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beetlechick

Hi, I am new this but after being a single mum for almost 9 years the loneliness has got the better of me.  All my friends are married with kids and sometimes I feel like they are sick of me. 

I have two boys aged 10 and 12 who are my life.  I also work as a Teaching Assistant at a local school which I love.

Posted on: August 19, 2012 - 7:04pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi beetlechick. Welcome along. I have a 9 year old, ten in a few weeks, and I'm also a TA. Loneliness is a big factor isn't it? I look forward to 'chatting'.

Posted on: August 19, 2012 - 9:35pm

sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi beetlechick.

Do understand about the lonliness, even though my lot are quite grown up.

Good to 'see' you here.

Posted on: August 19, 2012 - 11:25pm

Anna
Online
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi beetlechick and welcome to One Space Smile

Glad you have found us. We have often discussed the loneliness that we have felt when parenting alone. Your boys are at an age where they are beginning to think more independently and you have been doing this a long time.

You are projecting that your married friends are sick of you. I am sure this isn't the case. You are feeling particularly vulnerable at the moment and perhaps fed up with yourself and think that they feel the same? Are they giving any particular clues to make you feel this way?

Great to read that you love your TA job, are the school holidays beginning to feel like they are dragging at the moment and you can't wait to get back?

Posted on: August 20, 2012 - 10:54am

beetlechick

Thanks for the welcome.

Anna ... I think you are right in that I am fed up with myself more than anything.  Stuck in rutt/my own little bubble that I want to desperately want to escape from.  I have been back on anti-depressants for almost three weeks now but not sure they are the answer.

I am desperate to get back to the normality of work, my boys were at their dads for three weeks of the holidays and its been horrible having them gone for such a long time. 

Posted on: August 26, 2012 - 5:06pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello beetlechick

Yes when the children go away can be a very hard time if we put all our focus on them. Maybe that is something to learn from this experience: that the boys are getting older and you can start to diminish the intensity of that focus and think about yourself as well. Is there something you have always wanted to do or to learn?

If the tablets don't seem to be helping then do go back to the GP.

Posted on: August 27, 2012 - 7:51am