Hey folks,

I'm 24, a single parent to a 4 year old. I escaped my abusive Ex over a year ago, tackled my bad credit (he used my name for all sorts), navigated the challenges, all the while keeping my job, and saving the money to move 300 miles to be in the office.

And I'm here. I'm in West London. I work full time, 5 over 7 days, we live alone, I singlehandedly pay for everything, and care for my toddler. I'm on top of my finances, doing well at work, my son is doing great in Reception and I've even discovered I like to cook.

But I'm incredibly lonely. I left my family back up North who see me when they can, I have great co-workers but none of them with the responsibilities of kids. My mood shoots up and down now the adrenaline of 'oh my god, I'm coping!' has stopped being exciting. I've put weight back on as it's more difficult to find time to exercise without the support net of my parents around.

I want to meet new people, create a life for myself outside of work, but I don't even know where to start. I'm a bit lost and lonely.

Posted on: October 14, 2013 - 7:59pm
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Silverlinings and welcome along.

Well done for your fantastic life change and how you have got back on your feet again and made a new start. Never, ever stop being proud of yourself!

However, I hear what you are saying, the dust has settled and you are thinking what next? Have a read of our article  Making New Friends (click) which is packed with tips and links to help you branch out and socialise again. As for the exercise, you could do some with your son and how about a pedometer so you can measure your number of steps every day and set yourself challenges. We could encourage you along the way. Or would you prefer an exercise DVD, or even a dancing one?

Chatting here on the boards could be a good step for you in the meantime but do read the article and try some of the ideas.

What sort of work do you do?


Posted on: October 14, 2013 - 8:20pm


Hi silverlinings.  

I do like the name Smile

Looking forward to getting to know you 

Posted on: October 14, 2013 - 9:38pm