Hi,
Newly separated and in need of a bit of support. Crumbling today as ex promised we (me and our 18 month old daughter) to still go on holiday next week as planned after splitting early june. He is going to take his 3 children from previous marriage with him as also planned. He's also taking the three on hoilday in august to france and spain but me and lo not allowed to go anymore on that either which I have accepted but thought 5 days in devon would be a good thing for everybody. We agreed about that but also agreed to work on going on holiday as G won't see her brother and sisters or her dad for a long period of time.
He has now said that he has other influences governing his decision but can't help but feel that the biggest influence needs to be that he gets to spend some time with his daughter.
Feeling awful as when we split, my main fear was that G would miss out on holidays etc which he assured me that she wouldn't. How do I get over this feeling
Hi
It is unfair, you're right. Unfortunately, you can't really make him be fair either.
At the moment though she's too young to realise what she's missing out on, and perhaps as she get older he may include her more in his plans.
As hazeleys suggests though, focusing on doing things with yourself and your daughter will help.
It such early days for you at the moment. It is such a horrible time.
With my lot they have seen their father get married abroad and have holidays abroad, while he spends very little time with them. Also, their step-sister (who's 20) posting on face book how she's spending time with her mum and step-dad. My lot are 19, 17, 15 and 12. Only my eldest knows about this as he is 'friends' with his step-sister.
Loads of hugs coming your way. I know none of this is easy. Thinking of you.
Hi jstar, what a shame, it sounds as though you were looking forward to getting away.
Do you know what the other influences are that are governing his decision??
Hello jstar
Unfortunately, you cannot force your daughter's dad to show proper interest and although it is sad and unfair that you and your daughter are no longer having the holiday, there isn't anything you can do. I agree his children should be his priority but once again we can't dictate this to someone.
It's particularly hard as the split is so recent, things that were "promised" have not happened and that feels very hurtful, not just to you bus also to your lovely daughter. It does get easier, I promise.
In the meantime, what can you and your daughter do? Have a look at this thread where we suggest fun and cheap things, and also at Local Info, where you can see if there are events near you.
And see our Family Fun section! 
Hi jstar. Welcome along. Sorry to hear you've recently split. To be honest I'm not sure on this one, as I've never had trouble with holidays with son's sperm doner. It is unfair, when he already said that you could go to Devon, I suppose the good thing is, your daughter isn't really able to understand that her Dad is letting her down. There isn't an awful lot you can do though is there? Are you able to take a holiday with just your daughter and yourself? Even days out to the park, etc.
Please keep posting as others will be along at some point during the day.