hi im debbie i have a 14 yr old daughter
Hello debbie46, how are you today? Welcome to One Space. What has been happening in your life that has made you feel this way?
debbie46, hello from me as well.
Lone-parenting can be so frustrating. If you feel able to share some of your problems we may be able to help? Even if its only to let you know you're not alone.
Hi debbie46. Welcome along to One Space. What is the help and support that you're after for your daughter? Look forward to 'chatting'. Take care
my daughter spoke about something that happened to her 2 yrs ago any way since speakin out she came to live with me social services think that was best but 1 prob i was stayin with my bf didnt have my own place so we went and stayed at my daughters we was promised all the help we needed J has been so down and crying every night not sleepin well, shes blamin herself now because were in a mess still livin with my daughter shes been taken away from her friends she feels she is bein punished for what happened because she knew it was wrong but afraid to speak out about it, but she did and our life has been turned upside down, we just can not get help from anyone but im takin her drs tomorrow see if she can help us out i dont no where else to go social worker doesnt want to no education welfare think it will boost J's confidence to live else where away from her friends and school so she has to get to school by bus and the council seem to agree what do i do im goin to copy a couple of texts i got from J when she was gettin the bus from school its freaked her out even more just dont no what to do :(
these are texts i got off my daughter :( omg mum please hurry up some man just asked me if i wanted to spend the night with him he was drunk ............ i just turned up when i got the text because i meet her off the bus . then i got another 1 a few days after that sayin this :( mum ive got a really bad feelin about goin home im almost in tears .. but im on bus now ............... she was really upset both times i dont make her get the bus now i rely on family to help out now because i work and findin it difficult gettin her to school and bk .......... yes she was abused by her dads partners son who was 36 at the time whats happened to the best interest of the child :( shes been though enough ...........
Hi
It's good you're going to take your daughter to the GP to see if they are able to help in some way.
I take it she was living with her Dad and has now come to live with you. The fact that you are putting her first must mean so much to her. She is understandably upset and must be quite shocked by what has gone on - as you are.
How far has she moved? Is she changing schools?
Have you applied to the council's housing department for a place of your own? It sounds as if things are over-crowded at your older daughter's place.
If she is at a new school, speaking to the Head of Year and the Welfare Officer so they are aware of the situation and perhaps can put things in place to reassure her.
This is something, I feel, that will take time to sort out, with a lot of patience and baby-steps.
I agree with sparkling lime about the housing issue, and you could ask the GP if he/she would write a letter of support.
It sounds as if your daughter could do with some support from a counsellor to talk about what has happened. Again, ask your GP about services in your area, or you could consider approaching an agency yourself such as The Children's Society Kid's Zone
I am glad you have some other family to help, and we are here too for online support
Hi debbie46, it sounds as though your daugher is feeling very vulnerable at the moment, it is good that she has you and you are able to take her seriously and look after her.
How did it go at the doctors?
hi anna drs put her on piriton tablets they are tablets for alligies but the side affects cause drowsiness so drs give them to children that have problems sleepin in hope it will help them sleep plus the dr is doin me a support letter for the council she has signed me off work because of the stress so im goin to spend the time gettin every bit of help i can for my daughter, tell u what its been a very difficult and tryin time for both of us but im not givin up untill i see my daughter happy again been given a name of a support group that may help off base51 plus ive had a appiontment moved forward from march to the beginin of feb for an assessment for J, just want life bk to normal for J now, we both feel so tired :(
Hello Debbie46
Glad you went to the doctor, it sounds as if you have got things moving. Hope your daughter can settle a bit better. If you are off work as well then maybe you can get some rest.
Just a reminder, we ask you not to give your children's names when you are posting. I have been through your posts and changed where you mention her name to her initial and would ask you to just put J in the future, thanks
The support group sounds such a fab idea, what do they do exactly? or do you need to ring them to find that out?
Hi debbie46
Your message seems full of positive stuff.
Hopefully your daughter will now get some sleep, life is so much harder to cope with when you are tired, did she have a peaceful night last night?
Great to hear that you are able to have some off work, to focus on looking after yourself and your daughter, how long is that for?
Base51 are an excellent organisation and really know their stuff, so I hope that will be a great support for J.
AND your appointment for J has been moved forward 6 weeks, phew! You have been busy and it sounds like it is paying off.
I hope you manage to take some time out for you both to enjoy some quality time together, whether it is just painting your nails together with some good music on, or going for a swim...?
This time will pass, keep thinking positively and looking to the future, you are doing a grand job. 
I do hope things get a bit easier - for you too.
Hi debbie. Hope everything goes ok. Did your daughter manage to sleep better. You're doing so well, it must be heartbreaking watching her suffer like this. Wishing you all the best. Take care
whats happened to the best interest of the children its driving me mad all i want is the best for my daughter she has suffered enough but cant seem 2 get the help and support i need :(