hi im Laura. been a single mum for nearly 3 years now. how's everyone doing?
hey im fine thanks u? its great but i do get lonely. most of my friends left when i was pregnant, i only have 2 good friends left...sad i know! and family dont help out at all i do everything on my own.
i have a daughter she's gonna be 3 in january wouldn't change her for the world but she can be a right hand full! lol
nice to meet ya 2 and how about you?
Hi Laura A.
Nice to meet you
Thats a shame that your friends left while you were pregnant, I know how it feels to lose friends because of it. Glad you enjoy being a mum. What do you like doing for fun or when you manage to get that special "me" time that we all love to have
They are a handful at that age, but you also have to laugh at they way they manage to wriggle their way out of trouble with their cheeky smiles and all.
hi, yeah its sad but at least i found out who my friends really were.
i mostly read and try to relax but it doesnt work most of the time im usually too tired so end up going to bed lol
yeah haha how about you?
heya, thats true, its better to find out now rather than later. at least you know who you can call on when the goigngets really tough.
Yeah i like reading to, as for relaxing, thats out of a window completely, i do like doing puzzles as well as long as LO is not around to dismantle it and give his cheeky grin afterwards.
lol how old is he?
Hi LauraA, welcome along and I like the pic you have chosen.
Being a single parent is really tiring, isn't it? Is your daughter starting nursery soon?
Have a look at our fun thread The best thing about being a single parent 
Hi laura, Hes gonna be 3 in november, so is close in age to your LO. brilliant age still for them
Hi LauraA, I too like your avatar, especially your daughters dress
Does your daughter attend nursery at all? Do you get any time when you are not responsible for her?
hi, thank you.
it sure is! no not yet shes turning 3 in january but probs wont start til april for the 15hours free
thanks x
hello, thank you.
not yet, and shes with me 24/7 so no break for me unfortunately. feel like rubbish most of the time :(
Hi Laura A. Just wanted to welcome you along. Do you have plans for the weekend?
hiya thank you. gotta do some food shopping and if the weather's nice gonna take my daughter park. how about you?
Sadly Laura, I really need to catch up with the cleaning. Very neglected lately I'm afraid!! I can stand so much mess, then I go crazy, hehe. Won't take me long though, just a small flat, and then if it is nice, might get in the garden.
lol i done all my cleaning today so got the weekend lol yeah garden sounds great after a nice clean :)
Let's hope for a bit of sunshine then! It's very breezy here.
LauraA little ones are very tiring and you will probably feel you just want to collapse when she finally goes to bed. Is she ok with a bedtime routine?
she does have a routine i put her to bed at 7.30 but she gets out of bed n wonders around the flat so i have to put her back over and over again and she don't settle till about 10ish but would wake up around 2am because 'her bed is messy' then she will get up at around 6.30ish every morning and the day starts all again! she also has a temper on her and doesn't listen to me most of the time. i just dont know what to do anymore :(..........sorry for the long reply
Aw it wasn't a long reply, I was just wondering if you were having broken nights as well, that can make you more tired, and bring you down, too.
It sounds like you are doing the right thing, keep putting her back, after all if she thinks that getting up wins her an extra play or watching tv then it is definitely worth her getting up again. When you say her bed is messy, do you mean it is wet or that the sheets are scrunched with all that wriggling around?
What do you think about you staying sitting in the doorway on a seat, so you are in sight when she has first gone to bed? You have to be the most boring person ever though, during that bit of time, think of a phrase sich as "It's bedtime now" and no matter what she says or does or asks, that is what you say back. And if she drops off then you can have a bit of time to yourself. Do you think it's worth a try? (I think it's good to try different methods till you find what works....and also when she gets to nursery she might be more tored...let's hope!)
yeah it take me a few hours to get to sleep, by the time i drop off i have about 2-3 hours and she's up again.
just all the wriggling around she does but i've explained that its ok if it gets messy and she seems to understand but still does it :s
i have done all of that but nothing seems to work. i keep the landing light on like she asks me as well.
i was also wondering, if you have any idea that is, if you know when a child can be diagnosed with ADHD? i looked on the internet and she has most of the symtoms but didnt wanna make an app with anybody then they tell me shes too young and that its normal
I don't know the answer to that one....but I would be inclined to have a chat with your Health Visitor and see what she says.
Hi Laura. Welcome
ok thanks Louise :)
hi vinnieJ. thank you :)
Hi Laura A
Generally they don't assess children for ADHD until they are older unless their behaviour is really problematic, once she starts nursery they will let you know if they think there are any issues like that and they would support you in getting referred if that were the case.
My youngest had issues going to bed and staying there, we have tried sticker charts, that worked a couple of times and then we did rewards/treats, we have bought her a special bear that looks after her when she goes to sleep, i found keeping her busy with lots of physical actvities worked well, i have also tried numerous other tactics over the years eventually she just got used to her routine and started going to bed without alot of fuss.
Hi Laura A, how are you? Single mum for 3 years, you are an old hand!! Are you enjoying it? What are your favourite bits?
Do you have a support network of friends and family around you? How old is your child/children?
Sooo many questions! Just be nice to get to know you!