Hello everyone:)
I joined the site after a long consideration as officialy I'm not single yet. However I feel like a single mum since my baby girl was born. I have one child, wonderful girl who is my all world at this moment. My partner after his 2 weeks of the paternity leave withdraw from our live and escaped into his work and projects which keeps him away from home for the most of the week. When he is not at home, he lives in the hotel paid by his company. On beginning I accepted this status quo. Than I started to finding out about parties and about new friends I never heard about. I stopped trusting him as I noticed he is lying to me about his time away from home. I'm not proud of it but I started checking his phone. I discovered that he met a girl 10 years younger than me and it seems like he is quite serious about her. I haven't found yet enough courage to talk to him about it. Mostly because I know it will be the end of our relationship and I'm very scared of it. I don't have anybody to talk about it. All friends and family think we are happy. I'm working part time but I'm strongly depended of him financially. I started to read of my rights as a single parent. Would I be able to give my child a live she deserve?
Kasia78
Hi kasia78 and welcome from me too 
I am sorry to read you are having a difficult time, you must be feeling very upset.
I echo everything Imdoingthis has said, great words of advice.
Have a look at this article Help I'm a single parent, what do I do? to help you get started.
You can and will get through this, the rest of us on these forums have managed to!
I know you have said that friends and family think you have the perfect life, but is there anyone you can confide in?
I very much believe you can give your child a life she deserves and there's no reason why you carnt
It is scary the thought of leaving him but in my eyes it would be more scary not knowing and trusting what he's up to possibly behind your back honey although I can see why you have put this off, you can do it if you want to I did it and lots of other women have too.
I think you could do with finding out what your entitled to money wise, who's house is it?
I'd do the above before you talk to him personally but at some point you are going to have to confront him and I'm guessing with you putting this off it's something you'd rather not do but if you arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can your in a stronger position, I don't want to push to far into this as Im not sure your at this point yet but need to mention your acomadation ( i don't know your situation regarding this)
Finally I'm sure this effecting you and you need to give thought to how it's effecting her too children pick up on things and in my opinion she's better off living without this in her life and if your happier then there's no doubt that she will be.
What a fool he is
We are here to listen I sincerely hope you come back to us x