hi just thought id say hello and introduce myself . i'm a single mum to 4 teenagers
.yes 4 lol.... im new to single life after seperating from my partner of 20 years recently ...advice would be nice 
xxx
Hi gabby70 and welcome along to One Space from me 
Was there something specific that you need some support with gabby70?
There can be a lot of practical things to deal with at the end of a long relationship, housing, contact, money to name but a few and on top of that we are also dealing with our own emotions and our childrens.
Do you want to tell us abit more about yourself and your young people? Do you have boys/girls/mix of both? Do you have family and friends that are supporting you?
Look forward to getting to know you
Hi Gabby, welcome... I joined a week or so ago and surprised how much support and kind words are her as well as the fact I can share some of my experiences and help others. I have a 7 year old son and have been on my own for the last 5 years. I posted a forum " he wants my son at Christmas " and wow... What a response from some of the strongest women I have "met". I am sure no man be as much of a challenge as 4 teenager Lookfreeware to hearing more from you.
Hello gabby70 and welcome
Four teenagers, wow I think you can pass on some tips to us! How is day to day life, are your children very different in character?
hi everyone thanks for your welcomes . im still ajusting to single life so much to sort
and 4 confused children to deal with . its not easy !!!
i have 2 girls,2boys my youngest girl is finding things very difficult at the moment
dad doesnt have much contact and when he does its usually to have a go at her .... i havent sorted maintainance yet and not recieved a penny since he left....he took most of my furniture (bed,tv,washer,vac ) not replaced them all yet .sleeping on settee and money very tight with xmas just around the corner ..
sorry im rambling could go on forever lol :)
Hi gabby70, I am sorry to hear of you rrecent separation, it is such a painful time, not only dealing with our own emotions, but heart wrenching to see our children go through the hurt and confusion too.
I have just uploaded some Books for our Older Children that you or they might find useful.
I am wondering if you would consider having a family meeting to reassess your new situation as a family? Treat everyone as adults, cook something nice and then say that you want everyone to say one thing that they feel since the family situation has changed. Although you can't 'fix' their confusion, but at least if they are able to air it and share it, it will lighten their load.
What do you think? How close are your children to one another?
hi anna , i have tried to organise this for friday evening . its difficult gettin a day
when everyone isnt doing an activity lol . my children are close ,argue like any brothers
and sisters do but i dont think they have spoke to each other about how they feel ...
Hi gabby70
The family meeting/activity sounds like a great idea, maybe you could call it "family time" and that would make it sound more relaxed when you speak to them about it?
I see that you have some pratical things to sort out. Is their dad going to pay child support or is he being obstructive? have a look at this website
Have you got everything you are entitled to moneywise? Do you work? If so do tell the Working Tax Credit people. There will probably be a furniture place that helps people with secondhand stuff in your area. Get in touch with your local Citizen's Advice Bureau to find if there is one.
I'm new - saying hello
Hope i've posted in the right place though...: )
Hi shadowmancer. Welcome along. I see you don't have clothes on hehe. How old are your children?
Hi Shadowmancer welcome to One Space from me
Hi gabby70.
I've been on my own for over eight years now, after splitting up after 20 years of marriage.
Wouldn't change a thing. My lot are quite old now though at 13, 16, 18 and 20.
Looking forward to getting to know you and hoping that we can offer some support, advice and laughter along the way...