Hello all.
It was lovely to find this forum, it seems the place I/She needs to be right now.
I am writing in the name of a dear friend, before she can come online herself, just bringing research into what to do next a bit ahead.
She has been left by her (non-married) partner this morning, leaving two little ones without a permanent dad. One of them is his and the other one is a well loved accident from earlier in life.
The most pressing issue right now is that of child care. She is a student nurse with not much time left on her education but the grandparents of the ex usually take care of both of the wee ones during the working day. If that support ceases to exist she will have to give up her education, which is her one big chance to make a difference to her and her kids life (no parental support from her side), she is very committed to her area of work, wanting to go into old peoples care once done.
She is of course devastated by what has happened and I am trying to keep a momentum on the changes that are happing to her/their life's.
I'll send her to the Citizens Advice Bureau asap but in the meantime - could one of you come up with some child care help of your own experience?
Thanks for thinking!
Andi
Thank you so much! Those are the pointers needed!
I do hope that the grandparents keep up their engagement with the wee ones, but their son has been hurt along the way, it can end up both ways I guess… I do hope that they have that sense of human compassion though.
Andi
xxx
Hi appeland
Sorry to hear about your friends circumstances, but thankfully she has such a good friend in you.
I think that hopeful has given you some great pointers, your friend could try the local family information service or benefits office to see what they would recommend, another thing you can do is check in the local library for a directory of grant/funding bodies.
Welcome aboard!
A fellow student nurse, huh? I get lots of help with finances, but my children are all older so childcare is not an issue.
Tell her to go to her student support officer and ask what can be done. Also the student union might be able to help.
She might be able to maintain a good relationship with the grandparents though? Has she spoken to them? If I was a grandparent, I would hate to be just stopped from seeing my grandchildren! :-)