Hello everyone, I'm not sure if I've posted here before, so if you're reading this twice- sorry!
I seperated from my husband 2 weeks ago now after a long time of us arguing, and I'm finding it really hard being on my own. I moved to Canada to be with him nearly 3 years ago now, and really depended on him. I have problems with social anxiety which I was doing really well with before I left- I had a full time job, a council house, and friends/social life, which is pretty hard for me sometimes as I find it hard to trust people (probably cos I was bullied at school I reckon). I went through some hard times before then, including being pretty depressed and checking myself into the mental ward for a while!
Now I'm 25, my daughter is 2, and we're returning to the UK shortly. I got into debt in the UK to marry this guy as we both had nothing, and although he promised me we would pay it back, we never had the money, so I have all that to return to :P
But at least I have my beautiful little girl, and my family has been great, and has said I can live with them until I can get back on my feet, although its not ideal as there will be 8 people in a 3 bedroom house and my daughter and I will be sharing a single bed...
I'm in a state really, just trying to get through each day and not worry too much about the future, but I'm so lonely here and feel as though I have no options left as I gave up everything for someone who at the end of the day didn't really want me, or our family :(
hello from me too. I'm so sorry things haven't worked out for you in Canada.
hi, nice to meet you both, thanks for the welcome :)
You must think I'm pretty stupid to have given everything up and come over here, but I was so in love with him at the time, I would have done anything for us to be together, and when I moved here I was newly pregnant and didn't want to be away from him- if he'd tried for a uk visa, he probably wouldn't have gotten one until after our baby was born and we couldn't stand the thought of that. But looking back, I was pretty stupid to drop everything for him, I just thought we'd always be together :P
As I understand it, because neither of us has cheated or anything, we have to be seperated for a year before we can divorce. We did get married in Canada too, it would be our 3 year anniversary in August.
There's jsut so much going round in my head at the moment, I don't know how I'm going to manage... feel like I'm in shock or something...
Don't think you are stupid at all, it just did not work out for you, and that is sad.
Try to look forward to the future now and think about your daughter, you will get there.
Hi gemmied. Welcome along to One space. You're not stupid whatsoever, you fell in love, and it didn't work out. It's great that you have family to come back too, and who will also give you support. When are you coming back to the UK? Take care.
Hello Gemmied
Sorry to hear things didn't work out for you in Canada. It's good to hear you have the support of your family for when you get back.
Nice to meet you on here
x
Hi gemmied
I think it was very romantic that you travelled half way across the world for love! I am sure it felt like that at the time.
No-one ever knows what the future holds, so don't beat yourself up about it, I am sure you were the envy of everyone at the time! 
Now the future looks hazy and uncertain, but it sounds as though you are returning to the UK with a new sense of self, a good family and lovely daughter. Remind yourself that YOU are in control of your life and what you want to do with it, it sounds as though you have guts and determination once you put your mind to things, so I look forward to seeing how things work for you.
When do you leave Canada?
Hello gemmied and welcome to One Space.
It sounds as if there is a lot of upheaval to come for you and I am glad you have the family support. The first thing to do is to get your name on the housing list, 8 people in a 3 bedroomed house is overcrowding so you should be accepted on the list.
Then you need to think about the legal stuff, whether there is to be a divorce etc, were you married in Canada or the UK?
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