Sarah s

Hello all,

Hope you are all well,

I am looking for other single parents interested in a house share in West London/ the greater west London suburbs. [currently based in Ealing area]

I have researched quite a bit into this, and have most only found very positive benefits for this type of living, for both the children and adults involved. The idea of sharing the financial responsibility for a home; being able to afford and provide something much nicer than I otherwise would, I think is most appealing, but also having other children my daughter can play with at home and the company of another adult[s] is very appealing too!

For me personally, I would love to live in an area with good green spaces for the kids, close to good schools and nurseries with good public transport. Living in a house with a garden would be a dream I could not otherwise afford on my own for the foreseeable, let alone in a good area for my daughter. My ideal would be to create a happy and positive {all be it unconventional!} family home.

In all honesty, my situation is not great at the moment, although I am determined to make a positive happy and healthy life for my children and myself.
I have a wonderful 2.5 year old daughter, and am currently 3 months pregnant and of course single -- a situation I had never could of imagined would happen to me, and is quite difficult to get my head around at times, yet I know that I am not the first woman in history to experience this {or worse} and unfortunately will not be the last, so I just have to do my best, if they can get through it then so can I

I am currently on a planned career break in full time Uni {home-based via the OU}, I work part time as a freelance writer, but am now largely reliant on benefits to survive whilst I complete my degree and during my pregnancy. I would be looking to return to full time work when my baby is 6 months and reduce my study to part time. -- This is a plan I had made with my ex, and if possible I would like to stick to this and try to make this work, I think in a house share would be the only financially viable way I could afford this, providing other people I shared with wouldn't mind me temporarily claiming housing benefit for my share. I am staying with my mother at the moment, but she is looking to move and it is not an ideal or viable space for us right now.

Generally I am quite quiet and tend to be quite busy especially in the evenings with Uni, other than that I'm tidy, {a skill my daughter is yet to learn!} I love to cook, being outdoors, am a little creative and quite open minded/ accepting/ easy going, so I get along with most people, and kids! I think the most important thing for me is to live with people who have a positive and happy outlook on life or at least would like to create that environment for themselves.

If anybody is interested, please do reply or message me. Ideally I would like to move within a few months [around February]. 

Thanks for reading,
much love
Sarah x

Posted on: December 28, 2013 - 11:55pm
GoodEnoughMum
DoppleMe

I love the idea of a house share and you sound like a great person to live with!  Unfortunately I live on the Surrey/Hants border so Ealing would be a bit of a commute but I hope you find someone.

Gem

x

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 12:03am

Sarah s

Hi Gem,

I'm very new here, thanks for your lovely comment:)

Finding a new home can be a little nerve wracking and stressful, especially with little ones! fingers crossed!  All the best to you x

Sarah x

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 12:11am

rudimentary mary
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Sarah,

Welcome to One Space! As Gem has demonstrated, we're a friendly lot. I hope you can find time to look around and read some of the other threads that might be of interest to you. There is a wealth of information here on the boards, as all our users have a variety of experience to draw on.

I also hope you can find someone to houseshare with - I think it's a wonderful way to live and offers a lot of support to everyone concerned. Keep in touch and let us know how you're getting on.

M x

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 12:27am

Sarah s

Hello Mary, 

Thank-you very much for the welcome, yes it dose seem lovely here :) quite refershing from the stigma and general unease in parts of  society being a single parent. Looking forward to not feeling so isolated and exploring more.

thanks again 

x

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 12:38am

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

I hear of more and more people doing this. There is a website that helps you look for housemates, I have never tried it myself so can't endorse it personally but click here to see it. It might be that you would be the tenant and you rent out a room?

You could also check with our Benefits Expert (click) to see if you were receivd rental income, if that would affect any benefits your receive.

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 5:46pm

Sarah s

 Cheers louise, 

Yes it does seem like agrowing trend, I never considered it until I read an article in the gaurdian of two single mothers with their children renting together in london... from what they said it worked fanatsically fo them and the children on every level. So finger crossed!

cheers for the link, Ive posted on quite a few single parent websites, and websites for single parents looking to share... I think the link you posted is more of a generic house share website... I find lots do not wish {understanably I guess} with young children without children themselves, but I will give it a go! I have no idea about renting a whole property on my own and leasing out rooms... will look more into it, but I think this would only be an option if I owned my home... else the system seems a little to complicated and may not let me do this... an equal standard house share seems much less troublesome to me...and affordable! 

I checked out the benefits side of things before... providing everybody has their name on the tenancy as a house share tennant, I could claim housing benefit for my share, just as with any other private rental... except it gets you a hell of a lot more in a house share! As everybody is a seperate tenant they are free/ unaffected to eithier claim housing benefit or pay themselves via their own income. No other benefits/ taxes are affected either as it is just classed as a private rental for whatever the share is exactly the same as if it were sole occupancy accomadation. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted on: December 29, 2013 - 8:05pm

rudimentary mary
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Sounds like you've done your homework, Sarah!

The very best of luck - hope you get some interest from other solo parents very soon.

Posted on: December 30, 2013 - 12:33pm

CleosWorld

Hi all 

I'm a newbie and came across one space while searching for shared accomadation for myself and my daughter.

Sarah. Hi Smile

I am currently looking for one or more single parent families to share a living space (ideally) within london. 

Are you still looking ? 

If so I'm very interested in hearing from you and infact, anyone else this may appeal to 

all the best 

xox

 

Posted on: March 13, 2014 - 5:12pm

Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Sarah s

How are you? How is the flatshare search going?

Have you seen this post Single Parent flatshare, a journalist looking for people just like you!

Posted on: April 23, 2014 - 3:16pm