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ok, i cant really say too much but i just feel i need to say something and as you guys don't know my mum or her work i guess it's kinda ok! lol
Basicly my mum's work place is goin thru redunancy and my mum is one being layed off at end of April, but just recently (probably with most places that are goin thru this there's bound to be some back stabbin and what not goin on) but she's come home pretty much in floods of tears tonight :( she's been accused of sayin things which she's not said at all and was pulled up in front of the 2 people that have told on her basicly and she's had to put things straight with them, and sayin well actually no i didn't say that at all, she's been accused of putting a bug in to the computer systum ... when actually what she was doin was deleting HER things of the dater base at work, she's been accused of under-mimeing the other staff in her office about computers ... when all she's actually saying to them is that if they need help with things to do on the computer then there to ask her cuz they wont get it when she's gone and if they don't know now then they'll never know (these 2 in question don't know about computers and any work they need doing on them they pass on to the other 2 people that are leaving at end of april too!) she's been accused of this, that and the other when actually it's not that at all :(
for a long time the same 2 people have been running off to there boss and telling on my mum and she's been pulled up for it before on about 2 other occasions when really she's not said anything at all she's just tryin to help them. So after the meeting today she went back up to her office and asked her co-worker to write down what she thought of the conversations that were going on in the office today, she didnt say anything about the fact she's been pulled up (well she said she'd got pulled up but didnt say anything bout what about!) and while her co-worker was doing that she went and washed the pots to calm down a bit (and so she wasn't in the room while it was being writen) she went to the other person that was in the office at the time to ask her to do the same and tomorrow she's goin to get a meeting with the boss of the building (not that he's really any good) and just tell him what she's having to go thru in the office and say that she's not happy at all about things and if he dosent get something sorted out (which he prob wouldnt!) she's goin to take it all the the board of trustees.
But i'v never seen her this bad :'( and actually now she will be pleased to get out of there due to all the problems that are goin on ... her line manager dosen't even talk to her any more :O if she wants anything doin she'll go to my mum's co-worker even if it's under my mum's name or if it's something my mum knows more about that her co-worker would do, she'll just go straight to her about things, it's just not right at all :(
I know that these things always start happaning and everything when there's a lot of stress in the air and when the 2 people in question arnt actually out with there work they do NOTHING else at all but just sit there in the office on facebook or something (the only time they work is if there booked out with the bus!) and there the ones that are causing ALL the problems in the office :(
well we've come out tonight with her sayin enought is enought she's not goin to say anything to any one any more, she's not offering any more help out, if any one comes to her for things to be made up on the computer she's goin to say (as she has done for the past 2yrs) that it's not her job any more (yes it use to be hence they come to her for it!) and she's just goin to do what she needs to do and that's it! nothing else at all! which ISN'T like my mum at all :(
Hi Hatz, I`m sorry too that your mum is being made to feel so uncomfortable and losing her job xxx
it's just horrible at the moment with her work, apparently her line manager didn't like something she heard in a convo to my step dad (obv's my mum's hubby!) he was up on snake passage (a VERY narrow road some where up north and it's covered in SNOW SNOW and more SNOW at the moment) and she dosent know what she said but her line manager didnt like it! ... it wasn't even for her to listen to :O it's between my mum and step dad, so that's how bad things are at the moment in there office she cant even talk to him bout things 9 times out of 10 he's callin for her to check something on the internet as to where exactly a shop or bussiness is as he's a courier man and sometimes he cant find places so she looks the up quickly on the internet and discribes what she can see and he says what he can see then she can say right you need to go .. etc!!! but she fells so down at the moment and she really felt like leaving today ... she just thought about the her redunacey package and got back to work!
Yes if she ends up having to leave the job then she might as well get the best she can
Sounds to me as if there is a lot of tension around "who will get made redundant" and these two people are taking it out on your mum.
Is she in a union? If so, she needs to contact them. If not, she can speak to the ACAS Helpline about her situation
yeh she's joined UNION when words started goin round about redundacy so she joined up with a union.
her work college (come friend) has handed in her notice to finish at the end of march which is actually a whole month before she's made redundant but as she's only been there a yr it dosent make any differance on her side! (i do think that the only reason my mum is still there is cuz she'll come out with a lot more than just handing in her notice she's been there 12yr now!) her college isn't sayin why she's leaving till she's left cuz she dosen't want the up roar while she's there! (in other words there's a going to be a few words said!)
right i'v got to go x
Hi hatz. Really sorry your Mum is going through such a hard time at work. Being made redundant too, bless her. I don't really know what to suggest, I guess perhaps if she just keeps her head down at work. Back stabbing at a place of work is awful, and makes lots of people extremely uncomfortable. She's going through a bad enough time losing her job let alone people turning on her. Give her a big hug, and make her a cuppa hatz. I'm sure you'll do your best to cheer her up.