eddysooza

hi. i am in the middle of a separation with my girlfriend, she has moved to Portugal with the kids.

I had a holiday booked for all of us to go to South Africa in February, I was going to propose to her.

She will no longer be going on this holiday I have spent thousands on.

I need to get away and clear my head from all this.

I would love to take the kids with me. she is the carer of the kids and she live in Portugal, I live in london and miss them very much.

she has just decided to end our relationship. this has shattered my heart knowing that I was just about to propose to her on our holiday.

Can I take my kids with me? i know that is IF ask her. she will say "NEVER".

I need some advice please?

Posted on: December 13, 2011 - 12:05pm
Sally W
Online
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi eddiesooza

Welcome and i am sorry to hear that your relationship has ended and left you in pieces, especially as you were going to surprise your ex with a proposal and a holiday!

It's never easy when a relationship ends and these things take time as the saying goes.   It is good to hear that you are going to go away and try and clear your head, i am not sure where you stand on being able to take the children with you if you click here there is a link to our legal advice expert who should be able to tell you where you stand on this.

Lets us know how your getting on?

 

Posted on: December 13, 2011 - 12:49pm

eddysooza

thanks Sally.

it is very sad that my relationship has turned out this way. I had amazing future plans.

She is going through a lot of stress with the move to portugal but why end the relationship?

i have asked her so many times. she just tells me she needs space and time.

that obviously means she no longer loves me. she admitted the love she felt in the beginning is no longer there. she still loves me but its not the same? what does this mean?

thanks for the link, going to have a look at it now.

 

Posted on: December 13, 2011 - 1:00pm

Tinkerbell2
DoppleMe

Is she the legal guardian? If so i believe u can't take kids without her permission as u were not married, this is what I was told by my lawer...u will need a letter with her permission signed by her,,,,,I'm not 100% sure on this but this is what I'm told as u can be done for kidnap

Posted on: January 3, 2012 - 7:17pm

Tinkerbell2
DoppleMe

Did u not get holiday insurance which covers u if u can't go?

Posted on: January 3, 2012 - 7:31pm

Sally W
Online
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi eddysooza

How are you? did you contact our legal advisor?

 

 

Posted on: January 5, 2012 - 12:18pm