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Don't know if proud is the word as having children makes you see some words differently like love and stuff, but! he's very individual, I suppose they all are but mine are special :) He is very distinct when it comes to his appearance and adamant about what he wears. For school he has a pair or girls flared trousers and his hair is long past his shoulders and very thick and curly which he ties up in a bobble and then puts a head scarf over it, he is always being mistaken for a girl. I worry about this especially as he was about to start his new school and what with how boys can be with expectable modes of dress and what have you, I was concerned about bullying, that with the fact that he is mixed race in an exclusively white school.
But I was gently probing him last night about if anyone says anything about him wearing girls clothes and his (pink) headscarf and he said that yes they did but he told them what does it matter to you what I wear. Excellent!
He's really enjoying his new school, during the summer he was the banner bearer for the carnival queen, who along with her entourage are all in the top year of primary (year 5?) and they seem to have befriended him and his best friend, a quiet timid little boy. They are all there at the breakfast club in the mornings when I drop him off and seem excited to see him.
Since summer little girls have been shouting his name when ever they pass us around the village which has made him display a shyness I didn't know he had, it's kind of cute.
But anyway it all makes me want to hug him and tell him I love him, apart from the fact that he seems to have lost the ability to communicate in a clear and understandable fashion and just seems to mumble away incoherently, which I'm just assuming is that the onset of teenage ness?
I remember when I was a kid and my parents used to grab me and squash me and go 'ooohhhh I love you' and now I understand it's like when you just want to tell them how much you love them but words fail you. I love being a parent it's the best thing ever : )
Thanx alisoncam : )
Awww. How lovely is that?
it's so lovely when you seen their friends pleased to see them.
your son is amazing bubblegum! i think that is so brilliant, but Alisoncam is right, YOU brought him up to be like that, what a fantastic achievment 
Yes it is very much down to you. And it is already apparent how much girls like an individual. I think it is fab!
As for the teenageness, you are perhaps on the verge of it. I think the precursor to it all for us was not only the mumbling but the sounding indignant with various consonants ("Tuh!", "Pah!", "Cuh!" "Durr!" "Fuh!") every time the parent makes a pronouncement.
As you know my youngest is 16 and he is much taller than me but when he is sitting at the computer, I still sneak up and kiss him on the back of his neck, much to his horror. 21-year old is very kissy these days so no problem there 
I get a kiss off 18 year old before he goes out - even in front if his mates.
Not often I don't kiss him goodnight (I'm usually in bed before him - clearly I'm getting old).
Glad you still get kisses from you 21-year old!
Hi Bubblegum,
How wonderful that your son is such a confident little person. My ten year old cares deeply about his peers and would never have the strength to stand out from the crowd (I think I would struggle too to be honest). Well done to you
HelenT
Ta : )
This evening my daughter was doing her home work, she's six, and there was a list of ten words and she had to write a sentence with each word, one of them was 'see' and she wrote 'I see dead people' spelt perfectly correctly I might add.
I laughed, and still laugh when I think about it now, four hours later.
I expect social services will be round some time tomorrow.
:/
This may be the result of me ignoring age certificates on the films I let them watch.
Another word was 'right' and she wrote 'I am always right'
HA!
I've created a monster!
this evening she was prancing around the house in a spider man costume, one of those ones with built up muscles around the chest and upper arm, about three sizes too small for her, going 'look at me I'm strong'
: )
Sorry if I come across as one of those annoying parents that goes on and on about their perfect children... but unfortunately I am. (one of them)
Bubblegum,
You express perfectly what a parent feels about a child: the intensity, the contradictory emotions, the humour, the pathos as well. No need to apologise that you have a positive attitude to parenthood.
As for your daughter being "always right", you are training her well, heh heh
Thanx louise : )
They're wonderful. It's lovely reading all about them. And of course, it's all down to you... 
She could have 'physic' powers Bubblegum. I see dead people, hehe.
We had C's school friend yesterday. The Mum came to pick her up, and we were talking about the different homework that the two kids get. They are in the same class. Anyhow, C told her that he is in the 'clever' group, and L, her daughter isn't. They did used to be in the same group in the year below, but not anymore, she has been moved down. I found it extremely awkward everytime C announced that he was in the 'clever' group. The Mum got annoyed with him, and told him that it isn't nice to keep saying that, and it isn't a good trait to blow your own trumpet!!! Yes he is very smart, and I've told him plenty of times that it isn't nice to brag, but to have this Mum telling him, in a not so nice voice, was horrible to listen too.
The teachers have all told C that he is in the 'clever' group, so it's no wonder he says it. I'm delighted, but it obviously rubs others up the wrong way. Anyhow, I wanted to say something to her, but I kept my mouth shut. Then I felt awful that I hadn't spoken out. Felt like such a bad parent for this.
That's a difficult one, alisoncam.
I was always taught as a child "People won't like you if you speak about your achievements" so when my eldest turned out to be very academic, I wasn't really sure what to do, and I don't think there is an answer. He was in a special group as well and the teacher used to go over to their table and say "Now then my little genuises"...In the end I said to son that I was very proud of him and he should be proud of himself but we had to understand that some people would feel jealous if we talked about it too much (I guess the same way I felt when other parents went on and on and on about their exotic holidays abroad but I was more sensitive than them, lol)..anyway I am not sure that was the right way to deal with it because why should he have to hide his talent just because others are less gifted?
On the whole, we want our children to be proud of their achievements, not embarrassed by them. Plus, once L gets out into the real world, she will have to deal with people doing better, and worse than her. It is a bit like that Sports Day thing we were talking about the other week where they discourage competition. Tell that to Usain Bolt!
I do know what you're saying Louise. I shouldn't have been embarrassed by what C said, and I do feel that there is a certain jealousy. I did notice last night that the Mum said the previous teacher had told her that L was way above for her age, (I had been told that same thing in Reception)!!
I have been chatting to C about it, and found myself getting a bit cross to be honest. Bless him, it isn't his fault at all, just me seeing RED I think because of L's Mum's attitude, and my silence on it all. (shame on me). I've explained to C that rather than say he's in the 'clever' group, just to say he's in the 'top' group.
I have always told C that we are all better at something than others. He wants to be the best at everything, but I pointed out that L can draw a bit better than him, but that doesn't make him stupid or whatever.
The Mum was disgusted with the homework her daughter brought home, and another friend actually told me last Friday, that she rubbished it in front of L. Last night L was asked by her Mum how it makes her feel to have been put down a group, and L replied, 'I feel rubbish'!!!! Anyhow she is going into the school today, to get to the bottom of it.
I don't think there is a "should" or "shouldn't" with this one, alisoncam, don't be cross with yourself, it seems that whatever a parent does in this situation, it could cause problems. EEK! You explained the "different talents" thing to C very well.
Have to say I do not agree with your friend disparaging the girl's homework; better to just have a word with the teacher.
Am so proud of C. He is now a TTT, Times Tables Teacher. He's the first one in year 3 to achieve this. He is over the moon, and I'm so so pleased for him.
I've been playing congratulations, I'm so excited and I'm so proud songs to him. Think he thinks I'm mad, but...... Uhmmm, he could be right. We are celebrating with a glass of coke.
Hi alisoncam
Big congratulations to C on becoming a TTT i bet he is really pleased. Easy on the coke as the sugar might keep him up celebrating all night hehe.
Don't let the bubbles go up your nose!
Well done to C, that's fabulous news, he has done really well
Hi alisoncam
Well done to C 
What a wonderful acheivement, all credit to you both.
Enjoy your evening!!!!!!!!!!
Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou. Will get C to take a bow later, hehe. Just the one glass of coke, (me not daft you know, lol)
Hahaha!!! He well deserves some Coke.
So very pleased for him.
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Not only are you proud of your son, and daughter of course, but also you should be extremely proud of yourself Bubblegum. You have raised your children to have their own minds, and be their own person. Your son wears what he wishes, and doesn't bat an eyelid to what others think or so.
A follower of girls eh? Could he be taking after his Dad? I think it's so cute, he's a popular young man
Well done you.
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