Pansy

yes he did & said it was all ok, so i am very proud of him.

Sy said there was no reason why L couldn't come with me & it would be nice for A if he came & visited too, so am taking him with me now as he wanted to come & did not really want to go to his Nan's. I have checked on the Great Ormond St web-site, it says it's ok.

Am not really feeling any better though, still got loads to do as i had to lay down for two hrs because of my headache, have had ibprofean AND paracetomol & still it is lingering & ready to return with agression, i think it's just stress.

You made me think of a realy good film about twin sisters : )

I download lots of films, I have a one terabyte HD that is almost full, mostly stuff for the kids, they get to see all the latest films which is good as I can't afford to take them to the picture or purchase hundreds of DVD's, at the moment they are into Asterix, they even watch the French ones with Gérard Depardieu in them as Obelix, which is cool as they pick up little bits of French, handy for my son for when he gets older and wants to seduce women (joke)

I download stuff using µTorrent which in it's self doesn't fall into the term illegal as there are many sites that list legally downloadable films and music such as Clear bit, it has lots of open licensed digital media which you are free to share, but then there are also far more, thousands in fact, of sites that list stuff you are not supposed to be sharing with your bittorrent client. I wont name them here as you would probably have to delete my post, but [cough] google [cough]is as always your friend for all things nefarious on the internet.

It says on wiki that bittorrent accounts for between 27 and 50 percent of internet traffic, which is why ISP's are reluctant to do anything about it as most people wouldn't bother with having the top end packages if they couldn't be downloading stuff.

Later : )

Get him to use eMule, another perfectly legal download in it's self, also limewire is heavily targeted by those trying to stick their fingers in the leaking dyke that is the world of downloading.

In future with spyware and viruses and stuff get malwarebytes it's free to use, if you have something particularly nasty then boot into safe mode and run it, that gets rid of everything I've even come across on peoples computers.

The peace won't last!

Thanks for the tips, my computer went totally ridiculous not too long ago, I ended up totally wiping it and restoring factory settings, that speeded it up:-)

I am not savvy like Bubblegum but you need your screen menu. Have you got a menu button under the screen itself?

Or you could stand on your head.

sparklinglime

If you are on windows 7 then right click anywhere on the desktop and select 'screen resolution' and in there will be a setting 'orientation' set that to 'landscape' it's probably been set to flipped, (maybe) if you have a laptop then there may be a key or combination of keys that changes it, which may be what you inadvertently done. If your on XP or Vista then somewhere in the screen properties or screen setting or resolution, or something along those lines.. when you right click on the desktop there will be a similar setting. Laptops have different function key setups from brand to brand, but it should be labelled in some icon(ish) way.. try googling something like 'set screen to landscape [insert version of windows here][or even laptop model]' or something similar.

alisoncam

For utorrent there is a search engine called torrentz, google it... and then before you download the torrent read what people have said as to it's quality or content, a lot of people seem to mislabel porn as innocuous stuff, most probably in an attempt to hide it, teenagers I guess. I'm assuming that's what your problem is as that's generally what happens : ) If it's just a general problem with using utorrent then go here and search the FAQ or post in the forums and pose as some seductive MILF, it's full of teenagers and lonely middle aged men, they will fall over them selves trying to help you : )

later chaps : )

Feel free to ask any more questions as it makes me feel important : )

but! I shall be away from me Pc for a while as I'm off to watch Pusher III downstairs, the first two, Pusher and Pusher II had Mad Mikkelsen in them and he is really very good as are the films, he's been getting roles in big budget Hollywood films recently, Clash of the Titan and one of the recent James Bond films  :)

Later.

Thank heavens we have a resident expert! Brilliant!

NOW MY DAUGHTER'S IS IN HOSPITAL!

And guess what? no one will talk to me!

and that stupid GF of ex keeps saying in the background 'I'll keep her informed'

and when i asked what hospital she was in, she just kept repating it, untill i kept on & eventually was told the name of a hospital that she is NOT in!   I got through to the ward, but they just say they can't give me any infomation I will have to speak with her Dad, but GF does not allow that because she has to be in control of everything, so i have to sit & wait to hear from her 

Daughter is being seen by DR now as i write, it is apparently appendicitis, will  probably be operated on according to daughter anyway, that's all i know at the moment.

  Daughter was sent home last night & told to rest, if still in pain on Monday to go to GP. I phoned to check this was true, well could only check that she had infact gone home.

Here are the nasty texts I got from GF, well mine are there too, but you will know which is which.

can u let me know what DR says plz, ward says she is being seen now. thanx.   

ward? talkn rubbish we aint in ward yet but yes il let u no whats happin.   

No your in S **** A & E & not FV****   (she had told me the wrong hospital when my daughter asked where she was!)

think ul find S***** is FV**** hospital! And don't start P my point was we aint in a ward so nothing to tel u but if u want to start ur usual games thats fine but wld think L** welbeing wld be more important tonyt! 

I then got one to say what i said above.

my solicitor says I need to get a scotish solicitor! she does not want to touch this issue with the school after telling me she would write to them. I phoned the one she gave me & they said I have to make first appointment in person!!!!  to prove who I am, for goodness sake, what's wrong with everyone, we don't have to go in peron to the passport office when we apply for one, surley i can send in birth cert etc.

I told her how rideculous it was & she is getting someone to phone me back.

I also phoned the patients relations for the area my daughter lives in & asked if my contact details can be put on their system with a password so that when my daughter ever enters a hospital i can speak to the ward & get infomation without trouble, he is also getting back to me. 

I am still waiting to hear from L*** school or LEA about my rights as parent to her reports. my solicitor is not willing to write to them now as she said the law may be differnt.

Hello Pansy

Firstly I am glad to hear that your daughter is out of hospital, that is an indication that the pain has settled.

However, this has highlighted to you that you need systems in place for you to get information. Your solicitor sounds as if she is unwilling to help. I do not see why you need a Scottish solicitor, surely a local solicitor is capable of looking up Scottish law in a book???? As for identifying yourself in person, you do have to do this, it is to do with the new regulations regarding money-laundering. Re passports, the people that issue them have access to our records and can check things out, a solicitor can't, they can only certify that they have verified your identity themselves. So my suggestion is for you to find another local solicitor. Have a look here to find one in your area that specialises in Family Law

Also you could get in touch with One Parent Families in Scotland, here's the link: click here

no i can't undrstand. i only know she IS a control freak & I can't work that out either because my ex had a serious problem with his Dad being controlling & it really effected him, so he has a BIG chip on his shoulder about it. what I really can't understand is how he copes with her!  although thinking back to that time they both got drunk & locked up for the weekend & he is supposed to have pined her against the wall etc..... ummm well maybe he does not cope, she clearly pushes him, he was never like that with me, not physical, not in 17 yrs, even drunk.

thanks for the links Louise, i will look soon but have to dash to get P from college bus soon.

Have found L's Dr surgery, ha ha!, phoned them, they said put request in writing. i have written & asked that i am put as mum & second point of contact in medical emergency & on her records & asked that i am able to phone & speak with dr if i ever need to about anything she may have wrong with her.

have emailed my solicitor & challenged her! because i thought the same Louise!

whats wrong with her, can't she look something up, i had done it already!  The Scotish one thought the same i thing, they said Scotish law on parental responsibility is no differnt & that i have a right to education & medical records etc

lets see what she says, i have asked her to re-consider writing the letter. The scotish one 'insists' that i would have to go there in person! NO it is not good enough that my solicitor hands over, or that i send ID. can you believe it!

phoned L this morning, she is not in pain now but it hurts when she press it & is still very swollen. will phone her again tonight.

Good work, Pansy, or should we call you Hercule Poirot?

I am sorry to hear that L still has some pain, hope she soom feels better

Oh Pansy,

This sounds like a really stressful time for you. Well done for being firm with your solicitor, it really is unacceptable to take the easy road and try to pass a client on when a case suddenly involves a bit of extra research!

I hope your daughter has been ok over the weekend.

HelenT

Hello Alisoncam,

yes thank you daughter seems ok at the moment & went into school yesterday. i guess her Dr surgery would have got my letter yesterday if not before, so i should be hearing from them soon.

I have lots of people that can't be bothered to get back to me to chase up today

* the man i spoke to at the NHS patients relations who was going to find out what i needed to do for my contact details to be put on their system.

* the head of L school

*the LEA bloke

*my solicitor!

Also have to contact son's teacher about yesterday.

I am really fed up of it & don't know if i can keep going with it, i just want to give up, am not in a very good place at the moment, have reached the stage of not wanting to go out, sitting, not wanting to talk to anyone, not sleeping well & generally feeling like i have done something wrong.

I don't know what my daughter thinks of me & if underneath she does love me & knows what she has done or not, i could quite easily let go, but of course i wouldn't incase she ever needs me. I still feel manipulated & bullied by her sometimes even though she is not here as when she phoned me from A & E that day i asked what hospital she was in the GF said something i couldn't hear & they were both laughing, was when i was trying to find out what hospital she was in.

The GF is really a terrible influence on L, she has an awful attitude to things.  It makes me so sad to think that this is daughters role model. 

My son told me the other day for the first time that he didn't really like her at times & she upset him a few times by being bossy to him, he said he didn't like being around her, but was quite happy with his Dad.

Yes son went to school on Mon, today he does not go in. He was not very happy when he came home yesterday because children had upset him, head had upset him (even if he didn't mean to), & he had missed his dinner & the barometer 1-5 face emotions thing had NOT even been used, so no one would have known.

How is your son Alisoncam? i must catch up on your thread to see how c has been.

Pansy x

Hi Pansy. I agree with Louise, that once everything is in place regarding your daughter, then you'll feel much better in yourself, and you won't be feeling as you do. Everything will come good again for you. Your daughter does love, (never doubt that), and one day, she will come to realise what you have done for her, and hopefully also realise what her Dad's GF is doing. Could take years, but I'm sure eventually this will happen.

Hope your son has a good day tomorrow at school.

C is fine thankyou. There was an incident at school on Friday, boy kicking C, but I went straight in and spoke to the teacher yesterday morning. Turns out, yesterday, this boy was strangling another with a skipping rope!!!! Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

Hope you get some results with phone calls today. Take care, and keep your chin up.

x

hug sy x

yippee

have recieved funding from a local friends of hospital, the Dr wrote to them to ask for funding for horse riding lessons for my son, they have granted funding for 10 lessons. 

it is something else he can be doing to give him confidence & keep him active & going out. he already has been doing wall climbing, we have a fantastic climbing wall at a local lesuire centre & he got his bronze last term which has given him something to be pleased with himself about. i know he will love horse riding, well i think he will, his big sister did & it helped her anxiety loads.

What wonderful news, and it has come at a really good time, too!

Hi Pansy,

Finally some good news, is your son excited about his lessons.

It must be really hard feeling that your daughter doesn't love you but if she is a muddled person at the moment then she probably doesn't understand her feelings about anything or anyone. The most important thing is that you know that you love her despite it all. You have always offered her unconditional love and support and tried to do whats best for your family. You are amazing!

HelenT

Thanks, Bubblegum. All of us as parents can empathise with Pansy's difficult situation. Life isn't always as simple as we thought it would be. It is even more complicated when we have to go it alone.

Hope that your daughter is feeling a lot better now, Pansy. When does your son start riding lessons?

Hope that you don't get the cold, Pansy, that's all you need, but maybe that is why your son is poorly. He did well to go to school last week and hopefully will enjoy his riding tomorrow.

Glad you are feeling more positive today