carol woolley

hallo I am carol and this is my first discussion piece.  I'm not coping very well with parenting my teeange son, who both physically and verbally abuses both myself and my daughter of 12.  I've called the police out that many times they've warned me in a polite way the next time for both mine and my daughter's sake they will arrest him.  I find it hard to pick up the phone and call them because of this but in the past 2 weeks have had cause to many times.  I dont want to give him a criminal record for the rest of his life but I also am absolutely exhausted with trying to resolve the issues.  This has been my way of life for a year now and both social services police womens aid counsellors and other agencies have been contacted as I've been very proactive in trying to get support for myself and help for him too.  so far nothing i've done has changed the situation but i do continue to get support from womens aid and my counsellor.  social services have been almost entirely useless in my situation and have now got no respect for the organisation as a whole. 

Posted on: June 18, 2014 - 3:02pm
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi there

Welcome to One Space, what a difficult dilemma you are facing, I understand how distressing and isolating this is.

It feels as though are being told to betray your son, which in turn may affect the rest of his life.

I can't tell you what to do, it is a very personal decision and I know how difficult it is to call the Police on your own child, however if the situation at home becomes dangerous you must protect yourself and your daughter.

Our parent support team has been specialising in supporting parents experiencing parent abuse for the last four years and has supported many parents with this issue. We have had some success with using the Love Bombing technique on distressed young people, it might be something you might be something that interests you?

Do you have any family or friends that are supporting you with this?

Posted on: June 18, 2014 - 4:24pm