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well sunny but cold here in north west, i av nyt out tonyt, friends birthday, not avin late one tho, then im stayin in for ages, av exmas pay for and a holiday, hope evryone is okx
Skyflower, that all sounds awful. Use the link Louise has given and get some independent advice.
Was hoping to for a walk in the countryside today but it's pouring with rain at the moment. Maybe it will clear up later.
Have a good night out tonight Kiera.
Thank you so much for support, I saw messages where coming but didn't realise they were on the next page and couldn't read them.
Thank you.
Yes, sorry it will be Monday, keep phoning as they get busy. I know you have mentioned the stats behind all this before, Skyflower but I am still shocked that so many children are not believed.
Did you get out for your walk, PQ?
Kiera, have a good night out 
How is everyone else?
Thank you Kiera, such a nice thing to say and I hope you have a great night out ! Pancakequeen, how are you with your Spanish friend ? Did you manage to get a baby sit so you have some time together and does he stay for a while?
Good morning all
I agree that staying calm and positive is really hard but it is the best way if at all possible. I know several guys where the mum of their children alleged abuse that did not happen and I suppose it is cases like those that mean that genuine people like you are not believed...but surely it is not possible for even a professional psychologist to say definitively whether they think abuse has occurred!!!
Kiera did you enjoy your night out?
Hope you are having a nice time with your friend, PQ
Sparkling, how are things in your neck of the woods?
Hopeful are you at work or off this weekend?
What's for dinner, hazeleyes? I am making a risotto, basically using up bits and bobs in the fridge such as pepper, mushroom, tomato, and also bacon, rice and vegetable stock. Might even sneak some broccoli in as well 
Have a good day everyone, it is frosty out there so take care
Good morning Louise, thank you for your help.
hi everyone had good nyt out, im stayin in now for while, my eldest son ad siezure hour ago at his nanas, it was more severe than last time, lasted 4 min, he as really bit his toungue again, so upsettin, ring consultant again tomz,hope everyone ok
I do believe you need to stand up against this, Skyflower, and not just go along with it, why should you lie to please everyone? but of course I do not know what the legal consequences of that might be so speak with Family Rights and have you emailed our own Legal Expert?
Kiera I am so sorry about your son, and upsetting for everyone concerned, hope the consultant will be of help tomorrow. Glad you enjoyed your night out and hope your week will go well
My risotto was a success, hurrah. Son is now on late shift at work and is Not Popular as I have just found out that he has broken the shower and not told me! Homebase tomorrow, I believe...
ooo so sorry to hear about your son Kiera, that is an awful experience, I really hope they can help you with it. Let us know Monday how everything went ?
Wow a wonderful risotto ! it is hard to make sometimes as they can come out very soggy, so well done !! Poor you no shower or have you got a spare one ?
well my son as ad another siezure, not long bk from hospital, bin so upsettin, he fell off bed and as now dislocated his shoulder again, he now as sling on, he also really bit his tongue again, my mum ad cum watch kids, i worry for my son so much,
How awful kiera. Are they thinking of admitting him to adjust meds again? It is so upsetting.
I'm glad the rissotto went well Louise.
I seem to have had a weekend of running around. The Remembrance Parade went well, and the sun shone.
Morning everyone
Sorry to hear about your son keira i know it is a worry, hopefully when they get his meds sorted it will calm down, i hope he is feeling a bit better today are going to keep him home today?
PQ how did your weekend go?
Good that you had nice weather for the parade sparkling.
Skyflower i hope you are able to get hold of the Family Rights Group today, let us know how you get on.
Hope you manage to sort the shower today Louise.
I ended with a relaxing weekend, unwell on Saturday so did not make it to friends birthday, am feeling better now, though still have a slight headache.
Hope everyone has a good day.
O Kiera, you must be so worried, there is nothing worst than things happening to your children, I feel for you, are they going to adjust his medicines or put him back on some ?
I hope he feels better soon.
(((hug)))
Hi all. My weekend went ok, however my ex decided to turn up early evening with the girls as they 'forgot' something!! Which he found highly amusing.....grrr!! But I have made a decision, I'm not going to ask him to have the girls over night any more when I have something planned, its judt not worth the hassle.
Hope your son is ok today Kiera. Is there something going on in his life which could be triggering the fits? It must be such a worry for you.
Skyflower, I hope you get some legal advice today, I don't really understand your situation but I hope you can sort it out ok.
Its really wet and horrible here today, makes me want to stay indoors, eat soup and watch tv.....but alas I have to work.
Hi everyone,
PanCakeQueen so hard when you have kids to keep it a secret when you have something on I hope next time he won't realise and he thinks you just have a tv night on. You already have so little time.
Hello everyone and how are you doing?
Glad you got that letter from the MP, Skyflower, we are hoping to have a Family Rights Group Adviser on here for a short while but I appreciate time is of the essence, do email our legal expert also as I suggested
Sparkling the weather was perfect for the parade wasn't it? How has today been at work?
PQ how annoying and totally typical that the girls' dad brought them back round, he is so contradictory as he seems to not want to see them sometimes and yet is very keen to be checking up on you rather often. Hope you still managed to have a good time with your friend.
Kiera hope your son has benefited from a quiet day at home, they really do need to sort him, even if he has to go into hospital for a few days so they can keep an eye on him, it is affecting his life too much now.
Sally, sorry to hear you have been poorly, take it steady. Have the children got any activities tonight?
Got a new shower hose and head, friend drilled the tiles for me and it is installed, youngest loves it as it is a fixed rainhead one, was qutie cheap though. Also went to Morrisons, I have no idea what meals my son will need as he is on his security job trial tomorrow, instead of today and has no idea of his shifts thereafter so have got some things for the freezer. A friend is coming round on Friday and she loves Indian food so I have got one of those packs of assorted Indian things like skewered chicken and onion bhaji.
Have a peaceful evening everyone 
Just popping in to wish you all a good day
Hi Sally, hope you feel a bit better ? Wish you a good day.
Louise thank you I will write a message to your legal expert today, as I haven't been able to get through to Family Rights yet. At least you got a shower again.
Thank you all so much for your support.
Morning all,
Its finally stopped raining here, I kept getting wet yesterday, by the end of the day I felt awful.
Glad your shower is working again Louise. Since I've had my bathroom done I can't imagine life without my shower, baths just take too much time!
How is everyone this evening?
Feeling somewhat better though i still have the niggley headache, no activities thankfully until tomorrow Louise. Was busy doing spreadsheets this morning and attended quite an informative commissioning meeting this afternoon on Domestic Abuse. Early night i think.
Your welcome Skyflower, i'm sure everyone is pleased to be able to support you through this, How was your day?
Phew glad it stopped raining for you PQ hope it stayed that way, are you feeling better today?
That's a pain for your son Louise not knowing what shifts he's doing in advance, glad you got your shower fixed.
Morning everyone, hope you are well, it was forecast to be frosty but not here. What is it like with you?
PQ it sounds as if you got plenty of showers without even going in the bathroom on Monday, it's horrid when you keep having to go out in it. How is work at the moment?
Sally you have a really busy time at work at the moment, hope you got your early night.
Skyflower we do have someone from the Family Rights Group online on this site on Friday 22nd (ie next week) Keep an eye out for the thread announcing details, although we will highlight it in here too. How is your doggy getting on, any more chew-fests?
Kiera, how are you all doing? Hope your son has settled a bit, how is the Freedom Programme going?
Sparkling, all quiet on the western front, are you busy busy with work and Scouty things?
Had a quiet morning yesterday, then counselling in the afternoon and housegroup in the evening. Eldest is doing a fundraising thing for Children in Need. His part in it appeares to be dressing up as a woman so I now have a photo of him with hair extensions and lipstick, rather unnerving. He is going through the process to be in the Territorial Army so that is taking some time up as he goes to interviews etc. Youngest had his security job trial and was offered the position, he will continue to do his grocery job till rotas are sorted out, it seems.
Meeting a friend for posh coffee this morning then another counselling client this afternoon. Hope you all have a good day
Thank you Sally and Louise.
Hope you have a lovely posh coffee...
I'm finding life hard going, I'm afraid.
So a bit quiet at the moment.
Hi Sparkling, sending hugs (()).
Very frosty here this morning, but lovely and sunny too.
Work is still really busy, missed lunch again yesterday and stayed an extra 2 hours to try and get things done. Its probably only going to get worse as we move into winter. There's a new role being developed which I am considering, will chat to my manager next week about it.
How do you feel about your son joining the T.A.'s Louise?
Hope your headache has finally gone Sally.
Sorry to hear things are hard at the moment, sparkling. HUG from me too and we are here if it would help to talk about it.
Oh PQ that does sound busy. Will be interesting to see what a possible new role would involve.
My son and the TA...if I am honest, I so do not want him to join but have so far been putting it out of my head thinking "he won't get in anyway" But yesterday he said he had passed the next stage and was looking at the Royal Artillery, it is all beginning to feel too real. The TAs also go out on operations such as Aghanistan so not conducive to peace of mind!
Had a nice coffee and catch-up with my friend
hi louise ive rang the epilepsy association they are sendin me id card for my son, in case he as siezure on his own, hope he doesnt tho, we dotn no wot the triggers are, see how he gets on with new higher dose of medication, sudnay im takin my little girl to see peppa pig and sant and she gets a present and 45 mins play , my friend ask did i wnat to go, she as litlte boy who is 2 half, i use to watch him, i ad to ask kids nanasa cud dhe watch A cos i darnt leave him on his own now, cant risk it in case he as a fit, life is different now, mad cos my son is 15 but cant leave him on hsi own really , i go shop but rush bk, but i prob shudnt
hi pancake how did u weekend go with ur fellax
Sorry to hear that things are not so good at the moment sparkling, have to echo what Louise has said we are here if you need us.
How are you today Skyflower?
The possible position sounds interesting PQ, hopefully it will be just your cup of tea.
Has joining the TA's been on his agenda for a long time Louise or a snap decision?
Singing tonight, the girls have got out all our Christmas cds, so i'm presently listening to christmas songs. Meetings at school in the morning with older ones.
Also to add to Louise's earlier mention of the Family Rights Group coming on One Space next week the thread for your questions/posts should be up on Monday.
Sorry keira forgot to ask if your mum was able to watch your son, so that you could take your little one to see peppa pig.
Maybe once things settle down with his medication you will be able to leave him on his own again.
Difficult day today, thank you Sally. Hope You are feeling better now, sounds great, singing Christmas songs, it always makes you feel good. Wish they would do more of it here, at least children don't worry this year about having a Christmas or not like last year, like here all children were scaring each other in school. Christmas this year is on!!
Kiera I hope that they can find the right dosage so you don't have to worry so much and I will keep my eye out for next week
That's a good idea about the ID card, kiera. All the little ones seem to love Peppa Pig, don't they?
Ooh Sally I am jealous of the Christmas songs, I love them all and like it once they start on the radio. My favourite seasonal CD is a Phil Spector one. Good luck for your meeting.
Skyflower, hello. Sorry you had a tough day, stay with us 
PQ how are you this morning?
Sparkling another HUG coming your way
I did not know about the TAs till last time I saw my eldest, well I knew he had had an army medical but I thought he had gone off the idea since getting this good job he has, anyway apparently his girlfriend (who sounds very sensible) had said to him it was really important to discuss it with his mum. He phoned me yesterday for another chat and I think it is quite some way off still but he has been to an initial Royal Artillery training.
Hope everyone will have a good day, let us know your news
I will, Louise, I will.
Morning,
Had to leave work early yesterday as H was ill at school. She's quite virally at the moment but seems to be better today so I have packed her off again and hope I odn't get another call to pick her up.
Its good that your son is talking to you about the TAs Louise. They do go to the war zones with serving soldiers so it must be a worry for you.
Kiera, the evening with my friend was 'ok'. A couple of things came up that made me think he's not the one for me so it will probably just fizzle out.
The sun is shining here. Not liking the reports of an arctic blast I keep hearing....hope they've got it wrong!!
hi sally no kids other nana is watchin my 2 boys sunday while take my little girl to see peppa pig,yes just hopein he wont av another fit but we will see,x
hi pancake i do no wot u mean there, if i hear somethin off man tht doesnt seem right i dotn see him again, im very wary which is understandabel cos bad realationship i was in, cos aitn goin thru tht again, x
my mu and dad av gon lanzorate today for 2 weeks, lucky things, hope they av gud tiem, they deserve it
How is it with your son now Kiera ? Is he more stable now?
hi sky well my son is ok, he is now on 700mg instead of 500mg, see wot appens, he is at school, he as sling on now for next 4 weeks,my son takes it inm his stride, ive ordered id card to say he as epilepsy incase he as siezure on his own,x
Loads of hugs from me to Louise. I know how I would feel... And thank you. Hugs greatly received.
I've been to the gym this morning, and a friend who also goes there has persuaded me to go to the pool for a swim tomorrow. While I feel life is hard at the moment, I'm making sure I go there. It was an effort.
I hope you have enjoyed the time you spent with him though pq. I think that's the bit that matters?
I hope everyone is ok.
I did enjoy myself sparkling, and you're right that does matter, but my heart's not in it which will make it difficult with the distance. Like I said I think it will probably just fizzle out naturally. Glad to hear you got out today, exercise is a great way to lift your spirits.
Sorry yesterday was a difficult day for you Skyflower, was today any better?
Did H get through the day o.k PQ? if your hearts not in it then your right not to pursue it.
Kiera how was the wrestling with your son, was it this week you were going?
Big HUG sparkling.
That sounds tough Louise, not sure how i would feel if it were my son. How was your day?
Meetings at the school went well, though i don't know why they feel the need to keep changing the formats for the reports, i had just got used to the last one. Going to do some online christmas shopping once all are in bed tonight.
Evening all
Are we allowed to know what you buy, Sally? Good that you got to the meetings, even though the reports were a new format. My youngest's report used to have all these code numbers and you had to keep referring to the "key" to decipher them.
PQ Hope H is feeling better and I agree with you about the Arctic blast. I scuttled to my cupboard to make sure I had salt for metling the ice and long life milk and the stuff to make bread if needed (got some but out of date so will get some more stuff) Shame that some things came up with the chap but better to spot the warning signs early.
Kiera, you are quite right to keep your eyes open! Hope your son will have a more settled weekend and your little girl will enjoy Peppa.
Skyflower, hope you will have a restful evening and try to put your worries in a mental box for at least a while over the weekend.
Sparkling WELL DONE for still going to the gym, I agree it is vital when you are feeling low. The swim will be lovely. Re TAs, I just feel sick, I know they go to war zones even though in later waves. However, worrying about it won't cure it so best to take it one step at a time.
Tomorrow evening I am going to a "Ladies Autumn Evening, bring your slippers" (hahaha) hosted by a neighbour. She is quite new to the street and I think wants to get to know everyone better. If our usual neighbourhood get-togethers are anything to go by, she certainly will "get to know us better" though I doubt she will be encouraging our usual Take That karaoke
hi sally the wrestlin really good, my son loved it, we went tuesdayx
hi louise well not goin seein peppa now, gutted, my mates son asndparents are got hand foot and mouth disease, contagious so not goin, and next w seekend ive no1 watch my 2 sons cos both grand parents are away , cant risk leavin my eldest son
I can only imagine Louise. xx
I've had an evening with my friend, which has been our first arranged time together for a couple of months.
It is 22 years since my Dad died. I know it is part of the reason that I'm feeling low. Years and years, yet my head doesn't forget.
Of course he is, sparkling, in your head and heart, just been talking with you on the other thread. Sorry to hear you have been feeling low, just sit with it, it is a fitting tribute to your love for him. Glad you had some time with your friend, hopefully the two of you can support each other?
Kiera what a disappointment, maybe you can think of something else to do with Peppa such as having one of her little friends round to watch Peppa and have a Peppa picnic indoors? Glad your son enjoyed the wrestling, my boys always loved WWE.
How is everyone this morning?
Hi everyone,
So sorry to hear it Kiera, about your friends, that's awful! How is it going with your son on the higher dosage, is it more stable now? Try what Louise says, it might work ? The id card is a brilliant idea,
It sounds like good fun Louise, Ladies Autumn Evening, would love to join and chill out, here however we have sleep overs so I will buy crisps and candy and pop and then sneak to my bedroom with a book and iPad, cleaning up the mess tomorrow.
Had to write a report of all that happened over a year so that took me all yesterday, a good 15 hours, but it is done now.
Better start doing lunchbox no 2, hope everyone has a nice day
hi pancake hope it all goes ok with ur spanish man, let me no how it wentx