Eleesha4

Other less traumatic events can also cause strong feelings of grief and therefore the process will be the same.

 
I didnt realise I had experienced so many just in the time I found out I was pregnant, to her first birthday. I found out I was pregnant at 3 months. 
Mobed back to parents. stayed there for over a year and moved out this feb and having non stop problems with neighbours and housing issues since. 
 
Feel pretty down down about majority of things 
Posted on: May 8, 2014 - 8:43pm
sergiozed
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Eleesha,

you are having such a tough time, so much to deal with and all so close together! Sometimes if you take them one at a time it might be easier to deal with the problems…

It sounds like your new home isn’t really working out, what is happening with the neighbours? And how is your daughter coping with all this? Are you still Ok with your parents, and do you have anyone else to support you? Sorry so many questions!

Tell us a bit more about what is going on for you now? There are many people who have gone through what you have experienced here in the forum, and many who are keen to help.

And well done for getting this far!

Posted on: May 9, 2014 - 8:48am

Eleesha4

They're theeatening and i feel unsafe. My daughters oblivious I an extent but picks up when I'm upset or in fear and she's then the same. 

Relatipnship with my parents is fine they're very supportive. 

I have support from one friend mainly. Others say they are but never seem to really be around. 

Posted on: May 9, 2014 - 2:28pm

sergiozed
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Chldren are always good at picking  up the bad vibes, and it sounds like you are in a tough place Elleesha. Good that your parents are there for you, do you manage to get some time to yourself, even if it's just to get away form it for a few hours? 

Are you renting privately where you are? Or what is your situation with housing? There is some help and advice from various charities, and you do have rights as a tenant. It depends a lot on what your situation is. Could you move or is that out of the question? The CAB hare good with housing and tenancy advice, best chance is to find a local one and go in and talk to them. Shelter also has some good advice, they do housing as well as homelessness. 

If you tell us more about we can give you some better help. Of course if you feel you are in danger, treat it as an emergency. The safety of your and your child is what comes first. Are social services involved?

Keep us posted!

Posted on: May 9, 2014 - 5:50pm

Eleesha4

I visited shelter today. I got some advice but its not really far from what I knew and they can't do anything. Nothing will happen soon at all. But everything I'm doing is right. I can't move unless my landlord releases me from agreement. 

Yeh private renting. And I have been to cab and they couldn't do much besides tell me to go to the council but may go back as nothing's happening. 

I have 3 hours when lmy daughter is off to her dads. That's once a week. I have my parents and they would have L but I don't ask them to really. 

Social services aren't involved, my daughters not in harm or danger unless my neighbours have a funny turn and decide to attack. They're very aggressive and threatening. But act all innocent and want to be my friend. They do drugs. They're disgusting. I don't want to be friends. 

Posted on: May 9, 2014 - 6:58pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

So how long is it before you can get out of the current housing agreement?

I was also thinking maybe you and your daughter could stay over with your parents sometimes, is there a time when the neighbours are worse, eg weekends? a certain night of the week?

Posted on: May 10, 2014 - 8:53am

Eleesha4

No, they're like it all the time. It's their routine they don't work or anything. Absolute low lives. 

Yeh I stay at my parents but it's just not really convenient not like living at home. Not a lot I can do here without all my stuff. L also hasn't got all her toys or book or bed even. Nightmare. 

 

And feb 2015, when the 12 months is up! :(

Posted on: May 10, 2014 - 2:54pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

So, nine months and counting. What are the chances of getting out of there before then I wonder?

By the way I have edited your daughter's name out of your last two posts as we ask you to keep things anonymous here, just for your own protection.

Hope you have a decent evening. I am watching Britain's Got Talent Laughing

Posted on: May 10, 2014 - 6:56pm

Eleesha4

Of course. Thank you. I didn't even notice or mean to put her name in!.. 

Posted on: May 10, 2014 - 10:25pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

That's Ok Laughing

How are you today?

Posted on: May 11, 2014 - 8:15am

Sally W
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Eleesha4, are you still having issues with the neighbours? it sounds pretty horrendous for you and your daughter, must be frustraing that no seems to be able to help?

Posted on: June 12, 2014 - 1:19pm