hi im Chris. i have 2 boys Luis, 12 and Miles, 9.
i was married for ten years when it suddenly ended 3 years ago, i moved out and managed to scrape enough dough together to buy a small place close to the boys schools where there was enough room for them to stay.
The toughest part for me has been when she decided to move away 10 months ago, (better schools etc) its only half an hour up the road but i feel isolated from my boys and so lonely living the life of a single person when they are not here, i moved to this town for my ex wife and now i feel trapped here, i know nobody and i cannot afford to live where my boys do. making friends is so much harder as you get older, Lonliness is a horrible feeling and something that i have not experienced since a teenager.
so! time to start again, all i wanted was a family life. would just value anyones advice and tips for moving on (i do not want to get back with my ex) as it feels im stuck.
Hi Chris,
Yeah it's pretty lonely when you feel as you do. I found myself recently taking a long hard look at my life and I too need more friends! I know the ladies on here will be able to give you some advice, because when I mentioned how lonely I was someone poseted a link to 'making new friends' on one of my posts. Take a good look around the site I bet it's on here somewhere. Hazeleyes has some good ideas. :) x
Hello Chris
Welcome along! The making new friends article does have a lot of ideas in it; some of them are for people who have the children fulltime but there also some links and suggestions in it which could be things for you. See the article here. Don't forget that it takes time and you have to put in some legwork before you start to see results.
Hi Chris. Welcome along. Sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated. How often do you see the boys? It is sometimes lonely being a single parent, and like you say, it seems harder to make friends, the older we get. How about colleagues at work? Could you maybe see if anyone wants to go for a drink after work sometime? How about neighbours? Now the summer is here, maybe a bbq, and invite them over. If they have children, maybe when you have the boys over, you could arrange something?