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Hello, I have just joined onespace, i hope i am welcomed.


Happy to join onespace and I hope to get to know some people in time. I am happy to be called, Carol or Kaz for identity safety, I am sure people are aware of fraids. Anyway I am Kaz to some and I answer to those names. About myself, I had been married to a man whom had been abusive and a bit cruel. I left him in, January, 2000, having no job and no money to live on and a little boy to care about and I had to run a car.

 Luckily I had my parent to help me to cope with some issues with my ex husband whom wanted to see his son, I had no problems with that, though he was rather stubborn. I have been doing a course, for 2 years, for once a week to study my literacy 2. I would like to make some new friends that are helpful and supporting. I like music and going to familiar places, and I just want to make friends with various people.



Posted on: January 22, 2011 - 8:40pm
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello and welcome to OneSpace!!!

If you have a concern about identity then you can change your user name, would you like to do that?

How are you coping these days? it must have been a hard thing to do, to start again with nothing even though you did the right thing to get away from an abusive relationship. Glad that you had your parents to help you.

Have you enjoyed the course you are doing?

This is a very friendly site so please feel free to join in any of the threads.

Posted on: January 23, 2011 - 9:36am


Hi Kaz

Great to see you here.  Looking forward to 'chatting'.


Posted on: January 23, 2011 - 10:33am


Hi Kaz. Welcome to One Space. It's a great site, very friendly and supportive, so you've come to the right place Smile I'm pleased you have your parents for support, that must be a godsend for you. Well done also for leaving the abusive relationship. Look forward to 'chatting'. Take care

Posted on: January 23, 2011 - 10:48am

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi kaz

When does your course finish?? Do you know what you would like to do afterwards?

Posted on: January 24, 2011 - 6:21pm


Hello, All

Thank you for the replies, I had a struggle for a few years, with not many friends and I could not get back into work. It is hard for many people to get their lives sorted out. Yes, I am grateful to my dad and my step-mum, whom has been a lovely mum to me. I had lost my real mum in 2002, having died from cancer, after her two cancer treatments that had drained and shattered her body and will power. 

I have found a happy stable new life, living in W for 6 years, 19th March 2004, I had a council house in W, near B and the woodlands and a stream. Its lovely in the summer, go off for walks. I like reading and doing cross-stitching and making jewellery and playing my Hi-Fi, listening to many various musics. I did have 2 guinea pigs, though I had lost one to old age, at 8 years and 3 months old my old boy guinea pig past away, on new years night. I have another boy guinea pig Jordon and a big dark brown/black/tan rabbit named Tom, they are both lovely and friendly pets.

My course I am on at Focus 4, has been a great help, my tutors are supportive and are very friendly. I got great news to tell, I had passed my Literacy Level 2, at the score mark, 31/40. I will get my certificate in 2 weeks time, I can't wait!

I am going to study on the IT on the computer, on my course at Focus 4, with my tutors.

I am wondering if I would ever find a new relationship, with a man, aged between 38-42 years, somebody that is tidy in any dress fashion, that likes music, going out places and has a good sense of fun and bits of joking and humour and could be loyal to only one other person. ???

I always felt that I would not ever meet any men, that I would partically would fansy, I always felt that men would judge a woman, before they knew what the woman was like. I found it hard to talk to men and to evan be a friend. I had a few boy friends in my life, but it never came about to ever getting past a serious relationship. Why is that?

I do admit, though that I had suffered abuse at a boarding school and I was 10 years old, a lad used to abuse me, I was always punished for doing something wrong by the lady staff, though I think their punishments were too severe, they always used to blame me for doing wrong, though I don't recall ever doing anything wrong. I was a shy and silent kind of a child. It had affected my confidence in such a great profound way, that it still affects me even now. I have been to a councilor, I am having counciling with a RoSA, a sexual abuse support helpers, which is helping, though I think it will always be in my life, would I be able to live with it for all my life, and would it affect any relationships that I ever do have with someone?. 

Yours sincerely.


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Posted on: February 24, 2011 - 1:54am


IT is a good way to go, and I'm sure you'll enjoy the course.

I can't comment on relationships, as I feel in my circumstances I'm better off remaining single.

It's good to know that the counselling is helping, but so sad that all of this happened to you.


Posted on: February 24, 2011 - 12:13pm

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi karenjones

Firstly I would really like to ask you to change your username, for confidentiality reasons, go to the top of the page and click on My Profile, then click on the Edit tab and input a new name. (Don't forget to click Save!) 

Have you heard of the Freedom Programme? I think you would find it very informative, interesting and useful for future relationships. 

Posted on: February 24, 2011 - 12:22pm