Hi
i'm new to this forum, I have been a single mum for the past 18months, my son will be 3 soon, and have only now come accross this site, My son's dad is one of these guys who thinks he can have his cake and eat it. We were on off for the better part of the 18 months, we split shortly after we found out i was expecting again and he did not like the fact that the baby would be disabled, due to the stress of the pregnancy and splitting with him, i miscarried at 6 months and the baby was born a few days later. It was only after we had her cremated that he told me on facebook in full view of his friends and family that he was seeing someone else, within a moth of that he informed me she was expecting his baby, talk about dealing with alot all at the same time.
she then split with him and kicked him out of her life and he automatically came running back to me and telling me he wanted to be with us and wanted us to be a proper family. And stupidly i beleived him and took him back only to be dumped two months ago because she wanted him back and he went running with out a thought of the damage he had done not only to me but to our son, who now suffers from seperation anxiety and nightmares.
So now i am alone in parenting this beautiful little boy of mine, and although my friends and family give me there support i still find it difficult, but i am determined to make the most of my life for my sake and that of my son. I'm also gonna show him that i do not need him, his family (not that any of them ever cared about their grandson/ nephew) or his money.
Hi Sally W
Thank you for the welcome.
Thanks for liking my name, i have a fantastic support network of friends nd family that i did not lose contact with and they are helping out as much as they can. As for my son's anxiety, we are slowly dealing with it as he does attend nursery part time, which has helped him alot as well as his confidence, plus he enjoys having a couple of hours out with his uncle, watching trains and planes.
He is still unsure of going out with his dad and comes back more upset as he does not see his dad by himself, there are always people around him and that upsets him more.
Hi spanish gothic and hallo from me too!
It is good to read that you have a lot of people in your corner and that your son's confidence is building with the help of nursery. You are doing a great job! 
How are you feeling? How often does your ex see your son?
Hi Anna,
Feeling ok, slowly getting things back to normal, my son see's his dad every week when his dad can be asked or when she deems fit for him to come and see his son.
Hows everyhing with you?
Hi spanish gothic,
I like your name too - you seem to be building up quite a fan club
I'm pleased to hear that you feel like things are getting back to 'normal'. It's a shame your ex doesn't seem interested in seeing your son regularly, as not only is routine useful to children of his age, it would give you an idea of when you might get a bit of 'you' time too.
I'm glad to hear you've got a good support network around you - mine have been a tremendous support to me.
Mary
Hi Rudimentary Mary
Liking the name as well, it is great when you know you have people to help you out, I am trying to be patient with the ex at the moment, but its his girlfriend i have the issue with and he knows it, the last time she saw my son she beat him, which is why i am telling him he needs to travel to us. would love some "me" time every week, but i am thankful for my family and friends helping every month with that.
My son loves his routine and if it gets changed he gets upset, but soon understands why its been changed. its a brilliant age for him at the moment as everything seems so unreal still, like the train journey's we take every couple of weeks to going on the buses.
It sounds like you are doing a fabulous job of parenting your son, spanish gothic.
Hmmm, it sounds like a tricky situation in that your ex partner's girlfriend seems to think she has the right to hit your child (which is obviously far from acceptable). Have you spoken to your ex about that incident? What did he say about it?
Mary
yeah i spoke to him, he told me he fell over, my son came home with a black eye, you do not normally get those falling over, then the following week he had scrathes criss crossing his legs, again i was told he fell over, my health visitor documented all of these as i contacted her the same day and brough my son to see her and the gp straight away (saw my health visitor in cafe both mornings my son was with his dad, so she knew i did not have him as i normally would not be in a cafe with my friends and infant son)
Social got involved and brought his excuse which peed me and his health visitor right off. they practically blamed me for them. what a waste of space they are.
So with a lawyer complained about treatment of social and got an agreement that he has to travel to us to see his son, which she is not happy about (but i dont care one bit), since my son has not seen her he has had only small sratches from where he fell over at nursery and a few when he's been running around my parents garden and hurt himself with a small cut
Hi spanish gothic, I am well thanks.
Little kids are always getting knocks and scrapes, but a black eye? I know that this has now been dealt with, but I am curious, were you told about how your son got it, or did you have to ask? Seems incredulous that this didn't get looked into further. Did your son say how it happened?
Anyway, that is in the past and you have dealt with it. So the current contact arrangement is when you ask 'dad' to come and visit, is that right? I guess that he is unprepared to commit to anything when you have asked for regularity?
Does your ex give you maintenance for your son?
Hi Anna,
I had to ask how he got it, i would have understood if he said they were playing with balls or something but all i got was he fell over???? Yeah like i said, social services are not the best especially when they do not cross council boundries, so i was the one looked at as it was reported on my behalf by my health visitor. One of the reasons i have moved away from my friends and family.
He wants regular contact and does try but when he can not, he says "she" will not let him as she can not come and is not prepared to come all the way here to see M, plus to take her five kids with them as well.
He does give me maintenance, we oringanally had a private agreement but then he missed two payments so i went to CSA to force him to give continuous payments.
Hiya, that is interesting that your health visitor reported it on your behalf, but you were the one investigated. It is such a confusing complicated thing the social services, isn't it.
You say that you have moved away from your friends and family? Was this because of social services?
It is such a shame when you can't insist on regular contact, would it make it any easier if it was just once a fortnight or a month, would he be able to stick to that? This means that you can get on with your life and so can your son, as I imagine your little family becomes unsettled every time you get let down.
I can see your frustration is with his current partner. But this is your ex's responsibility to deal with, nothing to do with her. He is shifting the blame and making her out to be the bad guy, when she has a young child with him too.
I am glad that you have set up official CSA maintenance, always a good step.
So what do you get up to whilst your son is at nursery? How often does he go?
Hiya
My health visitor was a life line in this matter, she said that she would report him as we would go weekly checkups and classes that she ran and she also done home checks when i was anti depressents and was really good, i could not fault her, i was actually lucky she was still in the office the day he came home with the black eye and she as well as my gp kept an eye on it.
Really dont trust social services, they dont cross council boundries and as my ex at the time lived in another council and his girlfired in a third, it proved to difficult for them to deal with so they just look at me, luckily my mum was not home the day they done the home visit as she would have gave them a piece of her mind. I moved away because my ex threatened to take my son from me and i would never see him again. he should be so lucky i did not move to another country altogether.
He does put the blame on everyone expect himself, but she is at fault as well as the grew up together as step brother and sister so she was always contacting him and trying to get him to stay round hers, found out from a few of his exes that she was mainly to blame for their breakups as well. They al thought us having a baby would mean she would back of but i guess we were all wrong there. She's also threatend to punch me and kick me if i dont leave him alone, she can not accept my son as being his.
As for while my son is at nursery, i have just applied to become a homestart volunteer while i wait on the progress of my university application. Looking at becoming a midwife, Want to show my son that he has a strong mum no matter what his dad, his dad's family or girlfriend throws at me, i want to make him proud of me. I gave up alot when i had him, was not my ideal plan, but now i am determined to make something of myself, plus i want my son to be educated through travel, he's is half spanish after all, and me and my brothers were always travelling as kids and we still do even now.
Hi spanish gothic the situation between yourself the ex and his partner sounds tricky.
The volunteering and uni sound fab, do you know when you will find out if your application was successful? i am sure your son is already really proud of you, do you talk in both langauges to your son? where would you like to travel too?
Hi Sally, volunteering starts their training course next month, so looking forward to it, and will not find out about the uni until some time in the new year.
I do speak both spanish and english to my son and he does understand both languages, although he has trouble speaking, i have been informed by speech therapists that i can continue as it is not hampering his speech as he can follow instructions in both languages.
I am sure he is, but i want him to be older and look back and say "well my mum had a few set backs but look at her now, if she can do it, so can i"
Looking at travelling to Italy, Egypt, France and Spain in the next few years. Am also saving for a trip to Austrailia and New Zealand, as i would like to eventually move out there, have a few friends and family out there now who keep telling me its a betterlife than the one they had here.
Hi spanish gothic, I know quite a few people who speak in their mother tongue to their children as well as english and it is so important. Apparently it is very normal for children as young as yours to mix their languages together. So don't be put off.
I love the sound of your travelling plans, good idea to do midwifery as I believe this is recognised in most countries.
I am sorry to read the difficulties you have faced with your ex's current partner, good plan to keep her well out of your and your son's life, especially as he is still so young. Is your ex due this weekend?
Hi Anna, i think mdwifes give alot to their community and are undervalued, My son is due to go to speech therapy as the nursery and health visitor have concerns about his abalitiy to speak, the nursery have been great in teaching him and myself sign language, my son is gonna turn out to be very talented at something i hope. His current vocabulary consists of maybe 10 words now, at the start of the year it was only 1. so good progress so far.
I've always loved traveling and it is definately something my son has picked up on as he is always wanting to go on an adventure with the train. :)
My ex is due to have him on monday, so will have to wait and see. hopefully he will come again this week, if not, then it will be the week after and if it continues like this then he will turn up one day and find us gone completely.
Hi spanish gothic. It is interesting that his speech is slow as other bi lingual children I have heard, have the same issue. However as they get older it all comes together.
It is great that he is an adventurer too! Oh the travels you shall have.
I hope you ex does turn up on Monday, when will actually know, will he be in touch before that, or do you have to just wait and see?
he normally tells me around 4am on the day, so i should not either sunday night or early monday morning if he is not coming, hopefully he does not do the no show he done the other week. as i have restricted contact to email only after getting stupid drunk messages on my mobile.
Can not wait for our adventures, it will be great to have those memories, its a shame he will never have the same with his father
How rude and inconsiderate of your ex to leave it until 4am the day of a visit to let you know if he wil be turning up to collect your son (or not) spanish gothic! I'm not surprised you are considering simply disappearing one day. It sounds as though by the time that plan comes to fruition your son's dad will have had plenty of chances to prove himself as a father. What he does with those opportunities is up to him.
One of my few regrets is that I didn't travel when I was younger, so I envy you planning your adventures across the globe. Oscar Wilde said that 'Youth is wasted on the young'. I disagree with Oscar in this instance - you just have to know how best to use your youth 
Bravo for wanting to become a midwife! If I hadn't done my counselling training, that is the career path I was considering (and still haven't ruled it out, if I'm honest). I'm sure your son already sees how strong and able you are.
Finally, I'd like to share with you that A didn't speak at all until she was 3. Now I can't shut her up and she stands in front of her class at school reading poems with (according to her teacher) an amazing array of voices and characterisation. I'm sure your son will be chattering away - in both languages - before you know it.
Hi mary, i think it is the best opportunity to offer a child is the chance to travel and see thing that they normally dont see. I want him to be able to understand different cultures and lifestyles. it was the one thing his grandparents on his dad side refuse to acknowledge about him is he is of two different backgrounds, they kept insisting he was full english, they never did like me as i was spanish by birth and upbringing but english in the fact that i grew up here. My parents installed my heritage into me and made me proud to be spanglish as it is put.
I was looking at doing counselling until i spoke to a berevement midwife, and she made me realise that i could do both, so i will study counselling further down the line but want to ensure my midwife course takes priority at the moment. I think this country could use more midwifes like her, she inspired me to do it and to go for it.
When the time comes, he will regret that he never got the chance to spend time with his son, and with me making plans for me and my son for the future he will have even less of a say. Already lookingat putting my boy into cadets and cubs as well as football or rugby.
I do hope my boy does speak like yours does, i would be so proud of that small achievement, he's 3 in two months and still no real sign of breaking through, but i will ensure it never holds him back, between understanding two languages and know basic sign, he is more advance than most in his nursery class.
Hello spanish gothic and a big welcome from me too.
Just to share with you: my youngest son was diagnosed with "learning difficulties" when he was five or so, having been late in many milestones and especially speech and we had lots of speech therapy. When he started big school, although he had many words, they were not clear enough for other children to understand him.
Now....he is a charming, witty, chatty 6 ft 2" 18 year old with a fistful of GCSEs, a college qualification and a fulltime job with Asda and he is planning on doing some overseas voluntary work in a year or two 
I take my hat off to you in the plans you are making, good for you! Your boy will be fine with a fab mum like you.
Hi Lousie,
Thanks for those encouring words, my son has already been looked at for autism, but thankfully it was not that. It is good to hear about your son and what he has achieved even though he started late with speaking. It is not unusual for someone in my family to need speech therapy, having had to attend family session with my brother when i was little so I kinda already know what to expect
Thank You Ladies all for the warm welcome
Hi spanish gothic, how was your weekend? Have you heard from your ex? do you know the plan for today?
I have always wanted to travel, just never had the guts when my daughter was younger to actually move abroad (or the money), but we have had some great trips over the years and she at nearly 18 has the bug!
I think it is so important that children with a multicultural background to benefit from all cultures. Do your parents play a big part in your son's life?
Hi Anna, my weekend was fantastic, took my son on a model steam train which he loved. he could not stop smiling and laughing which made my day. Heard from him about midnight, saying he is coming today and if i could get everything ready from nappies to lunch for M. Hope it does not rain now as it would mean having him in the flat as he has no where esle to go or take him.
My parents play an important role in his life, as does all my family, whether they are here or abroad, they make the time for him, which is good. I can not wait for M bday as it will be the firt trip abroad in over a year, my mum paying for me and him to go to disney land paris, she thinks we need the trip after everything thats gone on, so i am really thankful for that. We are planning trips around the UK as well as i want him to know this place as well, and it helps that we can take the family dogs as well
hope you had a good weekend as well
Hi spanish gothic, glad to hear that your son's dad turn't up for contact, did you get the rain?
I like the sound of your travel plans it all sounds really exciting, and with plenty of opportunities for your son to ride on a train, my son was Thomas Tank mad, we used to spend ages at train stations just watching trains.
It's great that you have such a supportive family, what things do you like to do, just for you, any hobbies?
Hi Sally, unfortunately no rain, but found out through friends that his parents had turned up, now i have a grumpy child back again. I noticed this pattern in that past, Its because they do not understand him and so do not understandhis needs and he gets very very fustrated.
So glad i chose to live next to a train station, LO can look out the window till his heart is content and i get to watch a bit of tv or do something with out worying about him.
My Hobbies inculde reading, cooking (absolutely love experimenting in the kitchen), puzzles, and seeing friends when the time allows. Most of my friends are still child free and dont understand what restictions having kis has on being able to go out all night partying and drinking.
Hi spanish gothic
Glad you had such a good weekend but sad for your son to be unappreciated by his grandparents. Sometimes people can be so........
I see that his dad did not let you know about the contact until midnight. How would you feel about taking control of that and saying if you are seeing M then you need to let me know by noon the day before? (or whatever suits you)
My eldest always loved trains; there is a model railway place not far from here and the BORING hours I have spent there! Mind you, he was always really happy just to go and sit on a bench in the real station and watch the trains come and go, and as for the level-crossing barriers, well that was his highlight.
You have got some great hobbies, have a look at our thread about books by clicking here.
Tell us about your dogs as well?
Hi Louise
I know what you mean, and i hate getting back a frustrated and moody child, hopefully they will learn when he starts talking to them. I have tried to take control of the situtation, he used to text me at sillyo'clock in the morining, so i changed my mobile number and informed him by email that it was not acceptable to be contacting at those hours in regards to his son, his visits or anything else in that matter,but he has not got the message now. What i do if i get a message after midnight, i will email back as soon as i see it and inform him he will not be seeing his son that day. I know it starts arguements between us, but i also need him to understand that it is not on and that if it continues that will be what happens. so slowly slowly hes getting the message (I hope).
Will have a look at the books area in a bit, thank you for the link though.
I have two dogs, A border collie and an jack russel terrier. although they live with my mum as we did not think it fair to move them from a house with a garden to a flat with no open space. They are wonderful dogs and they both absolutely adore M to pieces. The border collie is very protective of me and will not let anyone come near me until he is sure i am safe. When i frist got him from Battersea Dogs home he was only six months old and his previous owner had passed away and their family brought him to there, where i found him. since then he has not left my side till now, but am looking for a place with garden that will allow me to have them, that is if my mum can bear to part with them as well. The jack russell terrier has sent me to a+e twice already, she likes to chase squirrels and caught two, both while i was pregnant with M, and because she was young and inexperienced she caught them badly and they sank their claws and teeth into her, one cut was not bad and was given antibiotics for both her and me, the second time howerver, she needed some sticthes on her nose and side of her mouth plus a two week course of antibiotics me on the other hand need the antibiotics and a tetnus shot at the same time. Had a laugh with the staff on shift in a+e that morning though as they at first did not believe i was bitten by a squirrel until we showed them the pictures that my brother took of me taking the squirrel of the dog and then getting bitten, they were concerned about the amount of blood on the dog but we showed them the pictures of her injuries and said the blood was more than likely a mixture of hers, the squirel and mine. as she was covered head to bum in blood and on a white dog is no fun to see.
M and me are however considering getting another dog should my mum not be able to part with the two we already have, and M dad has already said he is looking a getting M some guinea pigs for his bday, hope he has not told M as i dont want him to be disappointed by it. we already have a hamster who was a birthday present for M last year from his uncle/godfather.
Oh what an unusual story about the squirrel. Your Jack Russell sounds full of mischief!
I think you are doing the right thing taking control of the timings with M's dad
Cheers Louise, the jack russell is full of mischeif but also a very sweet but nervous dog. she was rehomed 3 times before i took her in and she has been with us ever since. It is in their nature to chase squirells and rats and other types of rodents as that was what they were orignally bread for. She has also been given tetnus shots after catching and bringing in her catch of the day in a form of a few very very large rats from the end of the garden, even our neighbours borrowed our dogs one for rounding up and one for "killing" as such, both were rewarded with large roast bones by the neighbours.
I do hope he starts to pay attention. Have emailed him today to at least try and sort out his next visit as well as seeing if we can extend the hours he is with M for. the one thing i have said that if M does not have a nap with him, then he is responsible for putting M to bed as last night M was up till nearly 1am as he fell asleep for his nap around 6pm, i put him in bed but by 8pm he was up again looking for dinner and to play.
GRRR that's difficult when they don't keep the child to their normal routine. You are doing well to stay so positive!
i know, it drives me mad as it can be something as simple as a nap, he knows M normally has a nap just after lunch but does not want him to have it and makes things difficult for me later on. Still have not heard back from him yet.
M is also potty training and i keep getting wet clothes back, driving me mental, i understand at nursery it happening, as it is an accident then, but not when the ratio is 3 adults ot 1 child for five hours. if i can manage by myself then he is supposed to with the help of his grand parents.
The grandparents are no longer talking to me as i had an arguement with M's grandfather over a silly toy train that he does not play with anymore, gave it to M's dad and said give it to M next time u see him and he will think its a new present for him and M's granddad started getting abusive so i told M'd dad that they are no longer welcome at my home and i politely reminded him contact is for him and him alone, and i do not appreciate being sworn at or called names in front of M
Things are moving forwrd for me, have sent of application for Uni, have got my first driving lesson lined up, and have had my will written, all in the space of a week, Yay me
Yay you!
It sounds like M's grandparents are finding it hard to quell their own opinions for the sake of their grandson. I have come across so many grandparents over the years who are distressed because they have lost contact with the child after a separation and the legal remedies are usually ineffective and so my answer to them is always the same: nurture your relationship with the child's parent, be an asset to him/her so they can have a break and you can enjoy the child back in your life again. So many times we jeopardise the thing that is important to us because we are blinded by anger and intolerance ( I sound about 100 now, don't I? )
The potty-training might take a lot of patience, my youngest (who had some problems) took a full year to be dry in the day and was not so at night until 6. It is hard to stay patient through this but it happens in the end.
Good luck with your application. Whats on the agenda for today?
M's grandparents have never liked me from day one, they would rather i not be round, they have themselves tried to gain custody of M for the sake of their son, but my lawyer laughed and said it would never happen as M has both parents alive and there is no issue of his safety with me from social services but a police report against M's dad and grandfather.
M has been reallygood at potty traing, uses his potty both with me, nursery and my parents house, however not when he is with his dad, although i have told his dad to stop putting baby nappies on him as M uses normal pullups, Had an idea which was given to by nursery was to take him out of nappies altogether and see how he goes, M likes using his potty and always asks me and his nursey teachers to go.
Cheers. gonna need luck to get onto those courses i want. Agenda for today is calling csa again as payment is now a week late :( then do some cleaning as M is at nursery for the morning
Hope yours having a good week so far and that you have a brilliant day
Hi spanish gothic I hope your morning cleean went well, it sounds like you keep yourself and your little one busy and your home is happy.
It is the contact arrangements that currently upsetting the apple cart, I hope that your ex takes advantage of the longer time period you are offering.
It sounds as though M is doing really well with the potty, would you consider him taking it with him on a contact visit?
Did you have any luck with the CSA?
have tried giving M's dad the potty but he said it was too bulky and uncomfortable to take with him in a holdall that i provided. also use a potty seat for nursery and travelling and i gave him that instead and he did not want it either. so really do not know what to do. My parents invested in a potty for their house and i suggested this to M's dad, and he said he can not afford to pay for a new one and that i should be provinding him with everything that M needs for him to take out with them. He threw in my face that he works and pays me maintence for M and that i should not complain.
CSA are looking into it as it seems the money has left their account but is not in mine, so they are looking to see if it bounced back to him, which would not surprise me, he has to help his gf with her 5 kids over the summer.
Try to keep this a happy home for M. but it is not always easy and i do try and hide some of my emotions from M especially with the stupidy that is his father sometimes. Also when M's dad lies in front of M, while i try to be truthful to him.
That's it, spanish gothic, you can't change other peoples' behaviourl, you can only influence your own and telling the truth and being consistent are very important.
M is doing very well indeed with the potty and his progress is being hampered by his dad. You could consider saying that either his dad works with you on the toilet training or he had better not see him until he is fully trained? (although this might be a while so think these things through) It also sounds to me as if his dad is resentful of the money he pays you (or doesn't pay you) Paybe you could porvide some pullups for M, after all the main thing is his happiness and YOU are grown up enough to see that even if others aren't 
Hi lousie, M is in pullups already, the next stage is to move onto pants, but am unsure of how he will be but will finish pullups first before that happens. Has night times ones for bed and he does wake in the night to tell me he's leaked so we are seeing progress. His dad thinks the money he pays me pays for everything from nursery,clothes, food, nappies activities and so on. Wish i could get the money to strecth that far. although i do get 15hours of nursery for free under the free for 2 scheme running in Kent.
Want M to understand that mummy and daddy do not kiss as he asked that the other day in front of his dad, and i told him that mummys and daddys only kiss when theylove each other, and his dad said to him that he does love mummy when me and him both know the truth and that is he dumped me for his gf because she wanted him back again
Hi spanish gothic, your son sounds as though he is doing really well with the whole potty thing, he will get there all in good time, with or without his fathers help, by sounds of things.
I think it is nice that M's dad says that he loves mummy as it is good for him to hear that. Yes you know the truth was in his actions, but your little one won't understand all of that.
It is painful though to hear I imagine. What does this evening hold for you?
relaxing hopefully, M should be back from nursery and hopefully tired from a full day playing.
It is painful to hear and i wish he would not say it when it is not ture, there are other ways of phrasing things like that
Was also thinking of having my tarot read again, feel like something is out of place and the more i think or feel itthe worse it seems,
Yes I can imagine your feelings when he says that, I would be really angry and hurt if it was me. Rather than the tarot, would you feel able to have a few sessions of counselling? When something feels out of joint, it helps to "take control" of things a bit and that is one thing that counselling could achieve. It would also give you a safe place to let out the emotions that you have been experiencing.
What do you think?
have tried counselling, was thinking tarot becasue my intuition is telling me something is wrong and i can not quite put my finger on it, its like im getting an alarm bell ringing. and i dont think its got anything to do with whats goign on at the moment in my life, but it affects me somehow
Ok well I am a great believer in instinct! Am not against tarot, in fact I have used them myself, my exoerience of them is that they focus you on the thing you knew you should have been focusing on anyway, if that makes sense.
Was your counselling recent?
yeah counselling was at start of the year. not really helpful considering the circumstances. Whatever has got hold of my instinct has sentit rocketing to the highest levels. I know its not to do with my son, but the last few times i got this instinct, my ex told me his gf was pregnant practically 3 months after we lost our BG and then again i got the feeling again and one of my best friends told me of his plans to marry his gf, which was great news
now its back and im left wandering what it could be
ok...so does it feel like a sense of "impending significant news"? if so I am guessing you are impatient to know exactly what, as it is unsettling and a bit worrying. BUT the main thing is for you and your lovely boy to be OK.
One thing I sometimes suggest is a worry box. You can either have a physical box where you write down your worries and put the piece of paper in the box and put it away or you can do it in your head. I do the one in my head, I imagine a pirate type treasure chest and tell the worry to get in, I lower the lid and turn the key in the lock and put the key in my pocket. If the worry still intrudes I say to it ok you can come out the box for ten minutes, and imagine opening the chest and I allow myself ten minutes worry time then order it to get back in the chest and lock it away again
yeah it does, and i have found out what is from a phone call with my mum, she's informed me that my uncle has throat cancer, i know when it kicks in its going to be something big, at least i can stop some of the worrying about what it could be, now to worry about getting to Spain with my mum,
Oh spanish gothic i'm sorry to hear about your uncle, i hope it all works out with the getting to Spain.
When are you intending to go?
in the next couple of weeks, waiting to find out what is going on first. it is mainly to go and support my aunt, although they have their kids to help them, its more my mum that wants to go and we need to be there to support her as well while she helps my aunt.
always something has to go wrong when something goes right. Karma needs to take a long holiday and leave us single parents alone for a bit
Aww I am sorry to hear about your uncle, but glad that you are able to go with your mum to support her, I am sure she will appreciate it.
I know she will, its going to be very tough though. My uncle has been in my mums life since she was 11, whenhe married her sister. so he is like her big brother, it will affect us all
Hello spanish gothic and welcome along to One Space, i'm liking the name, i was abit of a goth in my youth, i am glad you finally came across us, it is a great site if i do say so myself, and i am sure many off our regular users will be along shortly to welcome you too.
As you say you have been through quite alot in a short space of time, i am sorry to hear about your miscarriage and what your ex did priory too and following that, you do sound like you have been dealing with things rather well though.
Do you have a good support network of family and friends? Have you been getting any help/support with your sons anxiety?