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Couple warned over allowing children to cycle to school alone

Bubblegum
DoppleMe

Here.

Posted on: July 4, 2010 - 9:00pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Oh my goodness, this is outrageous. What are the parents thinking? An 8 year old with responsibility for a 5 year old. So many awful things happen to children. Makes you wonder what else goes on. Does the 8 year old perhaps babysit for the younger one at home?

Posted on: July 4, 2010 - 9:09pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Actually I applaud the idea that they are gradually letting the children have more freedom and that we wrap children in cotton wool too much nowadays......but at eight and five? This is really shocking.

My understanding is that there is no age specified in law as to when children can be left unattended, it is left to parental judgement and I think this is unhelpful as many parents would welcome guidance

Posted on: July 5, 2010 - 7:05am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

The shocking bit here is "London" and the ages of the children.  An 8 year old certainly shouldn't be in charge of the five year old.

The part that matters is they cycle on the pavement and there's a lollypop lady.

If there's a nanny, you could argue that the parents would have considered the risks?

My youngest has been walking home since he was 9 - which is when there was a lollypop person finally employed for them to cross the main road.  His primary school expects them to be more independant from Year 2 and definitely from Year 3.

I do take him to school as there is no one crossing them to the school site itself, where parents are so focused on chucking children out of the car, stopping on yellow zig-zags and randomly letting children out of cars into the road rather onto the pavement, that they wouldn't notice if a child crossed in front of them.

 

If this was the 8 year old cycling to school, with no 5 year old involved, would this be more acceptable?

 

 

Posted on: July 5, 2010 - 8:57am
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Interesting.....I would have loved to have felt confident enough for my daughter to go to school on her own when she was younger.  Every day into work I see a young boy walking on his own to school. At first I was shocked but then questioned myself, if all our children were doing this, it wouldn't be unacceptable or shocking.

If these children are on pavements and then crossing the road with a responsible adult (lollipop lady) then where is the harm?

I presume the parents have enough faith in society to believe that if anything did go wrong, a member of the public would step in and help.

Although it sounds nerve wracking, I think we should all applaud them and maybe take a leaf out of their books.

SOOO bubblegum, you post this article, have you nothing to say on the matter?? Your children are close to those ages, would you let them ride to school together without any adult supervision?

 

 

Posted on: July 5, 2010 - 1:13pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

No way on earth would I let my 7 year old ride or walk to school. I've only just allowed him to ride round outside across the road on the green, and then I'm standing at my gate watching him!! I spoke to some of the Mums at the school about this, and they were as horrified as me. I thought maybe I was too overprotective, but after listening to some this morning, I know I'm not.

Posted on: July 5, 2010 - 1:30pm
HelenT

Hi all,

What troubles me about this is the eight year old holding some form of 'responsibility' for the five year old. What if something did happen? I worry that the eight year old would have to live with the guilt of feeling responsible.

I have struggled with this with my own son; who is now ten. We live by a busy junction and though my son is a bright child he often lacks in basic common sense. He has been desperate to have some freedom and this year (year five) has started walking to and from school with a friend. In the end what made my mind up was the thought of him not having the opportunity to learn the valuable skill of independance before he reaches secondary school.

In terms of law I was under the impression that you could; in theory, let a child walk to school alone at any age, it becomes a legal problem when and if the child has an accident (at which point you may be guilty of neglect). I find this impossible and would welcome some guidelines.

Helen

Posted on: July 7, 2010 - 8:52pm