7. Saying “no” in your life
Making No mean No!
Are there any things in your life that you are agreeing to do which you think should not be your responsibility or are causing you harm? Write them in the spaces on your worksheet, then write down the answer you are going to give and your suggested compromise. We’ve given an example below.
| A request you want to say no to | Your answer | Your compromise |
|---|---|---|
| My ex partner keeps wanting to cancel contact visits at the last minute because of work. | “Your children need to spend time with you. I have made plans for myself. You have responsibilities”. | I can be flexible sometimes, but you must speak to your employer so you can give me a week’s notice, and you must arrange a different time to see the children when you cancel a visit. |