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Returning to college?

Ravergurly

Hiya, i am a single parent and i have recently returned to college and have struggled financially and emotionally and was wondering if anyone else had any experiences that they would like to share on this subject. Thank you :)

Posted on: January 18, 2009 - 5:15pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

I've been doing OU courses at home.

I want to wish you good luck with College. I'm sure you'll enjoy it, and I'm sure it must be better doing the work with company rather than alone. College wasn't feasable for me.

best wishes

Posted on: January 18, 2009 - 9:00pm
Ravergurly

thank you, the course is quite fun, a lot of mature students, there are some younger ones but it is a good mix, i was thinking about doing an OU course but i couldnt really find one in the area i wanted to study unfortunately.

Posted on: January 18, 2009 - 9:22pm
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi ravergurly,

Welcome to the site, keep your eyes open this week i am filming a single mum who is going through college and struggling emotionally and financially, but as she said to me earlier, what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!

She has also decided to write a blog for us, talking about what is going on for her at the moment, I am sure you will be able to relate to what she says, I will keep you posted!

You know it always amazes me that the media portrays single parents in such a negative light, because of all of the single parents I know, not one of them is scrounging off the benefits system, having baby after baby and shoplifting...... we are all trying to achieve what we can (maybe with a (very) little support from the government) to enhance our and our childrens lives, so stop and give yourself a pat on the back every now and then.

PS what are you studying??

Posted on: January 19, 2009 - 4:50pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Anna wrote:
You know it always amazes me that the media portrays single parents in such a negative light, because of all of the single parents I know, not one of them is scrounging off the benefits system, having baby after baby and shoplifting...... we are all trying to achieve what we can (maybe with a (very) little support from the government) to enhance our and our childrens lives, so stop and give yourself a pat on the back every now and then.

My lone-parent advisor says the same. She reckons she could possibly say that of two lone-parents that she sees - one is a dad and one a mum. Personally I feel it's the media who draws attention to the 'easy targets'.

Posted on: January 19, 2009 - 5:03pm
Ravergurly

i do definately agree with you all on the medias portrayal. On a different forum i have had comments such as going to college is the 'easy route' for single mums. many people are very narrow minded at times.

Posted on: January 20, 2009 - 10:51pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Going to college is such a positive step, I do hope you get a lot out of it Ravergurly :)

When you think of the changes that have already happened in the benefit system (requiring lone parents with children over 12 to move from Income Support to JSA) and realising that this will be extended to those with younger children soon..,..then going back to college will help people to update their skills and get ready for the job market (although what jobs are actually OUT there may be a different matter :? ) So don't let anyone tell you it's an easy option: it's a step in your life plan!!!!

Take care

Louise

Posted on: January 21, 2009 - 12:36pm
Rosedragon
DoppleMe

Hi, I'm doing ECDL with Filton College but I'm also in the throws of applying for NVQ Accounting with Bristol College. The attitude of my Lone Parent Advisor amazes me. I feel as though I'm not being taken seriously because she seems so surprised at me wanting to do so much. It feels as though I am struggling to get to do what I want to do. I have just passed Bristol Colleges entry tests, but I'm having to wait for the Jobcentre to sort out the funding for my course before I can enrol. I just hope that my place on the course doesn't disappear while they get it sorted.

Posted on: January 22, 2009 - 10:20pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

I hope they move quickly on this for you.

Posted on: January 23, 2009 - 1:46pm
Rosedragon
DoppleMe

Well, I got into college and I'm loving it. Best thing I've ever done.

It wasn't easy getting there though. My LPA let me down badly and I ended up funding the course and travel expenses myself.

Posted on: March 12, 2009 - 7:55pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Rosedragon

great to hear from you :) , was wondering how you were doing.

Glad college is going well though I am sorry to hear about the funding issues.....

Louise ;)

Posted on: March 14, 2009 - 12:48am
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Rosedragon

It is really exciting to hear that you are enjoying college and its 'the best thing you have ever done'!

You are an inspiration, good luck with the finances!

Keep in touch :D

Posted on: March 16, 2009 - 1:03pm
Bex

Hey,

I am not sure if this post is still up and running but I thought I would share my experiences.

I have just completed Access to HE course with the local college, passing with the higest number of credits... and I have to entirely agree with the awful lack of funding avaliable.
After leaving work to return to education, in order to secure a decent future for my 2 year old daughter, I am pretty disgusted at the Governments lack of help and have been lobbying ever since.
I had to go on income support after re -entering education and becuase of this I was only permitted £20 maintainence a month, I had previously been getting the full amount when working as there are no limits....it seems education means little when single parents are undertaking it! They also refused to fund my travel and I could not apply to the college fund as then my income support and housing benefit would be reduced accordingly resulting in myself and daughter becoming worse off.......And in addition, have had continous problems with childcare over the summer hols, as the college wont fund it, the uni wont fund it until sept and the nursery wont hold her place open!!Not to mention the £800 deposit required by the nursery which the Government will not fund..I had to take out a social fund loan to pay for this....more debt!
I am now awaiting a responce from the dept of BIS(Gov) , as to why I am being held back from uni becuase of lack of funding....
I even had my complaint to the Government 'put in the junkmail' by an MP as she did not deal with the student area.... They really just don't care but times have to change .
Having said that, and despite the endless problems, I would advise anyone to return to education....do an Access diploma (1 year course-15hrs per wk on campus) because it has changed my life. I m off to stydy Law at uni in Sept , with plans to become a barrister (I left school at 16 with no qualifications, so if i can do this, anyone can) and all these barriers that have been put up because of my social status, have only made me more determined to succeed and continue to lobby the government to change their abissmal treatment of single parents returning to education. And the more of us that try , the more likely they are to change......It was the best move of the my life and I know that both my daughters future and mine , in the long term will benefit hugely...so if any of you are thinking of it, I say just do it and it will be the best thing you can do, for yourself and your family.

Posted on: July 13, 2009 - 8:22pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Bex

First of all a massive WELL DONE to have achieved all that. WOW! I agree that everything can seem to work against you and I do hope your complaint will be investigated. I have seen a lot of teenage parents try to complete/enhance their education (especially if they missed the last bit due to the pregnancy) and get places but be unable to take them up because of a lack of childcare. But I had not realised that there were the financial complications you describe. There really should be funding given to help you, after all you are working your socks off to get a better future, and it's no picnic :? But I agree that it would be great if we could all get the best education possible!

Posted on: July 13, 2009 - 9:00pm
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Bex, blimey you have overcome some hardships!

As they say you can't keep a good woman down! Good for you for keeping striving forward, it is so ridiculous all the red tape and expenses you are experiencing, surely this country would want our society to be well educated and support us all in doing so.

I hope that others reading your post are inspired to tread your path regardless of the obstacles.

Its great to think that we have a barrister in our midst, keep in touch and let us know how it is going.

What are your plans for the summer??

Posted on: July 14, 2009 - 11:56am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

That's brilliant! Well done.

I've been doing OU course, and as its part time its not affected benefits. I couldn't have gone to Uni (there is one up the road) because of child care issues though. I'd be mad not to do it as I do get a grant and the course paid for. I'm in Wales where, at the moment the system is different. I believe its going to be changed.

I think I'll be doing politics from September. My tutor has suggested this due to my life experiences. Its the first time anyone has suggested a path! I'll have to work towards a degree though - which I hadn't though about before. So, that or driving...

This isn't college orientated, but is training, as I tried to get the equivelant of a student loan to train to be a driving instructor - mainly because of the repayment terms/rates. I'm on income support, and I figured that it would get me into being a tax payer again - very negative reply from the MP. Must write to him again though. I'm sure it must be coming ever closer to election time.

My very, very best wishes for September. I'm sure with your determination you will achieve your dream.

Posted on: July 14, 2009 - 9:10pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

I will be interested to know what you decide to study next, sparkling. Everyone who goes back to their studies seems to get a lot out of it. Good luck to all!

Posted on: July 15, 2009 - 8:17am
zane26

I would love to study but i am scared to death of going to college(sad i know) then i can't see how i could fund it or fit it in around the kids. What are ou courses please?

Posted on: July 27, 2009 - 7:55pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Sparkling has done some courses through the Open University. With regard to fees, sometimes you can get some help with finding depending on what you want to do.You can get a combination of grant and loan to go to University (fulltime, by which I mean 20 hours or so). With other courses it is a csae of sourcing locla, funds. Your local CAB has a directory of funders in your area. Most only fund organsations but there are some that help individuals. Have allok at http://careersadvice.direct.gov.uk/helpandadvice/helpwithfunding/

Posted on: July 28, 2009 - 10:42am