Hi guys
Glad you felt able to get it off your chest, Sy.
However please everyone, don't swear, it is one of our guidelines not to use offensive language, remember this is a public domain, thanks. Sy you only put one little swear word in and expressed yourself quite forcibly without ;) I had to delete part of the post that didn't respect the guidelines though, sorry :(
I'm fine thanks, will just be on here a bit more this week with no Anna. :)
As long as peple respect the guidelines ie no swearing and nothing "personally offensive" or racist/sexist etc then there is nothing wrong with letting off a bit of steam. I WILL edit out inappropriate language and if it persisted I would warn the user.
"Rant" need not be at your former partner, as you point out. It can be at the "system", or things in general that wind you up.
Gosh.
First time I've been "in" here.
Hugs sy...
I'm here.
Just this second got in from a Scout meeting!
That's not a rant... :roll:
I'm not sure how to rant, other than stamp my feet!
I don't do bad swearing! :roll:
see you later.
Really hope she's ok.
xx
You're late...
It's funny being expected to rant. I think ranting is usually spontaneous! I was quite impressed with yours...
Well, he's being a git now. No CSA since 6 July - knew he'd avoid it after it was put up!
Ruined my chance of a new life by cancelling having the children - although, to be fair, probably just as well.
He never ever thinks of the children - but then why should he as he knows I'll make sure they don't miss out anyway?
I met someone.
We'd plan things - we'd go places using the Travelodge cheap offers, book concerts, cinema... Then ex would cancel overnight contact late the night before or even - only once - when the children had actually left here on their bicycles to go to his.
I'd get mad, chap I met would go mad. I couldn't cope, so I finished with the chap - who is a very loyal friend and the children love him to bits.
I don't know about that! I feel I go on so much about me, and yet, being over 5 years down the road - and the one who instigated the divorce - I should be fine!! I sometimes wonder if I should post here.
He is a Git. It got to the point where I wouldn't tell the children any plans that were made, as if he had a whiff, he'd would cancel deliberately.
Since this chap and I are no longer an item, he's hardly seen the children - I reckon he feels 'job done'!!
He always, always did what he wanted. He played badminton, so did I. When I had our first, he's say 'you can go next week'. I'd be feeding the baby, and no matter how early it was, he'd get changed, grab his bag and go. My turn never came.
I don't dwell on this stuff - it's well filed away, and it's things I'll go over when I wonder if I've let the children down.
Before I knew he was in contact with the Texan woman, I noticed he was looking tired. I was working nights, so he was coming in from a 13 hour day (hour and a half journey on the train) and I'd be snoozing before work - he'd have to put the children to bed. Something I always encouraged, as he saw so little of the children.
So on my night off, I started to iron the shirts for him to have ready for work (he did the ironing usually). I'd make sure the grass was cut (quarter of an acre) and all the dishes etc washed.
Little did I know at that point he was on the internet until 1.30am, and back online at 4.30am emailing this woman. Seems they never 'chatted'.
He actually wrote a car off too, going to get the train one morning. A beautiful day, dry and in a 30mph limit. He smashed into the back of a car. Unfortunately for him, it was on the day I'd arranged to take the children to his place of work so everyone could see them. So, I saw the car. Made sure he was ok before questioning him about falling asleep at the wheel. He reckon he didn't. I reckon he did. Flaming nice car it was too!
I can see it now. At first, it didn't matter as I was able to play badminton with the place I worked. Just that closed when I was 'off' having my third child - I played until I was 6 months pregnant.
That was the end of my badminton playing days - and I was a pretty good club player.
Just when you're living it, you don't see things.
Sy I am not surpsied you dreamed of squiggles after all your court forms :)
Paula hope your daughter is Ok?
Sparkling, please don't stop posting, you help so many people and have lots of wisdom to give us all :D
Sparkling,
this unrequited love thing. Have you never watched the movies?
THEY ALWAYS GET TOGETHER AGAIN!
Then we exit cinema.
Is he still single? Tell him you want to love him again and hope that he has a special place in heart for you too.
If he can find it in his heart to try again, you will give too. :cry:
So tired for work. Had a weird dream about squiggles on paper.
love Sy
No, I won't Sy.
It's easier as it is. I think I'm too difficult to have a relationship anyway - far too demanding!! :D Ex told me I was, and over the last few years I realise he's actually right.
Hope work is a good today.
I'm ok...
Happiness for us both - just not quite today maybe.
xxx
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Why can't I just have one day where I'm all sweetness and light?
How was my friend to know I'd only had 3 hours sleep?
Why won't the cat be happy with the food she's had and stop moidering me?
Why won't the cat sleep in her basket instead of pushing stuff of the table to sleep on there?
Why does the dog love me now when she wouldn't even look at me for the previous 12 years?
Why won't my son realise that the Wii remote wouldn't charge unless my computer was switched on, and it takes more than 3 minutes to recharge anyway?
Is it really so awful to want to have a teensy bit of a happy day?
To be fair, my life is completely heaven to many, I know. And I'm grateful for that.
Lack of sleep and the prospect of bleep bleep Slimfast is just too much to take some days. :D
That was a good rant, zane! Hope it feels a bit better to get that off your chest :x
zane - loads and loads of hugs for you. Hugs for your children too. Your life will be more settled without him, maybe. You'll know where you stand, and so will your children.
Great rant, Paulasgems ;)
You know something, guys, if any of you re-read your own rants about your former partners, does it not make you GLAD that you are moving forward now?
You are all doing so well and it's great that we can support each other like this :) One day at a time and moving towards happiness.....
Oh Paula.
You've dealt with so much, so have your children.
Loads of hugs and strength.
How are you today sparkling? hope the sun will shine on you tomorrow :D
allright, here goes...
Louise (my ex), you are so blxxdy selfish. You never ever appreciated how hard I worked to build us a future. It almost destroyed me! I cried on platform 2 of Green Park tube station at 11pm I was so tired!
You had sex with a stranger you met on an online game and taken the children to some godforsaken scummy estate for your ego. Luke is really miserable and hurting and you can't even see it! He wants to see me and you keep him prisoner in that smelly flat. I don't put the clothes you send him with on him because they stink so much! It takes me two days to get his hair clean because your so busy using this poor sucker you can't be bothered to wash Luke's hair.
You've told the best school Luke ever went to, that they "didn't fullfill Luke's needs" I can't believe you said that to those dedicated and generous people. You embarrass me! I had to apologise to them for you because you never had the integrity to do it!
It's taken 6 weeks to clear the washing pile you left!
Sex was rubbish with you too, why'd you think I cried at the end of it? Because I knew you were heartless and didn't love me. You can never love anyone, you don't know the meaning of it. I kept giving and giving even when you were seeing him.
When we met, you pleaded for me to never leave you. When I said yes, I meant it and I never have.
There's no agreement you have made that you have not already broken! You have no integrity and lie to save your own distorted reputation to those foolish enough to to believe your sob stories.
You are such a user of people, I'm fed up at having to keep explaining what's happened to people that have cared for you and never heard from you.
Now you are using this guy, you have no intention of committing to him, he's just a means to an end for you. You've already fobbed him off with "we might get together in the future". How dumb is that, he must really be desperate. He has 4 children, one he never sees who's 5, he say "well I'm on the birth certificate". The other children have left bar one. She has no contact with her mother. When he has no answer to anything, he just shouts his head off. And you complained about me as a dad!
You never checked how my stepdad was when he was dying, he helped you for 12 years and you never asked once. And yes, he was annoyed with you before he died!
You are bitter to me about never having Christmas with your mum and not visiting enough, but when I called her to apologise, she knew nothing about you leaving and she said you had not visited her for 7 months! You've been home all week and she is only 45 mins drive away! You are such a blxxdy hypocrite!
I'm going to bring more and more and more of the clothes I bought you to look pretty in to that flat, until they spill out of the front door!
You are cruel to Luke, preventing contact "because he is whining". He's not whining he's SUFFERING!
phew.