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Im a single mum of 3 children, aged 13, 6 and 19mths. Ive been on my own since my 6 yr old was born. My youngest is a result of a brief relationship ( contraception failed :( )

Her father was abusive and threatened my life and to abduct her. We had to move away from the place we called home and start a new life, all with the support of social services and the police.

Im looking to meet other single parents as i dont have many friends where i am now.xx

Posted on: June 9, 2010 - 12:23pm
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Kazzaloo and welcome to One Space. That must have been a massive upheaval, moving away and making a fresh start, congratulations on having the strength to see that through. I am so glad that you and the children are safe.

It is hard to make a new start in a place where you have no roots. Have you found any local things you can attend with your youngest? Your health visitor might be able to point you in the right direction. Also have a look at

But please do also stay with us. There is lots of support and information here and you have some challenges ahead, with a toddler and a teenager in the same house!

How have the children settled into their new home?

Posted on: June 9, 2010 - 12:55pm

Hi kazzaloo, welcome to One Space. Sounds like you've been through an awful lot, you've done the hardest part by moving away. Well done for that :) Once the children have settled and made friends through school etc, then I'm sure it won't be long before you too have their parents as friends. How long have you lived where you are now? Do you have family to support you?

Look forward to chatting some more

Take care



Posted on: June 10, 2010 - 10:48am
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Kazzaloo, welcome along!

I imagine you have been through so much over the years, I bet it feels good to feel safe again and probably a bit strange.

Have you had contact with Womens Aid or the Freedom Programme? Presumably the police directed you to them whilst working with you.

Do you feel safe now? Do your children?  Feel free to come along and talk in the Relationships and You part of the site about coping with feelings about your ex.

Also have a look around Your Local Support and Events, is there anything going on there in your area that interests you where you might meet other single parents?

Posted on: June 11, 2010 - 4:29pm

Hello Kazzaloo,

strange as it may seem, you will probably be able to help other people here too. You must have gathered quite a bit of wisdom and experience.

You are very welcome here.

Hug sy :)

Posted on: June 11, 2010 - 4:53pm

Thank you for the warm welcome.

We have been here since March of last year. My ex knows we are in the town, ive had people he knows following me, trying to find my address. So the police are still involved and i have a  TAU on my address. I dont feel 100% safe, but im getting there.

My children have found it difficult, especially my eldest as shes being bullied at school by a couple of girls . I have put in to be moved again.

My mum lives nearby which is good. And i met a new man a couple of months ago who is lovely.

Posted on: June 12, 2010 - 8:57pm
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Kazzaloo

How are you today?

I am glad you have your mum nearby and also to hear that you have met someone nice. The safety thing is one that will take time and obviously if you know you have been followed then it is bound to undermine your security. Did you have a look at the links Anna suggested?

As for your daughter, that must be very hard for her, having already uprooted and now to experience this bullying. Are the school doing anything? I don't know if you have been in touch with Kidscape, but here is the link

What are you up to this weekend?

Posted on: June 13, 2010 - 8:18am
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Kazzaloo

So it does sound as if you are still living on tenterhooks, things might feel a little better, but obviously there is still a lot of nervousness and concern.

I would really urge you to find your local Freedom Programme as you would learn so much about your previous situation and would armour you and your children for the future.

Many women often make new friends and find that their confidence grows hugely, which may be an added bonus when it comes with dealing with your daughters issues with people bullying her.  Have you spoken to her teachers about this?  Do they know your situation?

It might be worth finding out your daughters school policy on bullying and see what steps you could take with this.

Posted on: June 16, 2010 - 4:16pm

I'd like to add my hello's here too.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through, and really sad to think so much is still happening.

I do hope the school will be positive about the bullying.  My son, who has mild autism/aspurger's went through awful times in primary and in the secondary school.  The school has been really good each time, although it can flare up again when everyone starts to relax.

Sending loads of strength your way.  Glad your Mum is close by.  Family and friends can get you through so much, as can our children.

Posted on: June 18, 2010 - 10:38am

Hi Kazzaloo,

How awful to have bullying to deal with on top of everything else, at least you know that your daughter feels she can talk to you about it!

There are some sites online that have bullying advice for parents:


Posted on: June 24, 2010 - 8:49pm