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Ooh what's your doll hobby? Do you collect them or make them?
its funny how they walk away and we are left with the mess and it is us thats has to pick up , sort out , go to counselling, write down how we are feeling and they go out enjoy themselves hop in to bed have their fun ! we see the pain in ourseleves and the kids . but we do it and how we get the strength i will never know some of us go through different ways of splitting up but we can help each other in some way or another x the one thing that was told to me was not to try to run do little steps first and that has helped me, as i was thinking of everything and trying to do it all at once before i could walk and i was thinking the worst before it was even here ! what is your hobby mich sounds nice? what anna put down was nice to write 4 things ? thats has got me wondering as i would put kids then what ?? hope samw you ok today
Well shaz5 and Louise..They are called Ball-jointed dolls, and are made from heavy resin. They can range from about 6inches to about 80cm....( I am particulary interested in the 63cm size ones that are also known as 'Super Dollfies'), and the company 'Volks' is a Japanese company that sells them.( You can look them up on the internet).
I paint their faces and sometimes make their outfits, but I like Tudor gothic, and Steampunk styles. These dolls are rather like Artist dolls, and they can come completely blank then you can paint them, add eyes and wigs and clothes in any style or genre you choose. I will probably have to sell most of mine to get some money in the future, but I wouldn't want to leave the hobby altogether as I need a creative outlet.
Yes, shaz 5 baby steps are the best!
Mich that sounds fantastic, could you take a picture of some of them and put it on our Family Quilt? Picture files need to be fairly small but you can resize photos once they are opn your computer.
Oh...ok Louise...I'll take a look.
* Edit* I've added it....It just needs approval.
Please do. They sound brilliant.
Thanks for asking after me. I'm feeling a bit rubbish this weekend, but that is because I havent been feeling well and it is always hard looking after the kids on your own when you feel ill! I have had a busy weekend aswell which probably hasnt helped! I had friends round Fri eve and went to a wedding reception last night which was lovely, the bride looked amazing! The kids went to bed well for the babysitter which is always good!!
We have had a lazy day as I just feel exhausted. My ex has gone back to work now, we dont know when he will be back again, with any luck he will be away until after x mas! The next few wks are busy with T still being part time at school, once he is at school full time and ive changed my hours, im hoping things will settle down and I may even have time to think about hobbies!
hi i hope u feeling abit better ? x
I hope you feel better soon Sam.W....Glad you enjoyed the wedding reception.
Even when I was married, The Git was out of the house for 13 hours. When I was ill I'd get all the children in bed with me and we'd watch videos (my lot are quite old!). I'd have snacks too, in the hope I could get some sleep.
I do hope you're feeling better.
Take Care of You Sam.W
I'm glad that you created a lazy day for yourself, keep it up until you feel better otherwise it can take even longer to feel back on top.
Glad your weekend was busy, even if you were a little poorly. Is T enjoying school?
Hi everyone, I have a lovely full blown cold now so have had another lazy day! T is enjoying school, he isnt enjoying the days that I work as i have to pick him up at lunchtime and take him to nursery. I think he thinks he is too grown up for nursery now!
I am quite used to looking after the kids when Im ill, i suffer from migraines which my ex was never very understanding about, i would still be expected to do everything is i had a migraine so it is no different now really!
Of course he's wayyyyyyyyyy too grown-up now for nursery Sam.W. Is this the last week that he has to be collected at lunch-time? Hope you feel better tomorrow, keep warm, and have a lazy evening on the settee (maybe)
Hope you feel better soon..I hate colds...but migraines are awful...
* Hands out tea and biccies*
arh bless your son yes they do think they are grown up once they start hope you are feeling better
How do you feel this morning?
Sam.W poor you, I agree with Mich, colds are a pain, but migraines are awful.
A little bird told me that a hot toddy works wonders after the children have gone to bed to clear a cold and get a good nights sleep (hot water, whiskey, honey and lemon)
Your son thinking he is too grown up for nursery is so sweet! Can you tell him he now has to show the younger ones how to be more grown up!! He is a role model to them :)
Get well soon Sam.W, look after yourself. I hope that you get your children in front of a DVD this evening and have a quiet one.
One of the best things about being a single parent is no-one is looking once the doors are shut, meaning you can sort the kids out as you deem necessary and then concentrate on yourself.
Beans on toast for dinner??
I have another 2 weeks after this until T starts at school full time! It is a real pain but as he is getting so tired i guess it is good to give him time to adjust to being at school. From next wk, he will be staying at school for lunch which im sure he will enjoy.
I think the kids are enjoying it at the min as I keep losing my voice! They were good this morning though and both got ready without being told, which is completely unheard of in this house!! I did go into work today, which probably wasnt wise but I was only working for the morning. Roll on the weekend, I am ready for it now!!
Anna I agree that the bonus of being a single parent is that as long as the kids are sorted you can do as much or as little for yourself and dont have anyone else to sort out!!
Good morning SamW
Hope you had a decent night's sleep and feel brighter this morning. There are so many nasty bugs going round at the moment. Are you at work today?
My lot love it when I lose my voice!
Hope you're feeling better today.
How are you feeling today sam.W? Any better? Has your voice come back a bit more?
hi samw hope u are feeling better today ? my little one looks like we have got to take him to the docs with his cold as it gone to his chest knew it would just hoping it wouldnt . hope your voice has come back , my kids love it when mine goes they think its funny
Hope you're feeling better tonight sam.W
Hi Sam.W. Friday is just a few hours away, so hope you're not still feeling poorly for the weekend. Glad you enjoyed the wedding last week 
Hi girls, thanks for the messages. I am finally starting to feel a bit more human now! I havent had any time off work, which probably hasnt helped but im not very good at taking time off sick. Just one more day until the weekend now!
Hope everyone else is well x
hi sam.w glad you are feeling better . its nice whenyou begin to feel yourself again . hope you have a lovely weekend . x
Yes, roll on the weekend, glad you are starting to feel better, SamW
Me too
Glad you are starting to feel better too Sam.W....
Thanks for all your messages and for thinking of me! Im still not 100 percent but am a lot better than I was. My ex rang up earlier and when I spoke to him he told me how rough I sounded, I thought I was sounding a lot better than I did!
I must be feeling better as I have done some housework today! Im feeling pretty lonely at the minute, and am still debating moving back to the midlands. I really dont know what would be the right thing to do,but I do feel very unsettled at the min. I have a week off in oct half term so am hoping to go and see my Mum then
Yes, I guess it might be another of those "pros and cons" lists that we often talk about,and you could see what your Mum thinks as well.
Hi Sam, glad you're feeling better. A visit to your Mums at half term sounds good, and is only a matter of weeks away, so maybe by then, you'll have decided for definate.
hi sam hope you are feeling better .i would say i would do another list and see how it weighs on moving like what louise said. your emotions are still running high at the min and speaking to your ex as highlighted them again think hard and long about this as it is a huge step and yes go to your moms chat with her then see how you feel by then you within yourself may be a little clearer your mom may be able to help you take care
It will be a good thing to chat things over with your Mum, and give you a better perspective on what you might want to do about moving nearer to her.
Thanks, it will be nice to spend time with my Mum, even though she doesnt live near, she does help out when she can and comes and stays to look after the kids in the school hols.
I had a call from my ex earlier to say he is back again for 2 wks from tom as he is being sent back to do a course. He has been texting me all evening, I think he is regreting what he did when he had the affair and has just texted me to say he loves me! omg, this man is on another planet, as if I would take him back!! Has anyone else had their ex behave like this?
Hi Sam.W. Blimey I bet you're all over the place with the texts. I had an ex like yours, though I didn't have C then, and he isn't C's father anyway. I couldn't count how many times he cheated on me, and even tried it on with my sister!!! One awful time, we were engaged and I'd just started a job, which he knew of course. That job lasted a morning!! Turned out the girl I was working with was merrily describing her boyfriend, and it turned out to be the very man I was engaged too 
I was very young, and kept forgiving him each time he told me he loved me, and was sorry etc. Finally got some sense when the abuse started, though I didn't leave him straight away. Eventually I did, six weeks before we were going to be married!!
Hope you're ok. xx
Oh that's awful hazeleyes...
Oh and it must be very upsetting to be getting those texts sam.W...I haven't had that experience because mine is as happy as Larry with his new woman at the moment...but it did happen to a friend of mine...he told her how much he loved her and he was sorry for his affairs....but then forgot to add that he was still seeing one of the women..( funny how they have selective memories).
Isn't it just!!!
Hazeleyes what an awful experience for you, I am glad you did not end up marrying him. It's funny when we look back at our relationships, there is a lot of wisdom in hindsight.
SamW those texts are the last thing you need, hope you're not too upset with them.
How're you this morning?
Hi sam.w this is the last thing you needed to hear , hope you are ok ?
I am okay today, I ended up in getting a drunken phonecall from him last night. It is quite amusing really as he obviously isnt happy with his gf and told me there is another woman he is attracted to and was asking me advice about what to do as I know him best!! He said he feels trapped and wishes we has made things work! I think he is now realising what he threw away, it is too little too late though. At the time I found out about the affair i cant say i could have forgiven him but he wasnt willing to cut contact with her so he made his choice.
It is comical really as I actually feel sorry for him, he said he has never felt so alone, he has fallen out with half his family because of how he has been, they all talk to me though!
Men really are another species! On a more positive note though i have got a date on Saturday night! Im not sure whether anything will come of it, but its worth a try!
WOW go girl you have a good time and dont let your ex stand in your way you dont want to be thinking of him when you go on your date , really pleased for you xx
That all sounds very exciting, SamW, where are you going?
I am just going out for a meal, have a babysitter organised but now im not sure if my ex will be having the kids for the weekend. He needs to check whether he can afford to pay the fuel to come and pick them up! He lives 170 miles from me and I often say to him it would be cheaper for him to see the kids here, his excuse is he has nowehere to stay. I think he would like for me to offer for him to sleep on my sofa, i dont think so!!
I just dont understand my ex sometimes, it seems that we are either at each others throats arguing or he thinks we are best friends!
It's because they are selfish idiots sam.W...so don't be lulled into anything where they are concerned..( and I mean that about cheats of either sex )...They are all the 'selfs' Self- centered, selfish, self absorbed.
I have to say it must feel so good for him then to turn round to you saying he is feeling so alone and trapped etc.....Ahhhhh what a shame, eh?
I know Mich, my heart bleeds for him! I was tempted to say "you made your bed you lie in it" but I refrained from it! It did make me feel good when he said that, yes I still have my down days but I do feel like I am getting on with my life and the kids seem happy, which is the main thing
hi sam goodluck for saturday xx dont let your ex stop u mine was like that thought we could be friends he told me he didnt want me to have another fella then on the other hand he say if you did then the 4 of us could go for a meal once a month or go for a drink what planet do they live on when they do this to us someone tell me ??? mine will never have the friend thing with me as he as done what he as done and even worse he hit me so please dont ask me to be his friend mine is a laugh .
yes u will still have down days i do but i think they are coming less now i did have a cry last night but it soon pasted we wouldnt be human i think if we didnt still have down points as we have the stress of what they did and the everyday things to cope with and it is just us to deal with it take care
My ex always cancelled a contact weekend if he even had a hint I was going out. Wouldn't even discuss anything in case the children over heard and would mention it to him...
Yes Louise, it's great how they just have their say in what goes or doesn't..
When mine came to pick my daughter up for dinner Friday night, he wheeled the dustbin back up, and asked her to move it out the way later from the car...It's nothing to bloody do with him now...I might've wanted to keep it by the front wall!
I might try and do a car boot sale when I finally get round to clearing stuff out...I'll have to find out how much a spot costs to have at one...
I like the idea of the four you have in your life things Anna...
I would have: my daughter,my job,my integrity,my doll hobby( that my husband hates and calls 'weird')
How are yu feeling today sam.W?