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you can set acocunt settings on facebook so that only your friends can see stuff - facebook is one of the most used forms of evidence (vindictive or otherwise) againt the other parent (and my ex hacked mine - misuse of computer act )
i now how sswokers work and if they get get phone call after phone they will come around and c you and i had it done to me my house was in a bit of mess as the kids were playing when they come up nothoing was said then a week later they come back again to tell me that my house was a mess sswokers want us mothers to live in show case homes...but when children are playing they happy that what i said to my sswokers and she said with your place need a clean up i said to her you have a joke kids made mess...if you boyfriend is beening a** hole you dont need him around also it happened to me as well with my kids dad as well..now mine in care because of what happened and that my place was not a place
i lost my house and carreer over them - i live with my parents now with my littlen - dont matter if you live in a palace, they will find something wrong our house is concidered very large - (similar to four houses put together) and even sw thought it was several houses - but in the report house to small
they tried to remove my daughter cos i reported what she saying (which is concerning) and we even caught them altering medical records so they could discredit me -
Dear stephanie-elizabeth, obviously you are very concerned about what your ex has done.
How do you know that social services have been involved? Have they been in touch with you?
The father of your baby sounds very unstable and I agree with Louise and disable your facebook page or edit your friends (who aren't real friends).
You might want to contact your Health Visitor and discuss any concerns you have regarding the social services.
Although other people on this thread have had very difficult issues with social services, try and remember that their aim is to keep families together not split them up, but ultimately to protect children from harm.
He said hwe has phoned them and tried to prove it by sending me a msg with there number in it.
i know that proves nothing i also havent heard anything from them, he sent me a msg saying social services told him they wont get involved yet . . . but sirely if they were told ive beeen neglecting my son the wouldbe straight on the case !!!
Yes you would hear from them pretty quickly if they had a concern, and as i said even if they come, it is not neccessarly a bad thing. People on this thread have had various experiences of them but I have worked with parents for over ten years now and am speaking from having seen many cases so please try not to worry.
Louise is correct - you have good and bad in all people and walks of life, Social workers have to be registered with GSCC http://www.gscc.org.uk/registerSearch.php#results and you can check they are correctly registered within the town they work (if they are registered under a different town they should be demoted from front line work until updated) GSCC has also guidelines they have to follow - i have just checked my old social worker on GSCC site and cant find him, who caused me grief (taking a child to GP, praising child up was abuse, reporting abuse was abuse, engineering conflicts, etc ) it looks like he has been removed from site so therefore no longer allowed to practice
Hi stephanie-elizabeth
Sorry that you have been so upset about this.
Do not worry about Social Services. They will be in touch with you to check your son is Ok. Just be polite to them, let them come and see you and see that your son is well cared for. You are allowed to be away from your son, including overnight, such as when you stay with your boyrfriend, as long as your son is being looked after by someone trustworthy, or your take your son with you. If Social Services do visit you, they won't be looking to see if you have the latest baby equipment, or live in a show home, they are just checking your son is safe, clean-ish and has a few toys and a loving relationship with you.
I would suggest you disable your Facebook for a while, just until things settle down, and block anyone you think is causing trouble.