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Hi Guys, I'm hoping someone can help me with this, When I was pregnant with my son his father walked out. He said he didn't want anything to do with my son and since has never made any attempt to see him yet his parents come over once a week to see him. A few weeks ago his mother suggested I contact CSA as ex has never paid for anything for my son. As soon as CSA contacted him he got in touch for the 1st time in 5 years, to tell me that if I expect him to pay anything towards my son then he would sign over whatever rights he has so he can get away with it. He isn't even on my sons birth certificate, what rights does he have exactly and how would he go about signing them over?
Hi lauren. I agree with Sparkling. I don't think he can sign his rights away either. Whether he wants to be part of your sons life, is his choice. Money however should still be paid.
I chose not to go down the path with CSA in the beginning. When I did, it was too late, he'd left the country, and CSA couldn't touch him. The man isn't on my son's certificate either, never given any money, and I don't expect it now. Son is 10
Hello lauren91
The others are right, he can't just shelve the responsibility. If he denies paternity then the CSA may organise a DNA. Do keep the relationship going with the grandparents 
Hi lauren91, do feel free to contact our CSA expert (click), who may be able to give you further advice or information on your situation.
Hello Lauren91, sign over rights haha I've heard it all now, what a waste of a man but its great that his family are involved & have stick by you..I just have a quick question & please don't take it the wrong way coz I'm not saying your in the wrong at all but how comes after 5 years you now want child support?
Hi guys, thanks for all the help you have just confirmed what i thought. Tinkerbell2 I understand where you are coming from and until a few weeks ago I wouldn't have bothered, I would have just continued as I was. Things only changed because one Sunday my son's grandparents came over for their visit and my ex's mum told me that he had just moved in with his girlfriend and was bringing up her 5 kids like they were his own while his own flesh and blood had been left to suffer. You may think this is selfish but that made me angry, how could someone leave his son but bring up 5 children that are not his? My son and I suffered for 5 years and then to find this out made me very angry. CSA told him he would have to pay £7 a week and he wanted to try and worm his way out of that.
I can see why you are angry, my daughters father was not intreasted in raising her full time & made that clear while i was pregnant, even thou we had been together over 2 years and planned her, when she was 4 months old her got a random girl pregnant & has stayed & supported her the whole pregnancy- makes u feel like there's a problem with u & yr child :(
£7 is a joke, that just about buys a pack of nappies but I guess it's better than nothing.....best of luck & I hope 1 day he realises what he's lost & missed out on
Hi
If you were to contact the CSA they would contact him for financial information. As far as I'm aware, he is not able to sign away the fact that he is a father to a child.
To not pay to the CSA I believe he would have to prove he was not the father...
I'm glad the paternal grandparents see you and your son. My ex-in-laws are/were brilliant with me (my ex-father-in-law died earlier this year).