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Had a lovely evening with a friend from school. Did a BBQ, then the boys asked if there could be a sleepover. I said yes, then the Mum said C could stay over at theirs. I haven't trusted anyone since the incident with a friend's foster son, which happened when C was 4 (now 8) He was sexually abused, and boy oh boy, it takes a long time to get over, not for C, but for me. Anyhow, reluctantly I agreed, I trust my friend and her family, but still........ C was so excited that I couldn't take it away from him, but he has gone with his mobile, and he has texted me 5 times already in the space of half hour. It really is a huge step for me, and I knew this day would come, but I'm so on edge. He'll have a whale of a time, but still.......
He was so excited bless him, so how could I take that away from him by saying no. I wanted too though!!! I'm sitting here, not feeling comfortable at the minute, but at least he has his mobile, so can text or ring me at any time. So ruddy hard being a parent, single or not!!
I know this is a big thing for you and really admire you for allowing your son to go and sleep over, as you say he does have his mobile and can call or text you all night if needed. It is hard being a parent full stop isnt it xxx
Still whittling, but I survived the night!! Thanks tiredmum. 
Hi hazeleyes
WELL DONE. I think it is massively hard for any of us to let our children go off and stay somewhere, but after what happened to him before, doubly so. How great that this first time is with someone you know and trust, eases the blow a bit. This is the first step to developing a new sense of security, and it was the hardest so you have been brilliant to do this. Our job as parents is (eventually) to equip our children to cope as independent adults and many of the things they do are small, tiny steps towards this.
I know you maybe slept rather fitfully, but I promise it does get easier as time goes on
Good morning hazeleyes, well done!!!!!!!!!
What time is your son due home? xxx
Well done from me as well. I can only imagine how difficult that was for you - and know how odd it is when there are no concerns...
Loads of hugs, and I hope he's had a great time.
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Itching to text but holding myself back in case they are still asleep. Will give it until 10, then I'll have too 
Am pottering around aimlessly, but I've had a bath, so next step is the hoovering. Must tackle the kitchen and bathroom floor too. I'm sure he's had a wonderful time. I'll be back to nagging him later 
Awwh just keep busy, it wont be long now till he is home xxx
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Have spoken to C and he is great. I feel better now phew. Had chat with friend, she said the boys have been good as gold, not one row!! He did ask me what's the latest he could be home and I said midnight, then quickly told him I was joking. Friend doesn't know yet what their plans are, but will text me later with time etc. Feels like he's been gone forever, daft isn't it?
More washing on, hung some out, hoovered, now for the floors. Ironing can wait, as I'm then going in the garden. Cannot muster any enthusiam for that, but I would like to do the borders, so it looks semi pretty at least.
I'm s very pleased!
A big hurdle for you both
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It's not daft...
It's raining here!
Loads of hugs.
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Not rain? That normally means it's heading this way 
Hopefully not until tonight. I have plans now for the garden
hazeleyes, so glad you feel better now, good luck with the gardening xxx
Unlike me who has NO plans for the garden
*whistles*
Hehe at the whistles. I did do some of the border, but it was wayyyyyyyyy to hot, so once boys returned I sat and watched them in the pool. Which reminds me, I didn't put gardening tools away, and it has been raining. Whoops!!!
Hazeleyes, just wanted to say Well done from me too :)
It must have felt like a long night, but it is great that you are feeling able to trust again.
I bet C thinks you are brilliant for letting him stay out
Awwwh hazeleyes, that must have been so difficult for you to do tonight, but well done for having the courage to, you say you trust your friend and her family and your son must feel equally comfortable to be so excited, bless him texting you so much xxx