have the respect of your childern and u got to love yourself too.
Happy easter to you
Thanks Stuart.
Happy Easter to you and yours too.
Hi stuart
Being a single parent is not easy but you do get used to it!
For the first 5 years I had continuous harassment, police intervention and Court cases, all I could do was keep my head down and keep ploughing through it all!
I spent years of being depressed, I think that is normal, we started out young and fresh with our whole future set up as we wished, then *smack* learnt that life doesn't go that way! We have to go through the grieving of what we thought once could have been then the loneliness then as time goes by we look back and realise that life has changed, we have changed and we now have different goals for the future.
I went for counselling and I would recommend it to everyone, it help remould my life. I think the children do of course get affected, but they bounce right back and get on with the rest of their lives, especially if they have a parent that is making every effort to keep some sense of security and normality in their lives.
Take one day at a time, or as someone else on the forums said ' one hour at a time', the future will come in its own good time. Try and see one positive thing in your day every day, even if it is just that the scambled egg on toast you had for supper got enjoyed by all! You are so right, when you feel blue the whole world goes wrong!
When I used to feel particularly blue for days on end, I would try and hide it and carry on, of course it never went away. A friend said to me, don't ignorre it, let it take over your whole body, dwell in it, submerge yourself in self pity, cry your eyes out and you will get through it. she was right! After a couple of days of not getting dressed, cooking pizza for the little one moping around and watching telly all day, I got a bit bored so come the following day, I would pick myself up and feel more positive and new things would come my way!
The 'positive' you will come back, just give yourself time to get over the kick in the teeth you have received. You are OK.
How are you feeling this weekend?
Hi all
Well C....... is not going away to my sisters, so no break for me!!! On a serious note, my niece is suffering from PND, and on Thursday took her 3 year old to Nursery, leaving my sister with the baby. After dropping her litle girl off, she then rang her partner telling him he would have to pick up from Nursery as she was never coming back. A few relatives went out in search of her, but no luck, so they got the police involved, who found her near a bridge. They took her to hospital. She was sent back home, after saying, they think the medication she is on doesn't seem to be helping! The following day, Drs came out to assess her, but didn't admit her, again, she had visit today. My sister is taking her back to hers, but I told her I would rather C...... wasn't there as anything could happen, and my sister couldn't cope with all of them. Also, my son would pick up on things if they weren't right. At the moment he is at a friends party, and he was absolutely fine when I told him the visit had to be cancelled because his cousin is a bit poorly.
I bumped into a neighbour this morning, she has a daughter a bit younger than my son. We're not friends or anything, and this was the longest chat we've ever had! Anyhow, I guess she needed to chat, as all we've said in the past is hello, (not my cup of tea at all). Anyhow, she told me that her partner of 11 years told her he was going to the shops just before Christmas and never returned. Shortly afterward he moved in with another woman!
My sister with cancer is going for a few days to Spain. She and her husband have a caravan there, so it will do her good to get away. The chemo is now really starting to take its toll on her. She is going through the mill at the mo. Her recent CT scan revealed that nothing has changed since the last scan, so that is brilliant news. She is still staying positive.
C...... half-sisters mum sent him an Easter egg, but to honest it didn't even cross my mind to send the girl one! I don't know why this woman has bothered, as a few weeks ago, she actually put the phone down on me because I needed to take a call on my mobile at the time, and I guess she didn't like me not giving her time, (not that I haven't given her plenty for near on a year)
Life is mighty strange folks!
I hope you are all having a lovely weekend, and not eating all the kids eggs!!!!
Take care
Alison
x
Hello alisoncam
What a lot of news! Sounds like the right decision to keep C with you if there is a lot going on at your sister's. Your poor niece! what she must be going through. I think many of us have been at that "right, I am running away" place but not actually doing it. I hope she improves under your sister's care.
That's good news about your other sister too and I hope she enjoys her break.
Now then alisoncam, what about YOU? I see from your post that C's half sister's mother is still trying to drain you, given half the chance and also you had that chat with the other single mum. Don't get drawn into HER stuff too, you said she wasn't your sort and you have enough on your plate without another potential drain (scrabbles around for imaginary glasses....)
Has C got any Easter eggs? I said in another post that mine are always on "gift token" alert at Easter!!
Hi Louise, yes C.... does have Easter eggs. I told him a few weeks back that instead of buying eggs I would give him spending money for when he went to my sisters! So, I gave him £10, plus bought two eggs for him, as well as the small ones for an Easter hunt. As its turned out, he has quite a few eggs. A neighbour, half-sister, his friends Mum (feel guilty that I didn't even think to send her one). All in all he has about 8!!! So much for my idea eh. Last night he asked if the Easter bunny would be visiting now he was 7, I had told him last year that I didn't think the bunny came again!!! (wicked). I had one in the cupboard that I was planning to send with him to my sisters, so I have put that at the bottom of the stairs (from the Easter Bunny). He also asked me to hide the other eggs for a hunt, so I was doing that at 10 last night (forgotten where I've put them now, hehe).
I bought some brisket yesterday, never have before, and now I'll have to google to make sure I cook it correctly, (not very good in the kitchen) Two people have told me different things!!!
Have got another sore throat and felt rough Friday and yesterday. Only just got over the last one! Am not getting involved with this womans problems. Like you say I have enough on my plate. Think my throat etc is a lot to do with being a bit run down, so I am going to cherish this holiday with my son, though he has lots planned!!!
My sister with Cancer rang yesterday to announce that her son and his wife are expecting their 2nd baby. Due end of August, so of course she is delighted and will give her another reason to keep 'going'.
I spoke to other sister with the daughter suffering from PND. Our local hospital has given her a number for her area should she need to be checked on. I am sure though under my sisters care, she will get through this bad spell, and of course with the help of meds.
So, when do you go away Louise? Sorry if you've said it a million times, I need to read through posts again! Have a wonderful time, relax and enjoy. Happy Easter to you.
Take care
Alison
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I hope you have some of your son's Easter egg's Alison :-)
I called into my in-laws on the way to taking my eldest to work.
I've been in stitches as my mother-in-law phoned to say "how dare you call without phoning first" A dig at what The Gittess said about the children calling on the off chance with The Git's birthday.
We were both giggling hysterically for a while.
The sun is shining. The beef casserole is in the slow cooker. I've got aunt bessie's roasties and I'll make a yorkshire pudding too, as well as mash potatoes.
Mind you, as I've just stuffed myself with half the easter egg I've had off my in-laws I can't really face food at the mo.
Dear alisoncam
Happy Easter to you, sparklinglime sounds like she is serving up a delicious dinner, perhaps we should go and visit her :0
It sounds lovely to have a caravan in Spain, a great place for recuperating. Wonderful news for your sister to have another new baby on the way :)
I wondered if you had heard of these two websites for your other sister to pass on to her daughter regarding PND, your sister might find them useful for herself as extra support as i imagine it is a very harrowing time for her.
I thought it was great that you spoke to the lady over the raod and she told you about her ex leaving, did you tell her about One Space and the useful tips and info we can give her now she will be parenting alone??!!
Louise is right about you not getting embroiled in her stuff, but another friendly face is always nice, just keep aware of your boundaries.
I hope you are having a lovely Monday and your sore throat has gone away, (chocolate is not too good for a sore throat!)
Are you out for the afternoon or watching a movie??
Happy Bank Holiday Monday sparklinglime, I am sooo glad that you can have a giggle with your ex stop mother in law, she sounds like fun.
I am glad that the sun shone for you yesterday and I bet your supper was delicious, yum yum yorkshire puddings!
Have the children gobbled up all their eggs yet?
Hello Anna
How are you u have a good easter.
We did we had a easter egg hunt and we all curled up on the sofa an watched king kong.
I to had two years of fighting an harassment solicitors letters an was said to be putting words into the kids head.
Its a lot calmer now we talk about contact 4 the childern an thats it carnt do no more dont really want to.
Stuart
Yippie... more men!
Hi Stuart I'm a single parent AND! a bloke too, mine are 5 and 7, millions of pictures here. We've been on our own for four years two months and ten days* I've been doing it all, all on my own and I love it and so far I haven't found it difficult, not the most popular of opinions I sometimes find but there you go... I love being a single parent.
Mine don't see their mum, they have done and they know who she is but just over a year ago she decided she didn't want to attend contact sessions any more, not that she ever did with any sort of regularity mind, but still it was something and at least they now know who she is and don't have to make anything up in their heads.
Welcome to the forums and all that : )
*that's about 1532 days, not that I'm counting or anything : )