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I have been awake since before 4am.
I'm at work today. Last week I was at the receiving end of sarcastic comments with the boss (who can be such a good friend - his wife too) standing behind me checking to make sure I was working.
I have sarcasm about how little work I do (keeping in mind I'm paid for a 16 hour week but have been working up to full-time hours to make sure we are able to book in work for the men to go to).
So today I have decided to give priority to the wages, as we close on Friday until 7 January.
I'm also thinking of typing out a redundancy letter finishing me on 4 January so I can take this to the job centre and then go self-employed...
The question is, do I have the courage?
In my head I ask him to go into his office for a chat and I tell him how hurt I have been with his distrust in me. Also point out that I have been working for about £2.30 an hour since the beginning of summer to ensure that the contracts get sorted, working the same hours as my full-time colleague (who also does unpaid overtime).
I'm glad I have a cough. He's planning on a Christmas meal one evening, and neither my "old" colleague or I have been keen on this.
I like to think I am a hard worker. I always worked long hours, and it is my choice to not finish on time. The new girl has been given different duties really to those we had hoped she would be doing, so really, little has changed to the work load.
So... good idea or bad? 
I need to keep the working tax credit and child tax credit. Plans are to do VAT returns, CIS returns, and bit and pieces of paperwork...
Thanks Louise. I will look at that this evening.
I do VAT return for my friend, and she says another farmer is wondering if I'd do the same for him. Her books have just gone through her accountant and he had nothing awful to say about the work I'd done, and so has given me some confidence...!
Surprisingly, I still have some housing benefit, which surprises me as they know eldest is working. I do full pay council tax, having said that. I need to look into it a bit more before getting a letter done! I can always call to see him at his place over the holidays to get him to sign.
I need to talk to him though. I'm guessing he's fed up of feeling the need to support me? Yet I do feel the work I do is essential. My colleague reassures me too. Its that major lack of confidence causing issues here.
Well sparkling he ought to treat you better! Just because he has been a friend does not mean he can take this much advantage. If you do have "the chat", it might help to write bullet points down on a little card, just a few key phrases. Remember, do not apologise, just state your case 
Ah, but you've taken the first step already, Sparkling, just by thinking like that! :-)
You could write a list about all the things you like at your job now, and a list of what could be improved and one of what you hate. Then one of what you'd like about being self-employed, plus what would be difficult and what you'd hate.
That way you'll get a very clear picture of everything and maybe it would make your decision really obvious to you?
Does your boss know how unhappy you are? Is he normally approachable? In principle I think it's always good to talk. You could point out to him how hard you've been working (including for 2.30/hr!) - he might not even conciously realise that? And I am with Louise: you have nothing to apologise for! :-) xx
Thinking of you Sparkling as always. I think your boss has taken you for a ride long enough, considering what you've done over the years. I hope Louise has helped you decide (I'm sure she has)
Bullet points are brilliant idea sparkling, as you have bent over backwards for this company and just by stating these points, might help him put things into perspective.
Good luck with your decision making. You deserve to be treated with respect, so go in there and demand it. thinking of you.
I did have a chat with him last week, and my colleague backed me up.
Today has been a good day, even though problems were a nightmare.
The Christmas meal is tomorrow evening, and my colleague won't go without me!!
I'm sure I can survive two days - especially as there will be three weeks pay which means I might survive the month 
I'm looking forward to two weeks off - the first proper break since last Christmas.
I am going to think about this seriously next week though. Read things up and see what I can manage self-employed wise.
Whether our chat last week made a difference I don't know. I'm not holding my breath.
Thank you so much for your support and the links xx
We are always here for you, sparkling
Hi sparkling, I would say go for it, as long as you feel fairly confident there is some work to give you some income, the first year of self employment can show a very small income but thereafter you need to show that you are making some money. As I said to you a while ago, your 16 hours can also include the time you need to do networking, keep your own books straight, training and admin. Think about the actual amount of money that your wages are at present. If you can make that up with private work, then you have a real prospect on your hands You can also set some of your house and car expenses against your profit and will it affect Council Tax and Housing Benefit?
If you go to this page and decide how much your S/E income would be, it will give you an idea of these things. Also have a read of this guide, some of it won't apply to you but some of it is very useful