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Hi all...
After recently having some health problems(none of which are life threatening) i have begun to think more about what would happen to my daughters who are aged 3 and 4.
I seperated from a partner and a man my girls became close to for 2 years and still have a lot of regular contact with, they call him and see him as dad, he adores them and visa versa.
They have contact with my mum and 3 sisters, but i dont always agree with their parenting methods or their life choices And have a very hot and cold relationship with them at best.
My question is: If anything happens to me could i do anything that would guarentee that he could take my girls and keep them full time??
I want to know that they will be safe loved and cared for and although we are no longer together and he isn't their biological parent, i feel that with him would be the best thing for them. I worry a lot as i imagine a lot of single mums do and just want to be confident that their best interests are taken care of.
They don't have any contact with biological father and never have.
I would really appreciate any advise, whether it be professional or from experience.
Thanks in advance.. Donna xx
Hi Louise, thanks for your reply.
Their father has absolutely no rights, he didn't even want to be named on the birth certificates.
He hasn't seen them except in passing when i was shopping in my supermarket and he didn't even bat an eyelid, if he wanted contact he could have it, my main concern is that they are placed with someone who would be a poor role model or would hurt them emotionally.. It literally keeps me up at night :(
Hello demondonna
I can understand you being kept up at night worrying about this i had this happen to me after a spate of ill health and being in and out of hospital, i probably would have recovered quicker if i had not been worrying about my children. You really do need legal advice and i would suggest that you click the links Louise inserted for you. Hopefully you will then be able to put your mind at rest?
Do let us know how you get on with it?
If he is not named on the birth certificate then he does not have Parental Responsibility and you can draw up a document nominating a guardian. Do email the legal expert though.
Hello demondonna
You can draw up a Guardianship agreement with your solicitor but the biological dad would be the first person considered, if he has Parental Responsibility. Read our helpful leaflet here about Guardianship and then once you have thought about how it applies to you, email our Legal Expert to check things out. I am glad you raised this as it is a matter that worries a lot of single parents.