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Hi please can somebody help!
I have seperated from my husband as i dont love him, fed up of being scared when he has a bad day at work, dont get me wrong dont hit me, but may lash out at items, shout at me and kids, but we are still under same roof, i said i would give it a go untill July when we are waiting for a payment to come out, set us both up. The problem is he is being unreasonable every time i go out sends nasty text messages, questioning me where i am ect.... I have to ask him if i wont to go out, if i stay in he is checking following everything i do, asking questions ect.....i dont think i can live like this. Now i have said to him i wont out early he says that if i leave he will chase me for all payments on house ect.....but if i leave and get a solicotor involved i wouldnt be able to pay half the mortage and rent some where else....where do i stand, i have two kids too which he wonts joint custody but isnt going to be prepared to agree set dates or times, he says he will decide when he has them and can get them any time...is this true? I feel so trapped dont know which way to go.....
sorry, duplicate post
Hi mumjames
I hope the legal expert will be able to give you some information.
I'm not able to help with your questions as with me the children's father set the "standard" every other weekend and one evening a week. This has gradually dwindled to him seeing them a couple of times a year, as he's moved away.
Its not an easy time when it comes to seperating, but this board is brilliant for support.
hi mumjames welcome to this site stay with us and you will get support on here use the links as they are good . it cant be nice living the way you are do us ethe legal link it is good try cab too. that is what my ex told me he wanted and did choose when and what times he would see the kids when he was seeing them . but the trouble was i felt that this was best as i didnt want to upset the apple cart nor upset the kids . my ex did hit me so i have yet to see my ex unless it is the wrong way to which i have had to go to the police time again . they think that they can control you in any way they can i would go to cab see what they can advise to you too stay on here . it is never going to be easy to part but in time you will get stronger
Hello mumjames
You have also written to me on the Relationships Expert page but I think you really need some advice from our Legal Expert. I will forward it on to them from my Ask the Expert email and hopefully they will have time to send you a response before the Xmas break. By the way, our website remains open throughout the season for help, support and online contact.