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Had to "pop" into work. They're off to France tomorrow, so of course they're stressed. To be fair, I have been in and out all this week after my un-sacking. She got the wedding photos out that she'd got from the photographer, so we were looking through those, then she wanted help printing some off that friends had emailed. Quite a nice couple of hours really.
I'd asked the children to hoover and to give the dog some water. Of course, it wasn't done.
So I've blown up. I've pointed out that I have to go to work for my £20 (and to be fair, they've paid for eldest's driving lesson today too) as I have to buy shoes and clothes for them. I've spent about £130 this week on shoes and t-shirts (for the 14 year old. He's almost 6' and is still in clothes aged 13, and as he pointed out, they're far too small. I had no choice - ebay). The trainers they had literally are falling apart. I just couldn't wait any longer. I pointed out that no one else cares enough to make sure they do have decent shoes but me (tut, I know).
Poor Ben. He just stood by his bowl and drank. I'm so angry they didn't give him water - more so than the hoovering, which I've done now (inclucing the edges, which they never do anyway).
I also had a go at them for lack of decent birthday present too (£1 bar of aero). At least their father got big boxes of celebrations and wine gums.
I have a headache.
It is now over 3 years since they last stayed with their father. No wonder I feel flaming exhausted.
Sorry for moan.
(And this is just a moan, honest. I'm not upset or anything)
I'm not beating myself up.
I'm still yelling! 
and quite enjoying it!
I have a rotten headache and seeing more than half the scouts weren't coming this evening I've cancelled it!
HA! that's all I can say. It sounds to me as if that might give them a wake-up call. Teens will always take us for granted, that's their job, but it's ours to stir them out of their letheragy.
It might be time to start a set regime of jobs, or a contract with your half being cooking the dinner and giving them lifts and their half being...whatever you want. I know I can be draconian (
) but my 15 year old does the main pots every day and then every week he hoovers the whole house (yes he misses the edges out too!), washes the bathroom and toilet floors and tidies and cleans his bedroom.
Hope you are feeling wonderfully calm this morning, sparkling.......
oooo he's good!!
Possibly slightly calmer 
I don't know about him being "good", he kicked against it enough, I have just made it a condition of pocket money, that's easier when you have one, rather than four lots of bribes to dish out.
Hi Sparkling. I'm not surprised you're having a moan, I think I would have gone beserk. They are all old enough to do a bit of hoovering, and to give the dog a drink!!! Do you pay for their father's present? If so, I would definately stop that. If you don't, then again, they should give you a bit, (actually a lot) more thought.
I hope you're not beating yourself up over having words with them. Maybe they'll stop and consider you now. I do hope so anyway.
If I were you, I'd go on strike for a few days, literally do zilch, no dinners, no washing up, let them fend for themselves, lol