BRCNOR

I would be interested on Dads views on FNF Families Need Fathers.

I was divorced a decade ago. My Ex has been covertly hostile through out, frustrating contact and all arrangements for the children (PAS).
Eight years ago my daughter moved in with me due to grief from mother and partner.
Until about a month ago no maintenance was paid for my daughter, (ineffective CSA).

Now by agreeing to pay my daughter £25 per week, a lot less than the CSA was demanding, she has convinced my daughter to move in with her.

Through out, the only organisation I've found that offers sound advice to Dads is FNF.
My advice to all Dads is to join FNF even if you have reasonable contact and / or residency, as with an Ex-partner (and any new partner) in the background you never know when they might decide to try and change arrangements, probably occurring when your guard is down when you are least expecting it. At least that's been my experience.

Posted on: February 20, 2009 - 7:40pm
sadsy

Is about £26 to join for the year. Useful source of information for dads.

Factsheets are cool. Especially loved the "Guidance for cafcass officers document" which is a beautiful vision of shared parenting after separation.

has a forum which I never got the hang of.

Posted on: July 8, 2010 - 6:11pm

sadsy

FNF is a rubbish name. Sounds like neo-nazi organisation. They should dump it and call themselves "cuddles" or some such.

Posted on: July 8, 2010 - 6:13pm

HelenT

Hi Sadsy,

Can I deduce from your post that you would recommend this organisation to other single parents? I totally agree about the name and your observation made me laugh out loud!

HelenT

Posted on: July 10, 2010 - 7:19pm

sadsy

yes recommended, and not just for fathers.

To my shame I have not used it enough.

My little morose home is the "hello" thread and people come and visit me there sometimes.

Posted on: September 10, 2010 - 8:50pm

paul980

i was member and started to take meetings with someone more experienced - i was a victim of DV and at time never heard of mens aid / FNF and was ingnored when i reported DV / ex mental health and what she said about her dad . she then reported DV after i demanded help and went into refuge - i have approached my council and note many councils are the same that "men dont expereince DV and have never heard of mens aid/ fnf thats why they are not published on their web sites" 

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 12:06pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

It is thought that around 10% of Dv is experienced by men and I am glad that more is being done these days to raise awareness and support those who are affected

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 6:09pm