HI, I'm new here - I'm 34 and a single mum to A my 3yr old daughter!!! I split with A's dad a year ago!! I say im single but I some how managed to get myself into a relationship with a guy that I work with that im not really sure I want to be in and now we are supposed to be moving in together in the new year!!!
It all feels wrong and I feel totally alone and can't really talk about this to anyone as they think im all happy and that....to make matters worse I don't think I will ever find anyone right and now all my friends are moving on and having second babies and are all happy and that is what I want soooooooooooo badly but I don't go out so not really sure what to do....I am totally losing the plot!!
Is there anyone out there in my situation? Can anyone offer any advice?
Aside from all this I am a happy person who loves to meet new friends 
Sarah x
Hi Sarah, welcome along to One Space. Can you not speak to your partner, and tell him that at this moment in time, you're not ready to move in with him. Perhaps say it's a bit early on in the relationship, and for now you just want to concentrate on yourself and your daughter. As for not meeting anyone right, your split with your daughter's father only happened a year ago, so it's not been long for that either. You've plenty of time to meet someone, and have another baby if you wish too. If it happens, it happens, if not, then you still have your little girl.
Please keep posting, as others will be along to welcome you. I look forward to 'chatting'.
Hello saralexa
Welcome aboard! There is lots of support and information here, as you will see.
It sounds as if you have been carried along on a tidal wave with this new relationship. You say you are not sure whether you even want to be in it and yet there is talk of moving in together. Of course you have your daughter to consider as well as yourself and this is one consideration which means you need to take things much slower. She has already seen you and her dad split up and for her to find your new partner living with you and then maybe not in the long term, as you are not sure about him at the moment, will be unsettling for her. I know it is tempting to go with the flow, especially as all your friends seem to be on the same tidal wave but stop and think about what you really want. It is also worth considering at this point whether you need to widen your circle of friends so you are not the odd one out if you decide not to go ahead.
Hope that you will join us on some of the other topics as well, take a look around the website and see what you think!
Hi saralexa
Best wishes with the decision ahead. I do feel you need to be certain of how you feel with things.
I'm sorry I can't help you here. While I did meet someone - who is still a family friend, in my case, life is easier with 'just' me in it.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Hi guys,
Thank you so much for all your responses, It helps just to talk on here about it and I can't really talk to anyone about all this other than one friend who I don't see as often as I used to.
The thing about this guy is, if I actually did really really like him he would be so good for me and he cares so much for me and he loves my daughter and she loves him and I am more scared of breaking them up (if you see what I mean).
I am also very scared of being alone, unfortunately my ex (A's dad) screwed me out of a lot of money so when we split up I had to move back in with my parents whilst I am sorting it all out....which I am finding VERY difficult as its not the ideal situation I want to be in!!!
Don't be scared of being on your own, saralexa, it is one thing that can propel us into relationships which are not good. Best to learn to enjoy being single first, and a parent and then look for a new partner when we are healed and no longer "need" a partner, as such
Hi saralexa. Can you not continue the relationship without actually moving in with him. Perhaps you're rushing things too, now that you're living back with your parents. It's not an ideal situation, but it won't be forever will it. Your little girl can continue to see your partner too. Being on your own isn't scary at all, although if you never have been, then perhaps its a bit of the unknown isn't it? Like lots of things, you do get used to it.
Happy New Year to you and your little girl.
Thank you, I know you are all right and that I need to face my fear and embrace it but I jus feel like I need to build up a lot of confidence before I can do this as I feel like a failure for still being at home, for splitting with my daughter's dad and therefore failing her in not having a proper family and for not being able to take control of my life properly....aaaarrrgghhh......I know I need to sort it all out and hopefully I will soon!!!
Happy new year to you all as well xxxxxx
Hi Saralexa, Happy new year and welcome to One Space. Im sure you will find lots of support here. Cant really comment on your relationship problems, as Ive not long had a break up. I sometimes feel the 'fear of being alone' if im honest, but at the moment Im concentrating on myself and just see what the future brings.
S x
Hi Sarah
Welcome to one space
It is great here, you will receive lots of support and will find that someone will always answer you, might be the day after if its late but you will receive an answer.
I havent been in your position, well not in the same way and it must make it more difficult as you work at the same place. Do you have family support, brothers, sisters, mum, dad that you can talk to and be honest with as to how you feel, you say all of your friends appear to have exactly what you want, maybe they would want what you have if you asked them, its strange isnt it that we always seem to see others as having the perfect life when in reality noones is perfect is it?
I do hope you will find a way to work through this, do keep posting lots of people will be here over the next few days and will offer lots of support and ideas.
xxx