5.16 – Thinking space scenarios

Now we have looked at how to use the technique let’s look at how we can put it into practice. Look at the following, this is how you could react to John who has just hit Billy, using the Thinking Space discipline technique.

“John, do not hit Billy.” (addressing bad behaviour). “You have hurt him and made him feel sad.” (explains the effect of their behaviour). “We must not hit one another, it hurts and can make people cry.” (explains the reason why). “I don’t want you to hit Billy any more; you must come and tell me when you get upset/angry with Billy.” (explains what is required of future behaviour). “I think that you need to apologise to Billy for hitting him.” (apologises). “Well done! Now that you have calmed down and apologized,” (expression of praise) “you can go back out to play.” (fresh start).

Look at the following scenarios. In your worksheet, respond to them in this sequence: address the behaviour -> explain the effect -> explain why they should stop -> explain what they can do in future -> ask for apology -> praise -> fresh start.

1. Sasha’s Sofa: Sasha is three years old. She is kicking the sofa. You have asked her to stop this as it will damage the sofa, but she doesn’t stop.
2. Bat Battle: Zen is seven years old. He and his friend are playing in the garden. Zen keeps hitting his friend with a bat.
3. Bad Language: Ashleigh is 11 years old. She has come home from school in a foul mood, and has started swearing at you.
4. Angry Aleksy: Aleksy is 15 years old. He has asked you if he can go out and you have refused. He walks out in a strop and slams the door and the glass nearly falls out.

Let’s see how others have responded to these scenarios.

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