Well hello everyone.... im new to this so dont really know what to say.... im a single mother of a little girl whos 1 iv found it very hard the past year with no help from her so called father! From the time i found out i was pregnant he was telling me to get rid of the baby or he would do something about it. I was getting messages off most of his family and friends calling me all sorts of names he was telling me he wanted to me around then he didnt..... then on christmas day i gave birth to my little girl he then started phoneing me again telling me he wanted to see the baby so i gave him a chance no show.... He done this to me about 10 times before i put my foot down.....He phoned me drunk saying he was going to come up my house and smash me up infront of my new born daughter...... Now hes expecting another baby dosnt pay a penny for my daughter so i decided to take action im gonna come down on him like a ton of bricks just need to know what path to go down...... Thats about it x
Hi scarletthollie and welcome from me too.
It sounds as though you have been really hurt and you are looking for retaliation. You want to come down on him like a ton of bricks? I can understand that, but don't bring the baby into it.
I do think the 'other' parent should contribute to raising their child, however this service shouldn't be used as a retaliation tool it should be used for what is right and central to the being the wellbeing of your daughter.
I also know from personal experience that bringing in CSA in the middle of a dispute can bring more trouble than its worth. I would consider holding off contacting them until you are feeling stonger, less angry with him and when things have calmed down.
At this point you need your life as calm as possible for you and your daughter not rattled and angry.
I agree with Louise, it is not ok for your ex to talk to you like that and you should seek legal advice.
Hi,
Have a look at the freedom program it is on here and it helps, well helped me with an emotional abusive relationship that still carries on to this day.
One thing my ex yelled at me was he was never going to pay child maintance as that wasn't important. I didn't at first claim, he said that unless I left him alone then things wouldn't get easier, in fact he would make my life much harder and I should not be going after him but thinking of the children.. Which was funny because I wasn't going after him at all, but trying to work within the spirit of the court order that he got and for the best of our children.
In the end I found with the help of the freedom program, course, book and support and with his actions that it didn't matter a jot what I did or didn't do. He would wind himself up to being mad at me and using the kids or whatever he could to justify his behavour. Which was totally unjustifiable.
So I very scared went to the CSA and oh my god found out for the first time how much he really makes and it is a hell of a lot more than me. He even told them he wouldn't pay, so they automatically started proceedings, which I think has worked because now I have had some money coming in. okay he is trying to make life hard again. But he was going to do that anyway.
I will keep this in documents and I will keep being reasonable and when I need it I will have the evidence that I need to defeat his charm and lies.
Well done you suneagle, it sounds like you have been through so much, but you are growing and getting stronger, high five! 
Hello scarletthollie and welcome to One Space
I presume you are talking about obtaining child maintenance, see this page
The threats that he is making are completely unacceptable.Have you spoken to the police? You need to look at obtaining some sort of order against him for non-harrassment. Ask our Legal Expert (click) for some advice
Have you got support from your own family?