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i am a single parent to 2 children my daughter is 6 in 2 weeks n my son is 18 weeks, i suffer with mental health issues n finding it increasingly difficult to cope some days i dont want to leave the house which has resulted in my daughter missing alot of school i now have the authorites involved i also have social services but no matter how much i ask for help i dont get any n end up feeling worse, i am at a loss now of what to do n who to speak to, if i dont find the help i so desperatley need i am at risk of loosing my children i just wanna be a good mum n be happy.
Hi tazztaztic and welcome to One Space.
Sorry to hear your having a difficult time off it, can i ask what type of support you are looking for? I ask this because sometimes help/support is being offered just not the type of support we feel we need or want.
Have social services made any recommendations?
Depending on what you feel would help there are many options available to you. If you would like some practical or emotional support there is an organisation called Homestart (click for link) that maybe available in your area, they offer home support to parents with a child under 5 that are struggling to cope.
You say that you are suffering mental health issues so i am imagining that you are seeing your doctor for this have they recommended anything i.e medication or counselling? If you are not getting either of these then you could go back to your Doctor and ask what options are available to you. Here is a link for Mind they offer support and advice for people suffering with mental health issues.
Do you have family and friends that live close to you that are able to support you?
Are you having difficulties actually leaving the house or are you just finding it difficult to get up and out in the mornings?
Lots of questions i know, but it will help us better to know what to recommend to you.
Hi thank you for your responses was on my phone earlier so can explain my situation a little better now, I have services in place (including home start) but still do not feel I am getting the support I need my Daughter starts cahms sessions soon due to having difficulties with her behaviour I have spoken to the school and for a while they were collecting My Daughter and bringing her home but that service is no longer available where the school as all my other services are concerened it is my social workers responsibility but she in turn puts it back onto everyone else, I have this huge to do list and am struggling to cope with the demands of s.s which include a mental health s.w, ewo (educational welfare officer) is now involved due to my Daughters attendance so I am thinking that this issue must be addressed first I have a problem going out not getting up my 17week old son makes sure of that lol also with menatl health issues I do suffer with not being able to sleep, I have no family period let alone close by I am in completley the opposite direction of the school so there aren't any children around our area that attend the school my Daughter does, I feel as though I need to deal with everything bit by bit but I am not allowed to due this I had an awful pregnancy and still trying to get back on track and with everything else I really do feel I am at breaking point and no matter how many times or to whom I express my worries n concerns I am just being threatend with court or loosing my children all together, I hope this covered your questions I find it hard to explain at the mo as head is all over the place.
hiya hun how are u, sounds like u are avin terrible time, really sorry to hear, is ur partner not around, hope u dont mind me asking,it is hard i no, and ive ad ss on my case once bfore, cos of my ex ,im in middle of court case, i have demandin 2 half yr old lol, and 2 sons with me, im on my own,hope ur ok hunx
Hello tazztaztic
Welcome to One Space!
I really feel for you and there are so many demands on you at the moment. I won't give you yet another long list to do, it sounds as if there are enough people doing that already. It's great that your daughter has a CAMHS appointment.
However, please contact Home Start as Sally mentioned and also Sure Start and ask them for support (click the blue links) it sounds as though the things that would REALLY help are:
1. Someone to help with the school run and maybe even take your son for a walk to give you a short break
2. Someone to talk to who would help you prioritise the "to do" list
SO...tell them what would REALLY HELP, whether it is what I have suggested or something else. Your health visitor might also be helpful.
You have a new bunch of online friends here and you can talk to us anytime 
Thank you I tell them all the time and seems to fall on deaf ears, been going through for so long n still not getting anywhere.
Do get in contact with the organisations we mentioned though,it would be great if you got a Home Start volunteer to help support you
Hi tazztaztic. Welcome along. I'm sorry you're having a rough time at the moment. It doesn't seem fair that you're asking for help from the social services, and nothing is being done. Have you been in touch with the school, to explain about your situation?
Do you know any of the other parents that could maybe help out with the school run, until you're more on your feet? I don't know about these things, but could your GP have a word with the SS.
Don't panic though, and please keep posting, as our parenting specialists will be able to give you some support.