Hi Everyone.
My names Wayne
Only done one post before for advice on seperation from GF of 12 years last week as very new to this. Had great advice already thank you all that replied as it was a bit of a long post. I have a lovely little DD of 2 years . Hopefully in time things get easier.
So just saying a big hello to everyone on this forum and making me feel not alone anymore.
Hi Louise
We had a fantastic time thank you, she made me make a record amount of tea with her playset as the weather was not great but it was time well spent.
Hi Wayne. Glad you had a great weekend with your little girl. Am sure you both had great fun making tea etc. Was she ok when you dropped her home? How are you?
Hi alisoncam
Going to teach her to make coffee next as she is getting really good. DD was fine when i took her home but i made a booboo with GF by asking more questions as i just can not get the 3 reasons out of my head. I was really trying not to say anything but seeing her brings everything back how good things were if only she could get past her feelings now so i feel like i have taken 5 steps back again.
Joined the gym at weekend so have induction tonight so will focus my attention on that for a while.
Well done on the gym! That will be a really positive focus for you.
I know it must be monumentally hard not to say things to your daughter's mother...but you have seen that at the moment it does not good, so do try and bite your tongue 
Let us know how you get on at your induction tonight, I am guessing they will devise a programme to suit you?
Good luck with the gym. It is difficult I know, but try and bite your tongue as Louise suggests. Hope you enjoy the induction.
Hi Louise & alisoncam.
I know you are both right.
I really am trying to bite my tongue when i see her but everything at the moment just reminds me of her. Like scraping the frost of the car this morning i would normally do my car and then GF car so when she goes to work it was all done for her but i guess she will have to do this herself now. It is the little things you do for someone that you love so much that i am struggling with as she is an amazing women and mother that i just wish could just try and get past her feelings now as she knows before what we had and she was fine then.
The gym induction went well so am looking forward to going 3 times a week at least. They will put together a programme for me which should be good. It will give me something to focus on as well as DD.
Hello Wayne
That's why I suggested you could go to counselling on you own to give you an opportunity to talk through your feelings, as I know it must be very difficult.
Glad the gym went well 
Hi Louise
I know you are right again i should see someone i guess i am just living in hope that the phone will ring and it will be GF wanting to try and get things back the way they were.
I really hope that it will happen Wayne, but you should also think about if it doesn't. Think about, maybe, how long you're prepared to wait in hope. Saying that though, it still is early days. What I'm trying to say is, think about you, because like others have said, you're also important.
Hi alisoncam
I know I can not wait forever you are right. I must start to think about me more I suppose over time that will get easier. I just seem to take 1 step forward and then 5 backwards but that will get easier as well in time i suppose. Just starting to dread christmas already but i guess will have to deal with that when it comes round.
Special ocassions are always a challenge, sadly.
The first two Christmas's I invited their father to join them for dinner - and he did. Whether it would be possible for you all to have a Christmas day together though, I don't know. Just a thought...
Hi sparklinglime
I would love that to happen but at the moment i would find it to difficult unless things change in the next month with her feelings . May be Christmas apart might help.
Hi Wayne, yes over time it will get easier. It's perfectly normal to take 1 step forward, and 5 back. Have you made any arrangements for having time with your little girl over the xmas hols? I'm guessing that it hasn't even be spoken about, as you're still wishing that things will come together for you and girlfriend, and she is still very confused over her feelings. I'm sure though that xmas will work out for you all, as the main thing is that you and her are on good terms. Both of you want what is best for your daughter.
Do you have family close by? (sorry if I'm repeating myself!)
You repeat yourself Sparkling???
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Hi alisoncam
No arrangements have been made yet but i have her on weekends and xmas falls on a weekend but when GF asks I will let her decide what she wants to do. I would not keep DD away from GF over xmas as i would not want her to do that to me .Just hope we will be under one roof but that is just me hoping .
Hi sparklinglime.
Both sides our family live within a 5 mile radius of us so that is o.k..
We are in the process of preparing an article about Christmas and particularly those times when you may be separated from our children so hopefully that will be posted on the site before long and we can let everyone know
One thing I have learnt over the years though, that children are happy to have two celebrations...
Children are just generally happy, generally. What we brood over for days quite often takes them a few minutes, mine anyway tend to just worry about what I'm not letting them eat and what I'm making them wear.
: )
I am glad you feel that you're not on your own so much now.
Did you have a good weekend with your daughter?