hi my name is nadia im here because i have no were else to tell my story 6years ago life was great my daughter was in school full time my job i loved i was a supervisor i was doing good for me and my girl. then my sister who has learning diffculties had a beauitful little girl in 2006 a day of joy but not for us social services were there ready to take my sisters baby away i could not let this happen so the judge granted me my wish which was to take care of my sister's baby .5 yrs later i wd not change a thing part from the fact i hate being beneifits people treat u different. A**** is very full on care i love her. i feel theres no support for me from the local concil so maybe other mothers can support each other
i used to care for her but she back home with mum but everyday were together xx
Hello nadia,
You are very welcome here, we all have different situations but can support each other as single parents. Life does not often turn out the way we want it to and you have learned that already. Sounds like you and your Mum have to work closely together to care for your sister and her daughter. You are not used to being on benefits after working before but the system is there to support those who need it, and you paid into it while you were working, it is no-one else's business what you do, and I doubt those who might crtisicise would have taken on an extra child.
Are both the children at school now?
You sound very close as a family, which is lovely.
I worked for over 22 years , but stilll felt bad about being on benefits. In a way though, we're still contributing to society through taxes on stuff we buy - I can't remember who told me that (could well have been on here), but somehow it made me feel less bad!
Hi Nadia, welcome to One Space, when you say that people treat you differently when you are on benefits, who do you find is the worst? Is the people at the benefits agency? Friends? Other parents?
Hi Nadia
That's good that you were able to have care of your sister's daughter. Do you care for your sister too?
This board is a great source of support and advice for lone-parents.
It can get very lonely!