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hello
Iv got 2 children one who is 2 years old and one who is one years old my son got ringworm from the last play group and now its made me scared take them out incase they play up where they been out for a while does this make me a bad mother do reading painting and flash cards dancing and everything u can think of with them at home but scared it makes me wrong?
hello just feel they will as they aint been out for so long so feel they will b alil hard work due to this and also feel its hard for me too as iv not been out with them for a while they need to go out and get air and feel they will b bad etc
Hi Tanz
How long is it since you've taken them out? It probably will be hard work if you've not done this for a while.
Perhaps going to the local park for a ride on the swings will be a start. Somewhere safe and a place to run off steam. Perhaps straight back home after, and build it up gradually.
Personally, I feel isolating yourself is not going to be too good for your or your children. Perhaps your health visitor can help if this is becoming a bit of an issue?
I doubt they will be bad - they're too young. It is up to you to decide the boundaries for them to stick to. Try not to get anxious as it might mean you'll raise your voice, but if you try and enjoy the laughter (take a football along, perhaps) it will make things easier for next time.
Yeah its needs to be done as its been only 3 weeks but get scared cos last time they was sick with colds and home for a month cos they got one after another and wen took them out for the 1st time my daughter played up crying and was not walking and spent 2 hours trying to get to where needed to b they go down stairs to the play swings and stuff but its not far it outside our house but just scared to go far.
I don't want to scare you, but: In the first year at a playgroup a child picks up an average of 250 bugs. This is because their immune system isn't used to anything yet and they get through most of them without showing any symptoms and mostly the ones they do show will be cold-like. So you should really just get through this.
Also it seems that your anxiety is being transferred to your daughter. Maybe you could meet up with a friend to start with and take the children to the swings together. Or even start with a play date at your house? They may be a little hard work to start with, but I am sure that will settle.
Worrying does not make you a bad mother! We all do it. The trick is to get on with life without the worry taking over everything :-)
Hi tanz12 and welcome to One Space 
I can imagine how concerned and worried you have been about your childrens welfare, as are most parents, this does not make you a bad mother, it sounds like you have been doing some great things with your little ones whilst they have been at home.
Children do catch everything going, especially when they are so young and their immune systems have yet to be built up, thats one reason why it is so important that children get out and about and be around other children, it helps build up their immune system.
It felt like my children were always sick when they were really young but now they hardly ever get sick.
It is natural for children to be rather excited when they are out and about after having been at home for a while and i remember only to well how long it can take to get from one place to another with little people on foot, and would always leave extra early to allow for their slower pace.
Do you struggle with their behaviour at other times? What is it that you worry about their behaviour, is it that people will judge you or that you can't control their behaviour?
Hopeful made a good suggestion do you have a friend that can go out with you to the park or playgroup?
hello
Sorry was dealing with babies nah they r good children friendy funny smart and got lots of engry wen go out try make them hve a nap before cos my daughter gets tired and then gets plays up my son on the other hand he sits in his pram so he can nap at times they are kids who like to do things and understand that we went out 2day to the shops and swings down staris and it was ok so far so god just wanna get them bk in play groups again they do things at home and we go out t my sisters who got a bby and stuff so they see there couisn and other kids too
Hi tanz, that is great that you took the first step and went to the shops and to the swings. I think it is important for all of you to get comfortable and into a routine of going out and about.
Your two are very close in age and I imagine you often feel pulled in two different directions.
Have you ever considered joining a parenting programme (click)? I think they are brilliant for sooo many reasons. You get to meet new people and make new friends, often there is a creche, so your little ones can make new friends and do new things and best of all, you pick up new techniques of handling challenging behaviour.
The first one I ever did was amazing and changed my and my daughters life, I now deliver them to parents and think that we should do them every two years as raising children and managing their behaviour isn't the easiest thing to do, especially on our own! It gives us a better insight into what makes them tick and builds healthy relationships.
What do you think?
Hello Anna
Thank u for that link hoping it helps today we are going food shopping and my lil girl has a list of what she needs to pick from naming the fruits and stuff so hats gnna b fun for her and my son will get it of her nd place it in he trolly gnna b great we are also gonna go to a play group at 12 and do dancing so its lil steps we r taking x
Hi tanz
I hope today went well
hello
Oh my god 2day was amazing so far so GOOD we went shopping to get our food and nappies ETC then we went to get lunch and we went to a ball pit then felt so happy we went to a play group and then we came home and had a lil nap then took them to my sisters where they played and watch lion king on dvd ad had lots of treats and now they r resting on the sofa after dinner and a nice bath soo shocked how today went love it.
That sounds like a lovely day tanz12.
Hi Tanz12, glad you had a good day Hope it boosted you up!!!
Hi tanz12, your initial post was saying that you were scared to take the children out for fear of them catching another illness. Was this the only reason? As you seem to have overcome this and finding life very positive?
my fear was cos they have been ill so many times with colds one after a next and then my son catching ringworm and not able to go out for a long time nd then as scared cos they of that was scared it would b a nightmare but its planned out much better then fort.
Hi tanz. Glad everything is going great for you and the children. Sounds like you've been having lots of fun. It's horrid when they get ill, and it doesn't get any easier
No matter what age, there always seem to be something to worry about doesn't there? You're doing really though, and I'm sure they keep you on your toes hehe. Hope you all have another good day tomorrow.
THANK YOU ALL FOR UR SUPPORT AND GREAT TIPS THANK U ALL SO MUCH IT MEANS SO MUCH XX
You are very welcome! That is what we are here for!
As hazeleyes and others have said, our children are constantly picking up colds and coughs and sometimes we have to keep them indoors. It is easy to get trapped, however you have been really strong and made the next step to move on, so well done you!
PS: I had ringworm when I was about 7, it lasted a year, it really isn't nice, I hope your boy is now well again?
Hi tanz. What have you been up to today? A cosy day indoors would have been on my agenda, if I had the choice. Are you all sorted for Christmas? Do you spend it with your sister? Hope you've had a good day.
hello went just to get my sons hair cut and came home very cold out 2day but we have done loads of things painting and card making must say it was so fun that it got enjoy by me to lol its been great 2morro xmas shopping needs to get started too
I haven't even started. Well, we have written a list (my lot are quite old now...)
I always have a pack of babywipes wherever I go. Since they were babies...
aha sparkling I used to have two little bags, one with a wet flannel in and one with a dry flannel in. Instant face and hand-wiping and drying facility
Tanz, what are your children getting for Christmas, have you any thoughts yet?
Morning
Xmas shopping starts 2day lol my daughter was a furby and books she said so she can learn more bless her myson loves the cars and thomas so lots of goodies for them both lol and some more clothes have enuff of them ha ha x
Hi tanz12 so glad to hear that your week went so well.
Ah your daughter wants a furby they are rather cute one of my girls has one, does your son like real trains? my son was a thomas fanatic and would have me and my dad standing at train stations for hours so he could watch the trains.
I hope your shopping trip goes well, do you have any plans for the weekend?
Ohhhhh Thomas the tank, I have two boys,and have spent hours and hours at model railways, playing with Thomas, reading about him, watching the videos (most annoying signature tune in the universe haha)
It is less icy here today, is it better where you are, tanz?
morning its not icy here its very cold here not a fan of winter iv woken up with a sore throat and a runny nose so we all no whta that means lol.
ooh no, hope you feel better as the day wears on, have a bit of a walk later if the shopping feels too much of a chore?
Hello tanz. Welcome along. I'm sure ringworm for the 2 year old wasn't a pleasant experience, but children do pick things up unfortunately. It's great that you're doing things indoors with the kids, but it's sad that they used to go to playgroup, and now they don't. It also gives you a chance to mix with other parents, and the children to socialize too. In no way does it make you a bad mum, or wrong, but when they start school, they WILL have to go.
Try going back to the playgroup, focus on the fun they will have. Why do you think they will play up?