Hello castera82 and welcome along to One Space 
Hello im new too, newly single, still in same house at the moment which is hell!!
2 kiddies dd4 and ds1. ex has a drink problem and recently found out he has gambled away ££££s!
Gutted is an understatement! he has 2 gilrs from a previous marriage 20 and 14, the 20 yr old moved out a year ago and the 14 yr old lives with us full time, feeling really stressed at the moment and could do with some support xxx
Hello Rosie78 and welcome along
Living in the same house, wow I did that for a few weeks and it was so hard, what are the plans re the house? Have you had some legal advice? You can email our own Legal Expert here (click)
In the meantime do also have a look at our article about single aprenthood which will help you think about the most important things to consider now, just click here to see it.
It must be very confusing for yout children too.Have you got any support from family and friends?
Hi Louise,
the plans are to sell asap and split any money 50:50, thats what re agreed to.
Havent had any legal advice as havent felt the need to yet, so far he been pretty civil and says he wants whats best for the kids. Havent told the kids anything yet, its pretty early days, once we put the house on the market we will have to tell them.
Yes thankfully i have my mum and dad close by, dunno what i'd do without them, havent told them the reasons we are splitting as i think may well try and kill him! Can do without the stress, she knows he's done something to really upset me. Have literally told my dad tonight.
Thanks for the link will check them out now. So pleased i found this site :)
Hi Rosie78 and welcome to One Space from me.
What a difficult place your in right now, good to hear that he is being civil about everything and that you have support from your family.
You may find that you will have to tell the 14 year old sooner, kids pick up on everything and if we don't talk openly with them about what is going on it can affect our relationships with them, you don't have to explain in detail the reasons your seperating just that you are.
Thanks Sally, he told the older girls yesterday. First i knew about it was the older one texting me will she still be allowed to see her little sis and bro! As if i'd stop her! 14 yr old probably just relieved as we dont get on very well these days as i have more strict ideas and standards than her dad!
im sure they all think im some kind of evil bitch! And when i text him saying thanks for the warning he said he'd also told his sister who im quite close to, well i thought i was, i hate the fact he is telling them our relationship has just come to an end.
Er actually this man is a drinker and a gambler and a selfish bastard! wont lower myself, would like to though!
Rosie78, we are glad you found us too!
Hold your head high 
Hi Rosie78. Just wanted to welcome you along too.
Thanks HE x
Hello castera, welcome along, perhaps you could tell us some things about you such as how long you have been a single parent, how many children you have and what's going on for you right now