shell_andy

I was wondering if any one had any experience of extreme lying in family court and any ideas on how to get the court to deal with it.

 

Long storty short , after a one night stand which resulted in pregnancy, my OH cared for his twin boys 50/50 from birth until they were two. When they were two her contacted their mother and told her he had met someone (me) and we were planning on moving in together soon. He was giving he the head up that they were going to be meeting me that week.  Mother repsonded saying that until the children were older they were not to meet partners, and on that basis stopped contact. Did not see the children for 5 months while it went through court.

Fast Forward 12 months, stil a nightmare, contact order in place but already had two enforcement hearings as mother is not complying. She is looking at unpaid work next time the judge said. BUT then last week she via her solicitor) submitted a C1A to the court stating that we neglect the children and have sex right in front of them whenever they come to visit (absolute nonsense). She also reported that one of them lost over a stone in four days while he was staying with us (they only weigh 2 1/2 stone in the first place!)

Luckily we have medical records and things and can prove she is lying. She has messed up becuase she told the court that a health visitor had assessed the boys as not suitable for contact with us because it was so distressing for them and we are so negelctful, yet the health visitor has confirmed it in writing to us that this never happened and that they have not visited the twins in months.

So thats the bare bones of it. How have other people dealt with this kind of accusation in court? and what was the outcome? 

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 1:16pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi shell_andy. Welcome along. I don't have any experience regarding court issues, but please keep posting as I'm sure others will be able to help. I'm sure though if the health visitor has confirmed it all in writing, then that is obvious proof for the judge etc. When does your partner next go back to court? This must be a nightmare for him, as she is not complying with the court order, so he is missing out on seeing his children. Good luck with everything.

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 4:59pm

shell_andy

He goes back on Thursday, but we obviously very worried about what she might say next! We have thought about contacting the police but dont have a solicitor so dont really know the bexst course of action!

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 5:24pm

sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Than does sound such a nighmare.

I'm sorry, but have no experience, and nothing to suggest.

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 8:12pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi shell_andy. You seem to have started two threads on exactly the same thing. Perhaps wait and see what happens on Thursday. He can go to court with the proof from the health visitor maybe?

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 8:47pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello shell_andy

The best thing that I can suggest is that you contact our Legal Expert (click) for some advice.Explain that there was always 50-50 care before.

What an awful situation. I do hope that you can resilve things, Another possible idea is for your partner and the children's mother to go to mediation. It seems that the problems arose when you were introduced into the equation. I imagine that the mum was worried, if your partner already had them 50-50 and there was a new lady in his life, that he may go to court for sole care, and she was trying to break the pattern.Not that that is any excuse for making false allegations but just trying to understand the process.

Posted on: February 5, 2012 - 9:06pm